Like the word clearly represents, it is the unstable state of the minds which has to do with unpleasant expressions of the countenance.
Our moods are generally how we feel, expressed on our countenance. It usually has its root in unpleasant thoughts going on in the mind.
These thoughts could be a feeling of animosity, anxiety, jealousy, hatred, strife, anger, a low self worth, unhappiness, etc
These feelings must always have someone or something as the object of animosity.
What happens is that the devil controls the mind or thoughts of the individual, feeding him/her with all sorts of negative thoughts and then controls the moods.
The person is usually not happy or excited about life or anything.
He/she is busy finding faults, criticizing, getting hurt and usually, these are done internally.
The danger it poses to marriage is that all the productive ideas of this person is reduced to zero.
If it is the husband, then he losses the ability to be an effective head providing leadership for his family. He finds it hard to love his wife.
It is impossible to love and be moody at the same time.
In fact, it is impossible for him to, because he is busy in a struggle with himself and his thoughts are focused in the wrong place.
The same thing happens if it is the wife that is moody. She loses the ability of an help-meet and becomes as rottenness in the bone of the husband.
A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.
A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones.
Moodiness is a thing of the heart. Actually, it is a sickness of the heart, which translates to rottenness of the bones.
With rottenness, there is no movement, no progress, no victory. Every form of advancement is halted because there is a rottenness of the bone.
Moodiness actually eats up the bones gradually.
It is an attempt of the devil to ground the glorious destiny and make the person unable to fulfill purpose in life.
If you know you are given to mood swings, know that it is an attempt of the devil to snuff life out of you and reduce your potentials to zero.
Mood swing can be demonic and must be handled with all seriousness.
Here are steps that will help you deal with mood swings
1. It can lead into sin. The instability of the mind can lead to unwise decisions.
2. Denounce all forms of attachment to any demonic strong hold in your life causing mood swing.
3. Stand your ground against the devil causing the mood swings.
4. Avoid situations that fuels these negative moods.
5. Nip mood swings in the bud before it becomes full blown.
6. Use God’s word as a weapon to combat and deal with mood swings.
7. Rejoice in your victory and take practical steps to guard against moodiness.
It is important you deal with this as it has tremendous and adverse effect on marriage.
God bless your marriage
Confession of the day
I have victory over mood swings. I fulfill my destiny.
Prayer for the day
Lord, I ask for the help of the Holy Spirit in dealing with mood swings.
Thoughts of the day
Pro 14:30 A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones.
Take the steps to dealing mood swings in marriage
Psa 34:11 Come, ye children, hearken unto me: I will teach you the fear of the LORD.
There is a calling of God on our children. It is a call to come and learn at His feet. It is a call to know Him more.
The fear of the Lord is to be taught to our children by God Himself. When God Himself teaches our children, no one can mislead them. The most important word in this text is ‘come’. Until they draw near to God, they cannot learn.
Declare this: My children are drawn near to God. They ‘come’ to the Lord. They hearken onto Him. They are taught of the Lord and shall not depart from His ways.
Psa 1:3 And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.
These 4-fold blessings belongs to our children, and we can claim it for them in Jesus name. Our children don’t have to struggle through life, they can be prosperous in life.
We have the privilege of seeing our children become like trees planted by the rivers of water, bringing forth their fruit in due season. To crown it all, whatever they do prospers.
My children are like trees planted by the streams of waters. Whatever they do prospers. It is well with my children. They are significant in life
God is supposed to be present in our home and marriage every time, helping us, changing the water of our marriage into wine and calming every storm.
But most of the time we forfeit His presence.
Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet [is] she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.
Do you know why? Simple. Because GOD was there as a witness when you spoke your marriage vows to your young bride, and now you’ve broken those vows, broken the faith-bond with your vowed companion, your covenant wife.
The scripture says that God was there as a witness when we spoke our vows to our spouse.
The vow that we will love and cherish our spouse. That we will respect and honor our spouse with our bodies, money and all.
God was there when we were making those vows. He was a covenant witness.
What do we think God’s job was?
Was He witnessing the vows so that He could count scores of our inability to meet up? Or was it to judge us whenever we miss the mark?
None of the above. He was present for neither of these. His presence was to strengthen the covenant. Make it more potent, make it more powerful and of course help us to fulfill our vows.
Don’t ever think you can ever fulfill those vows you made to your spouse on your own. That was why God Himself was present.
He didn’t send His angels, He had to be present Himself at your wedding ceremony.
Now the scripture is saying that you didn’t give God His place in your marriage and you have broken your vow.
By not involving God, you increased the probability of breaking your vows.
When God is not involved in your marriage, He will be conspicuously absent..
When God is absent in our marriages, we lose the Help of God, His ability and strength to do what we are suppose to do.
I don’t know whether you have being trying to fulfill these vows on your own?
The truth is that you can’t fulfill these vows. It is impossible to fulfill the vows in your power.
How easy is it for a husband to love his wife as Christ loves the Church when He is not Christ?
Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church–a love marked by giving, not getting.
Who can fulfill such an instruction?
But God’s ways are the direct opposite of man’s way.
That is why when it comes to marriage, you need God all the way.
Husbands, stop frustrating yourselves, you can never love your wife without the Help of God.
Wives, don’t frustrate yourselves. You cannot fulfill this without God.
Let us all repent because it is actually pride not to involve God consciously in our marriage.
When we don’t involve God, we open the door for all sorts.
May God bless our marriages.
Confession of the day
I am quick and humble enough to get God involved in my marriage.
Prayer of the day
Lord, I repent of not getting you involved in my marriage. Now, I involve you all the way.
Thought of the day
Php 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.
Pray to God every time about your inadequacy to love and respect your spouse.
Yinka and Bolade are still young in marriage being married for close to two years.
Their marriage has been riddled with many misunderstanding. Yinka is a sparky Sanguine while Bolade is a Phlegmatic.
Bolade in his quiet ways is very vindictive. He always wants to stubbornly have his way.
He often rubs it in that he is the head of the family.
He doesn’t talk much. Although he could be pleasant most times, his mood swings and his being vindictive always keep his wife away from him.
Yinka on the other hand is fun loving, careless and outgoing. Their differences seem to draw them apart.
Bolade often feels he is not respected and that his wife doesn’t revere him and can do without him. He often feels his wife is too careless to be sensitive to him.
You can imagine the everyday tussle. This is what happens when either party doesn’t mature and grow up.
Marriage is for the matured. People who are ready to sacrifice their own pleasure to see the marriage work out.
Both Yinka and Bolade will have to learn, unlearn and relearn ideas on marriage.
Yinka will have to learn that even though she is a Sanguine, your marriage comes first. You cannot afford to be carefree with your marriage. You have to be deliberate as a wife and don’t just do whatever is convenient.
Bolade on the other hand must be matured as the head of the family. He should be strong, bold and not be controlled by His moods.
He should use God’s word to give him a stable emotion.
Both of them should join hands together in working on their weaknesses. They should help each other to help themselves.
They should know that one person’s immaturity will affect the other person. Prayers will be hindered and they will both be frustrated.
Living with a person of different temperaments, from a different back ground, having a different point of view to things generally is a huge task. Which must to be done with so much maturity and spiritual understanding.
We all have our spouses different from us. Love means different things to us at different times and we interpret love in different ways.
Respect to a man is a big deal and as wives we should give our husband large dozes of it.
As we both mature, we will see our lives better, our marriage better and together fulfilling God’s purpose for our lives.
God bless your marriage.
Confession of the day
I have Gods Spirit. I am changed into his image.
Prayer for the day
Lord, help me always yield to the Holy Spirit.
Thoughts of the day
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Find ways to love and respect your spouse without demanding anything in return.
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