The Dirty Dozen Husbands And Wives Should Avoid

The Dirty Dozen Husbands And Wives Should Avoid

1. Refusing to pray together as husbands and wives

Believe me, this is not a nice idea. Learn to pray together. Pray daily. Stop throwing tantrums at each other, learn to pray together. As the saying goes, the couple that pray together, stay together.

Ask yourself, why have we not been praying together?

Why can’t we start now?

2. Quarreling day in day out

Hey, is that the purpose why you got married? To be quarreling all the time? So when do you get to enjoy each other.

Ask yourself, what exactly is the major cause of these quarrels?

What have the constant quarrels added to the family?

How has it impacted on the emotions of the children?

3. Being moody most of the time

Do you know the Bible advises you to be happy and to rejoice always as a couple?

Proverbs 5:18 (KJV)  
Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

See Message Translation:

Proverbs 5:18 (MSG)  
Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man!

Ask yourself, why am I moody all the time?

Why am I unhappy in my own matrimonial home?

4. Disobeying your husband

Some wives do this for several reasons.

It is anti-productive. Your husband is your head. That is never going to change. And you are to submit.

It doesn’t mean you don’t have a say, it just means you honour him by allowing him to have the final say.

Being rebellious to your husband, either directly or in a subtle way will hinder your prayers and tamper with the protective edge on you. It will be as though the powers of evil are triumphing over righteousness. There is no point.

Ask yourself as a wife, why do I find it difficult to honour my husband with obedience?

Could there be a seed of rebellion lurking somewhere?

Ask yourself as a husband, am I making it difficult for my wife to honour me?

Have I taken very wrong decisions in time past that landed the whole family in problems, for example, debts, financial mess etc?

Well, go over these and meditate.

Address the questions.

Try and get to the root of issues.

I will continue on this topic tomorrow.

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I love my spouse and we are in agreement.

Lord, bind us together in your love.

Proverbs 5:18 (AMPC)  Let your fountain [of human life] be blessed [with the rewards of fidelity], and rejoice in the wife of your youth.

Discuss lovingly with your spouse. Every time you keep quiet and assume, trouble is brewing.

John 17

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How To Know If Your Lover Is A Leader Or A Boss

How To Know If Your Lover Is A Leader Or A Boss

If you marry a leader, you are are blessed!

If you marry a boss, it’s like being in a box!

How do you know a leader lover and a boss leader?

The role of a husband is a dynamic and a skillful one. It requires a lot of wisdom and tact.

A husband is supposed to be the head of the house, but he is not supposed to be the wife’s headache!

The eyes are located in the head, so the family is supposed to see through the husband/father.

So when the husband is not seeing rightly or correctly, he can cut down his wife and children, maim their productivity, stifle their expression, mute their sound and kill every fibre of creativity in them.

Remember the man seeing men as trees?

Don’t mistakenly give him a cutlass.

Mark 8:24 (KJV)  
And he looked up, and said, I see men as trees, walking.

A boss leaders shows his tool of trade from the very day you fall in love with him.

He monitors you to a point that monitoring spirits realize they don’t know their work. They need to come and learn.

You can hardly breathe.

You must report all your movements. You are not yet married o!

He has charge of your ATM! He controls your finances. He calls the shots and you are not yet married.

Do you know there are families of many years in marriage and it is still the husband that writes the list of items to get in the market and the change must be complete afterwards?

I am a counsellor, so you better believe what I am saying here. I lie not, this happened. I was as surprised as you are right now.

That is not only a boss husband, but also a boss father!

A boss lover is a threatened fellow. And he shows it to you from the very beginning.

A boss husband would rather suffer financially than allow his wife to do well financially than himself.

He would discourage her from improving herself all because he doesn’t want a wife that is well read or would learn more than him.

What a selfish, myopic and sadistic way of thinking!

But it is a reality!

The lover you are not married to that is already punishing you for coming late?

The lover you are not married to that already told you to cut off all your friends?

The lover you are not married to that you are already cooking and packaging food for on a daily babies and sometimes at the expense of your own work?

Some people need to borrow themselves brain o!

The lover you are not married to and is already telling you not go to church and prayer meetings?

The lover you are not yet married to and he is already insisting on jeru trip without considering that he is violating your conscience and desecrating the institution of marriage?

The lover you are not married to who is already singing and sounding in your ears that he is the head of the house? Which house? That one room?

The lover you are not married to and you already have sleepless nights and you are downing tablets everyday?

The lover you are not married to and you are already into serial abortion? And all he has to say is that he is the one paying for it?
Whose body? Whose womb is in danger? Who goes through the trauma? The guilt?

The lover you are not married to and you are already a dry-cleaner, washing singlets and boxers every weekend? Hiann!

I can go on and on.

But I will advise you, be careful with a boss lover!

And sometimes, in an unbelievable twist of events and reversal of roles, it is the lady that is the boss leader!

Yes, I joke not! You should equally be careful of bossy ladies, for that will lead to frustration few years after walking down the aisle.

Control freaks are not nice people.

I think I should stop here, but I believe you already got the point?

I pray that God will direct you, order your steps and your stops in Jesus name!

Psalms 119:133 (KJV)
Order my steps in thy word: and let not any iniquity have dominion over me.

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I am led of the Holy Spirit

Father, help me identify that person for me.

Psalms 119:133 (AMPC)  Establish my steps and direct them by [means of] Your word; let not any iniquity have dominion over me.

Take an honest inventory on your relationship

1 John 1

How To Send Spies Into The Life Of Your Lover

How To Send Spies Into The Life Of Your Lover

Spies? Ha, Pastor! Which one is this again?

Spy Bawo?

Are we now going to join SSS or FBI because of love?


Two days, back I wrote about what to do when you are in love with a snub. I want to continue along that line, albeit with a twist.

You see, one of the most dangerous things on the planet to do is to marry a stranger!

It is suicidal!

The mistake we often make is to think once jeru trip is involved, you know the person!

I want to submit to you that you can have jeru trip outside marriage a million times and never know the person you are locking legs with!


Let’s go deeper!

But pastor, the scripture says Adam knew his wife and the next thing is that they begat!

Genesis 4:1 (KJV)
And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the LORD.

Does it not mean that jeru trip makes you really “know” a person? Yes, jeru trip means knowing the other person, ONLY IN MARRIAGE!

Every compromise outside marriage, the scripture never used the word “know” or “knew”

The scripture used the word “lay” or lie” rather!

Few examples:
Genesis 19:33 (KJV)  
And they made their father drink wine that night: and the firstborn went in, and lay with her father;

Genesis 34:2 (KJV)  
And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her.

2 Samuel 11:4 (KJV)  
David sent messengers, and took her; and she came in unto him, and he lay with her; for she was purified from her uncleanness: and she returned unto her house.

Okay, that is enough.

So we establish, jeru trip will not make you know anybody! The person only gets to know more demons! And that is not really nice.

My dear daughters on KHC, keep yourself. Forbid any hands sliding into your blouse. And keep your hands from diving into any trousers.

Run away from the anal and the oral. It is not only sinful but despicable and derogatory, dirty and with spiritual connotations.

The primary use of your mouth is to declare words of life and then to eat food, not to be sucking… if you know, you know.

So, jeru trip will not make me know him or her. So how do I know this lover since I shouldn’t marry a stranger? How do I send spies?

The first occurrence of the word “spy” is in Numbers 13.

Numbers 13:17-19 (KJV)  
And Moses sent them to spy out the land of Canaan, and said unto them, Get you up this way southward, and go up into the mountain:  [18]  And see the land, what it is; and the people that dwelleth therein, whether they be strong or weak, few or many;  [19]  And what the land is that they dwell in, whether it be good or bad; and what cities they be that they dwell in, whether in tents, or in strong holds;

Message Translation:

Numbers 13:17-19 (MSG)  
When Moses sent them off to scout out Canaan, he said, “Go up through the Negev and then into the hill country.  [18]  Look the land over, see what it is like. Assess the people: Are they strong or weak? Are there few or many?  [19]  Observe the land: Is it pleasant or harsh? Describe the towns where they live: Are they open camps or fortified with walls?

They were asked to observe the land, not to go and desecrate it.

They brought back the fruit of the land as samples, not to go and plant something there.

Find out whether he is open or he is a wall. Spy!

If he is open, after marriage, your destiny will open up. Your career will be enhanced. If he is a wall, you will be stopped.

Everything will stop moving.

You travel to that land by traveling into his mind. It is conversational, not sexual.

It has nothing to do with the body. No kissing is involved. A spy never starts kissing the person he is meant to spy on!

How many people are you going to kiss before “You may now kiss the bride:”

Haba! Shebi it’s just kissing. Okay, ask Jesus about the kiss of Judas.

Oh, Pastor, I have gone far.

No “far” is too far for God. You can always return.

You can start all over. Let God give you a fresh start. Cooperate with God for I can tell you, after twenty years in marriage, it takes God all the way.

On my next write up, I will still go deeper.

May God bless your relationship!

May God send help your way.

You will not be confused,. You will not be disconcerted. My God will help you. You will rejoice at the end. Make up your mind!

No more compromise!

No more, not me!

Yes Lord!

I am wise. I am not careless.

Lord, help me to “stand” for you

Numbers 13:17 (CEV)  Before Moses sent them into Canaan, he said: After you go through the Southern Desert of Canaan, continue north into the hill country

Decide to stop all sexual relationships.

Numbers 13

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What To Do When Your Lover is A Perpetual Snub

What To Do When Your Lover is A Perpetual Snub

It can be painful.

It can be hurting.

It can be debilitating, degrading and reprehensible depending on the degree of the snub moves.

It is one thing if you are not emotionally connected or you don’t feel any deep thing, but what do you do when you so passionately love a snub!

The word “snub” means is “to rebuff, ignore, or spurn disdainfully.”

It also means to deliberately ignore or treat rudely.

So, here you are so much in love with this guy or lady who is a snub.

Here are few things to note:

Do not ignore the attitude!

If indeed you intend to marry such a person, you cannot afford to turn a blind eye to the situation.

You don’t enter a land without observing it first!

Numbers 13:19 (MSG)  
Observe the land: Is it pleasant or harsh? Describe the towns where they live: Are they open camps or fortified with walls?

Wedding will not make it better or change anything. In fact, the snub acts will go to the next level because of additional pressures that come with marriage.

Pressures and a lots of stress come with marriage, okay!

Here is how apostle Paul puts it.
1 Corinthians 7:28 (MSG)  
But there’s certainly no sin in getting married, whether you’re a virgin or not. All I am saying is that when you marry, you take on additional stress in an already stressful time, and I want to spare you if possible.

So. when this stress adds up with an unrepentant snub, it can really get out of hand.

So, you cannot afford to ignore.

The issues have to be confronted and trashed.

Why is he being snobbish?

Could it be he is disinterested?

It is not a nice feeling to love the one who does not love you.

It’s a time waster, a destiny distraction, a dissipation of both spiritual and emotional energy.

Could it be she is never in love with you but doesn’t know how to tell you because of your too many gifts?

Now this topic is deep.

The first thing is not to live in denial of this attitude either as the giver or receiver of the unpleasant attitudes.

Marriage is two friends who genuinely love each other coming together.

A marriage where one loathes the other perpetually will not last.

A marriage where one party makes all the efforts at making the relationship work, while the other looks on and keep giving excuses will not last.

Nobody should use temperament as an excuse! No matter how how much of an introvert you are, when you are with the one you love, you will naturally open up. You will talk, laugh together, and all that!

You are not yet married and you are already being manipulated with silent treatments, disrespectful attitudes and the likes, so what is going to happen in marriage?

You see why you need a lot of counseling and orientation?

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Too many people get into relationships without even knowing the purpose!

Every man and woman has a need to be loved, appreciated and praised.

You cannot keep using a bat on your lover’s head and expect all will be well.

So you sit down and talk about this issue.

So, that it won’t just be that you have been in love with yourself all along..

How beautiful is it when two friends who love each other come together?

How terrible is it when one is making the pursuit while the other disdains and rebuff every good action?

Why is it like that? Find out?

Are there parental dysfunctions?

Is there a past abuse that brought emotional and attitudinal damage?

Is the person incapable of showing and receiving love because she is closed up? Why is he or she closed up?

That you are constantly locked up in the legs in compromise all the time does not mean there is love or you will eventually marry. Sexual compromise deceives! It gives you a feeling that you are intimate but you are not. It is an illegal intimacy that opens up to demonic oppressions.

Is the guy just hanging on for the benefit of jeru trip while marriage is never in his agenda?

Those are pertinent issues that must be trashed.

I should be able to write more on this in the coming days, because I have not even started yet.

But we stop here this morning!

I pray for your relationship, may God help you in the very area where you need Him in Jesus name.

You will not be confused.

God will help you indeed.

Be blessed.

Meanwhile today is a special day o! 1996, on this very day, Pastor Sophia said YES to me, and she IS STILL saying YES! Hip hip hip…

I have a pleasant spirit

Lord, take every animosity away from me in Jesus name

Numbers 13:19 (CEV)  and if they live in open towns or walled cities. See if the land is good for growing crops and find out what kinds of trees grow there. It’s time for grapes to ripen, so try to bring back some of the fruit that grows there.

Write out what your lover appreciates about you. If you don’t know, ask him or her.

Proverbs 11

Discovering God’s Purpose For Your Life Part 2

Discovering God’s Purpose For Your Life Part 2

A recap from last Sunday’s message

Sermon Note – Shouts of Grace Center, 10th March 2019

Seven Principles of Purpose
1. God is a God of purpose.
2. God created everything with a purpose.
3. Not every purpose is known.
4. Where purpose is not known abuse is inevitable

Now to today’s message

5. To discover the purpose of something, never ask the creation, but ask the creator.

  • Jeremiah 33:3

6. We find purpose only in the mind of the Maker.

Our purpose is not found in the mind of our parents, they may be able to guide you, but your precise purpose is in the mind of your Maker.

Exodus 9:16

Not knowing purpose is a time and destiny waster because you are not focusing on what matters.

Your fulfillment and prosperity is in your purpose.

Finding out purpose doesn’t mean you just jump out and start, there must be a season of learning, you must be willing to learn from others that have done/are doing the things in line with your purpose.

If you are not the type that can stomach insults, you will not go far in life.

Elisha and Joshua had to learn from Elijah and Moses respectively. Humble yourself to learn.

Learn all you can learn

Your purpose is a personal discovery and you have to consciously walk that path. No one can discover it for you.

7. God’s purpose is the key to our fulfillment

Proverbs 19:21

It is what God has created you to do that will prevail.

Rev Dunamis Tunde Okunowo

How Do We Discover Purpose

1. What are your childhood dreams and desires.

2. What excites you or releases your passion.

Whatever your purpose requires is in you.

Having a sense of purpose makes you responsible.

It is only when you focus on purpose that you become responsible.

3. What do you do easily or naturally without stress.
Purpose is powerful

Be focused and give yourself self development.

It is only when you focus on purpose that you become responsible.

Rhythms of Grace, Shouts of Grace Center

4. Where do you bring forth fruit or produce result the most.

5. Inward witness.

This is the leading of the Holy Spirit from within you.

6. What do your friends see in you.

Ask sincere friends – You know a friend is sincere when he/she can confront you.

7. Do you have stubborn thoughts and dreams?

8. What will you commit your whole life to if money is not an issue.

9. What is it that if you make up your mind to do, people will rush to help you accomplish it.

10. What are your hidden dreams and desires

Sunday, 10th March 2019
Topic: Principles of Purpose Part 1
Ministering: Pastor Dunamis Okunowo
Venue: Shouts Of Grace Center

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