My Dear, Will You Be There For Me?

My Dear, Will You Be There For Me?

Up until very recently, I was pouring out my heart to one of my dear best friends (yh I have about three… take it or leave it… lol).

I was lamenting on why I feel I did not have the capacity to carry out a particular task and how I just wished the cup will pass over me. But the reply was ‘keep doing it… You are good at it’!

There and then it dawned on me that ‘wow, this can be related to how God wants a relationship to be like’.

Who are you in a relationship with? Is the person an encourager or one who pulls down?

Can you be sure to admit your mistakes around him/her and you won’t be hearing it from your neighbors?

Is the lady the kind of woman who will tell the whole world how you are not able to buy her Brazilian weave just because you had a misunderstanding?

Is the guy the one who will tell his friends all he has been doing for you just because he asked for something you could not give him at the moment?

James 5:16 (NLT) says Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.

Is that individual unable to carry both the weight and the glory that comes with the ‘you’ package?

Will he slap you at any slight provocation?

Will she lock your shirt at any little misunderstanding?

Will he shout you down in public or use your own scar to abuse your entire generation? You know the kind of insult that even your ancestors in the grave will say ‘haha?’

Will she defend your honour with her family members and her friends?
Now do you know the most important thing God wants for us in our relationship? It is that we be an extension of heaven…a place where He comes freely to fellowship.

When you are at your lowest ebb (those times when you are finding it difficult to pray, study your bible or even be motivated to do anything at all), will he/she be there for you?

Is your partner your prayer partner or your prayer point only? Can God say ‘don’t worry son, it is settled…your spouse discussed it with me yesterday’
Will your partner be able to stand in the gap for you?

Will he be able to echo the voice of God (the lover of your soul) back to you?

Will she be able to say to you ‘we are coming out of this because this is what the word of the Lord says’?

No doubt the Bible encourages us to be strong but even Moses had a Joshua to hold up his hand in time of war, Paul had a Timothy, David had a Samuel, Barak had a Deborah and even Jesus had Moses and Elijah comfort him at a very crucial moment of His life!

Psalms 42:7 (NIV) says Deep calls to deep in the roar of your waterfalls;…
So who are you allowing into your inner circle? Don’t let mere feelings blind your eyes… Eve was not just flesh to Adam, she was also bone to him!

Much more than the container, what is the content? Who are you in love with or better still what kind of lover are you too?

I am a man/woman of substance to my spouse

Lord help me to build capacity to grow deep in you

You cannot give what you do not have. What value do you have?

are you still of the opinion that relationship/marriage is just child’s play? What are those things you think you still need to work on?

James 5

Which Marital Architectural Design Is Yours?

Which Marital Architectural Design Is Yours?

The Oxford Dictionary of English defined an architect as a person who designs buildings and in many cases also supervises their construction OR a person who is responsible for inventing or realizing a particular idea or project.

Hebrews 11:10 says For he was looking forward to the city with foundations, whose architect and builder is God.

Nothing just exists by itself. It is made by something or someone. Relationship is one of those things. It is more spiritual than it is physical.

How do I mean? God is the creator of all things and He said everything He made is good…this includes your relationship and marriage.

But one good thing about Him is that asides from just creating, He also supervises and sees it to the end!

So no matter your level of prowess, academic hierarchy or skill, you can’t know it more than the creator even if you don’t care about His opinion.

Some people build their relationship on sex, some on money, others on physical appearance or mere feelings while some on such mundane things like tribal connection. You know what? Those kind of relationships can never stand the test of time.

Be sure God is in that relationship. Know it. Don’t put the foundation by yourself or with your limited human wisdom and then come back to meet Him to help you patch it. Ko le werk (it won’t work)!

The only way it will work is to bring down the whole thing and start building up again because if a foundation is faulty, it is just a matter of time before it starts crumbling. So how do you build right?

Jude verse 20 says But you, dear friends, build yourselves up in your most holy faith and pray in the Holy Spirit.

Yes in this building project, you and God both have a role to play. As you build, (praying in the Holy Ghost), He is supervising, ensuring you don’t put cement where you should put water.

He is ensuring you don’t ask Sade out, when it should be Sube. He is seeing to it that, you don’t say yes to Tunde when it should be Suberu!

2 Timothy 1:12 (KJV)… for I know whom I have believed, and am persuaded that he is able to keep that which I have committed unto him against that day.

God keeps. He alone preserves completely. Don’t give Him a part of your life and leave out the remaining. Don’t say God cannot understand romance. Who told you? Jehovah El-romantic Himself! Just let go and let God.

He is that architect that won’t take a consultation fee from you let alone follow up money.

This is the reason why your own relationship will still be waxing strong after 40 years unlike those that would break even before the 3rd month.

Just give God yourself in all totality. He is worth the investment!

I invest wisely. Jehovah is my designer architect.

I will not leave God out of any aspect of my life in Jesus’ name

Can you boldly say you have God’s backing in the relationship you are in or the one you hope to have?

Spend quality time building the home of your life in the Holy Ghost


The Yoke Every Lover Must Bear

The Yoke Every Lover Must Bear

‘But mum you can’t talk to me that way, I am an adult’…

Jessica was shouting at the top of her voice. She was angry because her mother told her to go to the market for her on her way back from work the next day.

She refused, saying she was going to be tired and that her younger sister should go instead.

Her Mother: it is you I want to go

Jessica: I will soon go to my husband’s house anyway, then you will stop disturbing me

Jessica’s mum: is that the way you will be behaving in your husband’s house or is that the way you would reply your mother-in-law?

Lamentations 3:27 (AMP) says It is good for a man that he should bear the yoke [of divine disciplinary dealings] in his youth.

Listen to what the message bible says in Lamentations 3:27

It’s a good thing when you’re young to stick it out through the hard times.

Truthfully, many of us youths want to run away from certain disciplines that are necessary for our lives.

We sometimes think that our parents, pastors and spiritual fathers are too hard on us. But you know what, no matter the level of knowledge in the world today or the level of sophisticated technology, God’s standard cannot and will not reduce.

Now is the time to fast. Now is the time to pray. Now is the time to volunteer. Now is the time to read that book. Now is the time to take that job. Now is the time to learn that skill. Now is the time to spend your energy and time on that which profits. Now is the time to say no to sin.

You don’t want to be doing the wrong things at the right time. Neither do you want to be doing the right things at the wrong time. Some don’t even have right or wrong time.

Please, don’t gamble with your life now that you are still ‘young’. It takes a whole person to work out a relationship. It takes a person who has built up capacity to stick it through marriage.

Don’t run away from challenges. Face it and conquer. You are a victor. You might be the reason why someone out there is still holding on. Don’t give up just yet. God is counting on you. Your generation is counting on you. Your children are counting on you.

Have you seen some old people do certain things and you are wondering what they were doing in their younger days? Though motivational speaking has tried to make them feel they can do anything anytime but really, there are some things that can be too late.

Don’t let the young ones use you as a negative example to learn from. Be a positive inspiration. Don’t gamble with God and play away your destiny. Say no to sin and stay focused on God!

Things don’t just happen. They are made to happen. Make things happen in your own time!

Proverbs 24:10 (NLT)
If you fail under pressure, your strength is too small.

Finally remember that your spouse is going to need that strength of yours someday. The Bible says iron sharpeneth iron. Don’t go into a relationship to become a liability. You want to be able to add value to the younger generation when you are older too.

Remember that you cannot give what you don’t have.

God bless you.

I am not a liability.

oh Lord strengthen my weaknesses

do you tend to run away from things that challenge you?

be willing to enlarge your capacity

Proverbs 24

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Dear Future Spouse, It’s Also Bae To Have A Good Work

Dear Future Spouse, It’s Also Bae To Have A Good Work

Happy New Month! This month will grant unto you all the good in it in Jesus name!

Ecclesiastes 9:10
Whatever you do, do well. For when you go to the grave, there will be no work or planning or knowledge or wisdom.

Lately in church, pastor has been teaching us on fruitfulness and on Sunday, I learnt that you cannot even be talking about being fruitful if you don’t have a seed in the first place.

One of the major areas where God has called us to be fruitful is our marriage. But just like you need a seed to germinate to produce a fruit, what is in your hand is a big determinant of your fruitfulness.

What is available to you at the moment? Is it time, bread, a smile, a kind word, an ability to intercede, a song, a vocational skill, a word of wisdom, money, etc?

How best are you willing to make those things multiply? What if it is that your ability to encourage people and genuinely put a smile on their faces that your spouse is going to be needing?

Realize that this single phase of your life will be over one day. Another phase will come in. Make this phase count.

Be a better version of yourself today than you were yesterday.

No marriages in heaven. You either enjoy your marriage or you enjoy it o! At least that’s what I plan to do. But that cannot be possible if one is a liability.

Read books, try new godly stuffs, meet new people, learn new skills, (there is nothing wrong with a guy knowing how to cook, neither is it a crime for a woman to learn how to drive a trailer…lol), make yourself available for kingdom service, love God like crazy, engage in spiritual exercises, be emotionally intelligent, learn how to tolerate people, be open to new ideas while still maintaining your godly standards, be financially smart, learn the principles of honour, fire up your prayer life (relationship is not jamboree) and so much more.

Phillipians 4:13 (AMP)
I have strength for all things in Christ Who empowers me [I am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him Who infuses inner strength into me; I am self-sufficient in Christ’s sufficiency].

Singleness is so much fun only if you plant your seed well. And you know what? That seed can eventually become a tree. Selah!

I am going to enjoy my marriage whether the devil likes it or not!

Holy Spirit, teach me all things that I need to know.

Are you making maximum use of your singleness?

I have a teachable spirit.

Phillipians 4

You Know That One Thing That God Can Never Do?

You Know That One Thing That God Can Never Do?

A group of young people were having a discussion and one of them said ‘I am done with this relationship and marriage thing sef… Maybe it isn’t meant for me’.

Another one said ‘I think God just decides who He wants married or not. Let me just have a baby daddy and I am OK’.

Proverbs 23:18 (AMP) says For surely there is a latter end [a future and a reward], and your hope and expectation shall not be cut off.

That one thing that God will never do is to disappoint His children. There is never a man who is on God’s side who can say God has disappointed him or her. See, God knows you have needs, He knows you have expectations…

For instance, people are expected to get married at a certain stage of their lives. So that it is not happening now does not mean it will never happen.

Psalms 138:2 (NLT)… I praise your name for your unfailing love and faithfulness; for your promises are backed  by all the honor of your name.

Now the question is are you a child of God? The above passage says ALL of God’s promises are backed up by the honour of His name. Meaning if you want to be sure of results, it has to be on the basis of God’s promises alone. And how do you know His promises? It is through his WORD!

Job 33:8 (NLT) “You have spoken in my hearing, and I have heard your very words.

One of God’s weakest points is speaking His own words back to Him. He can’t resist it. That husband is in the word. That wife is in the word. Those children are in the word. That job/promotion is in the word. That house or ministry is in the word.

Numbers 14:28 (NLT) says Now tell them this: ‘As surely as I live, declares the lord, I will do to you the very things I heard you say.

The only wicked thing you will therefore do to yourself is not to allow the word of God dwell in you richly.  

Don’t let the devil cheat you. Even if it doesn’t look like it, keep saying those words.
Go back to those things God had told you in the secret place.
Hold Him by His word!

However like I said, it is only children that can accurately say their Father’s words. Are you truly a child in the kingdom or you have grown wings? Protection Status
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