It is amazing how much time couples spend on quarrels that will not advance their lives in anyway.
Each spouse stubbornly insist on his own right. They refuse to bulge and give in to each other.
My husband and I had a few doses of our own times of stubbornly insisting on our own.
Of course we only look back at such times and laugh at our stubbornness.
Those times, I will be hurt and my husband will be hurt that I was hurt. I will in turn be more hurt that he is hurt because I was hurt and that he couldn’t come to rescue or beg me.
How childish! This can go on for days. I will sulk and have a pity party.
I know of a couple who because of their different backgrounds had a fight because they will not listen to each other.
The husband told the wife to pack out of the house in a moment a anger tantrum. The wife also angry, left the house before she could be stopped.
To the dismay of the husband who doesn’t say sorry, his wife packed out with everything including the children and the house help.
The husband was heart broken. The husband was not patient and the wife too was ready to call off his bluff.
The wife was a stubborn Choleric. The husband tried calling her severally to no avail.
Thank God for the prayers of both parents in intercepting what could have turned out to be eventually a separation.
Lesson learnt is that the couple should never stubbornly hold on to their rights.
This story could have turned out a more terrible one because when we are angry, we become blind to other things.
A whole lot of things could have gone wrong in the time the wife was away. She was away for close to three weeks.
She had a health condition that makes her faint during pregnancy. Any thing could have happened to her.
What if the husband got another woman pregnant at that time?
The ‘if’ are numerous.
We can both be right but one person has to be matured enough and let the other person win for the sake of peace which is more important.
Think of those precious times couples waste! It’s just a time wasting exercise.
Together but not together.
And that is what the devil wants. To make our fruits drop before they are ripe.
To have no fruits for our labour and no benefits at all for being husband and wife.
When the bible says one will chase a thousand and two will put ten thousand to flight.
Lets ‘fight’ with common sense! Gbam!
Don’t give in to your flesh. The flesh screams so much for our attention.
‘How could she treat you like that’? She doesn’t know who you are…?
He thinks I am a lady to be treated anyhow? I will teach her/him a lesson. I won’t talk to him.
And the list goes on and on.
As couples, let’s try and walk in the spirit for that is the only time we will not gratify the lust of the flesh.
So walking in the spirit is walking in love? Oh yes, it is.
That’s why marriage is for two forgivers. To forgive is very spiritual.
God bless your marriage.
God give us strength to overlook our spouse’s fault and short coming.
The marriage will move forward that way. We will experience miracles and God’s help.
Confession of the day
I am not stubborn. We lovingly submit to each other.
Prayer of the day
Lord, help us to walk more in the spirit that we may not gratify the lust of the flesh.
Thought of the day
Amo 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
Be submissive one to another
Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.