Juliet visited her friend Jane and Jane told her about the latest designer bag her husband bought for her a day before. This comes up on their conversations often where Jane talks about what and what her husband has bought for her in recent times.
Juliet began to think about how long she talked her husband into ordinarily recharging her phone for her about seven months ago, that was the last time she ever received a gift from him.
She got home and snaps at her husband at every conversation. He asked what went wrong but then as usual, she said nothing but she mumbled under her breath how she wished her husband was like Jane’s.
This is a usual scenario in many marriages and it is not peculiar to the women alone, it happens to the men folks too.
We often wish our spouses are better looking like Mrs. Haggai., better cooks like your mom, more domestic like your dad, well-built like Mr. Malachi and the list goes on and on. Then, we begin to sink deeper into the well of comparisons.
Some of us even go further by telling it to our spouse’s face making him/her feel less of him/herself, putting him/her into a competition in which the competitor is most times oblivious of.
Instead of judging that your spouse is not doing what you expected of him/her, have you taken some time to appreciate him/her for the ones he/she did in the past?
So instead of making fuss with the ones our spouses have not been doing to us, let’s get into the habit of praising them for the ones they do and who they are.
May I also say at this point that the fact that your friend’s spouse does it better in this area does not mean he/she is living a life of entire bliss. Far from it! Every marriage has its struggles too.
The grass is not always greener on the other side. They could just be faux grasses or the couple might just be putting in some extra effort to keep their marriage working.
There is no couple without their own challenges. Instead of comparing yours with theirs, work on your marriage. Work on being a better version of yourself.
Be a better wife! Be a better husband! Be a better spouse!
Don’t nag your spouse into being who you expect him/her to be. Do not coax him/her into possessing certain characteristics that your friend or your friend’s spouse possesses.
Your spouse is unique in his/her ways. Don’t push him/her into doing evil in order to please you. Be content with what you have and pray for him/her.
The spouse that God has given you is a best fit for your life. Therefore, compliment him/her, coach them into being the best that God has called them to be not who you want them to be, don’t ruin your own marriage by comparison.
What you are desiring might not be as good as what you have in your hands already.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
My spouse is who God has created him/her to be. I choose today to compliment him/her rather than forcing them to be someone else. Together, we grow in love to be all that God has purposed us to be and we are better for it.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord Jesus, help me to see my spouse, not as a misfit but the best that God has made for me(Amen)
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
…They that compare themselves with themselves are not wise (2Corithians 10:12)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Sneak a love note or send a text to your spouse today about what you love about them.
BIBLE READING FOR TODAY
2 Corinthians 10
Oluwatoyin is a wife, teacher and a lover of God. She loves to see people living their lives in the most amazing way, thereby becoming useful to one another.