For your marriage to work, both spouse must be committed to it.
No matter how you try to involve a third party or get counsel from a spiritual head, it still leaves you with the responsibility of working out your marriage.
At a point in our marriage, hubby and I were so preoccupied, house chores were heaped up and the house untidy. Several times, we tried to fix the house, we could do but little because we gave more attention to other things.
At some point, we called for assistance to clean up the house but we realized that as relieving as it was, the person could not do everything as desired- there was restriction to our inner chamber which needed attention as well.We made out time and determined to clean up the house even when it was not convenient.
The Holy spirit used this scenario to teach us basic principles that makes a marriage work.
Help is good, seeking counsel is not out of place either, but it is your sole responsibility to make your marriage work!
“Lady wisdom build a lovely home, Sir fool comes along and tears it down brick by brick (Proverb 14:1 MSG)”.
It takes a Lady wisdom and Sir wisdom (not sir fool) to make a successful marriage.
And wisdom in marriage can be displayed as;
1. When both spouse decide and determine to work things out in their marriage. You must know the needs in your marriage and be ready to pay the price!
2. Commitment to your spouse and your home which builds your marriage.
3. Don’t rest responsibility on your spouse, marriage is team work and your best team mate is your partner.
The spirit of marriage has never outgrown love, sacrifice and dedication. Best marriage is an experience of two determined lovers not two married people.
Your marriage will continue in its state of rest (where and when you stop building) until an external force (wisdom, commitment, sacrifice, determination…) impacts on it.Your marriage will be as beautiful, peaceful and organized as your heart is.
Little wonder that the Bible says: as a man thinketh in his heart so he is. You don’t have to settle for a scattered marriage when you have what it takes to make it successful. Just a little more and a little more effort will fix your home.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a blessing in my marriage!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY. Lord, I receive grace to build a joyous and victorious marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Proverbs 14:1 (NET) Every wise woman builds her household, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.
As I meditate on this devotion, I kept asking myself why would Jesus defend a woman caught in adultery: a sin with such a grievous consequence (stone to death) by the Jewish law.
But, Jesus said, let he who has never sinned (in other words, he who has never fallen) throw the first stone…surprisingly, they all slipped away one after the other until no one was left to judge her (John 8:7-11).
It doesn’t matter where you failed or have fallen. Don’t allow that voice of condemnation rob you of God’s love and forgiveness.
Don’t allow that evil/shadow of the past tie you to the past. Jesus told the woman, “…didn’t even one of them condemn you”? No Lord, she said. And Jesus said, “neither do I. Go and sin no more”.
Prov. 24:16, “For the righteous falls seven times and rises again, but the wicked stumble in times of trouble”.
Don’t allow the mistake of your previous relationships rob you of your future celebration.
There is forgiveness with Jesus. Irrespective of what has happened, let the past live in the past. God has a reason for permitting that fall, that loss, that rejection, that hurt.
God wants to use it to hasten your rising and miracles! You have a future and a hope. You have to beat that fear, that stigma, that status…
What God intends to bring out of your moments of falling is victory and testimony! You must rise above that situation. Don’t allow it destroy your glory and hope. The biggest disaster do not prove to be a permanent setback!
You may have suffered a complete loss of what you hold dear, however, such a loss is never actually complete at all, for righteous people rise again even after falling seven times.
How many times have you fallen? You can rise again! Say this to yourself ;I arise from my guilt and shame. God has a plan for my future I have hope in God : Christ in me my hope of glory!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY: My past is a stepping stone to my victory.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY: Lord, I overcome every power of my past holding me back.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY: Arise, shine, for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord has risen upon you. (Isaiah 60:1,ESV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Face your fears and fight it..
To wait on the Lord means to wait for His help, that is, to trust in Him; to put our hope or confidence in Him.
“But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint” (Isaiah 43:31)
Waiting for the Lord is to expect, look for, and hope in Him. Waiting is costly but, the good news/joy there is that, it’s always worth it! There are moments in life when you ask, “why do I have to wait/struggle for major achievements in life?
Why I’m I not married yet?
But, I want to announce to you that waiting works perfection in God’s children!
One of the greatest sacrifice we can ever offer for our breakthrough and testimony is WAITING.
Truth is, man is always in haste.
Recall, Eve was to much in haste to eat the forbidden fruit (“the woman saw that the tree was good for food…”, Gen. 3:6).
She did not remember the instructions God gave them.
Abraham was too much in haste to lie with Haggar.
Esau was too much in haste to eat the porridge. Acts 1:4, Jesus gave this command to the apostles, “…Do not leave Jerusalem, but wait for the gift my father promised”.
Are you still at your point of waiting, for that godly spouse, career breakthrough, financial enlargement, and a lift in your ministry? Or you have hastily left for other alternatives that cannot give you “The promise”!
One of the divine guidance of God over his children is leading them in the lane of waiting.
Waiting for God requires patience and faith in God; believing that He will give you what is due you. There is nothing as profiting, perfecting, beautifying, equipping and encouraging as waiting on God.
Job declared boldly, “…All the days of my struggle I will wait until my change comes” (Job 14:14).
Waiting is a choice! You can choose to wait and have the best deal with God or boycott and have your own deal.
God’s deal or your deal which one is better? There is power in waiting!
I like the way KJV puts it, “But they that wait…” (Isa. 40:31). See, waiting is not for everybody. Waiting is for those whom God has anointed for the uncommon, unusual blessings and miracles!
As a single, I had my moments of waiting for my miracle husband. And to the glory of God, God gave me my miracle husband!
I had a miracle wedding!! I am still enjoying a miracle marriage!
Notes From Pastor Dunamis:
The beauty in waiting is that you get to get the best of God at the end. For 27 years, I waited. No sex. There were pressures.
There were traps here and there. But God helped me, I refused to compromise, with the help of the Holy Spirit. At the end of the day, God gave a beautiful family. You can have yours as well.
This is not about new year resolutions or setting goals, it is in embracing the finished works of Christ and allowing the Holy Spirit yo help you. As waiting singles, we sometime bring self inflicted delays and sometimes it is just about family issues.
However it is, they can be dealt with. This is the more reason for MARITAL BREAKTHROUGH PROGRAMME which begins on 1st February. God will give you the victory!
Your wedding will be a reality. It is 28 days of purging, cleansing, deliverance, prayers, adjustments, belief system, activating covenant, destroying curses and positioning yourself for that boo or bae in the Lord!
Find out more about it and how to join. We’ve had registrations from around the world already and it will soon close. Find out HERE or click button below.