Really, every parent want to see their children one day getting married.
I could just imagine what joy.
In our society and culture, we put a lot of emphasis on the social impression our children’s wedding create.
The rich want to spend their good money to make sure it’s a society wedding.
But after all that, then what?
Is it just about the money spent, the noise on social media or what?
We have to understand that every of our actions and non actions are building and shaping our children’s idea about marriage.
Ideally, we should ask ourselves what do we want our children to remember us for as couples?
Can our children consult our life style as a manual to help them in their own marriage?
I have a dear aunt, who because she had only one child (a daughter), her mother in law put pressure on her husband until he married another wife.
Talking about leaving a legacy behind, she stayed married to her husband until his death.
She claimed her husband wanted more children, she couldn’t give him and unfortunately he married another woman.
If anything, that daughter learnt from her mother, ‘marriage is meant to last for ever, you stick with it until you have the victory’.
I am not in any way advocating staying in an abusive marriage all in the name of ‘marriage is meant to last forever”.
What if the other party chooses to go anti – marriage covenant?
I believe as believers, we should allow God through the Holy Spirit to lead us.
Our children learn more from what they see.
So if you are an abusive husband, impatient with your wife, a wife beater, a cheat, you are stingy and generally not a kind spouse, beware.
You are a wife and your mouth runs, you are not submissive at all, very disobedient, always going to parties and functions, don’t keep the home and don’t look after the kids.
Your children are watching. And unfortunately, they tend to become like what they are seeing.
Please, save our next generation of guys and ladies.
The little ones today are the husbands and wives tomorrow.
No wonder the bible says in
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
We know that children brought up in abusive homes end up abused or abuse others.
They are not just equipped to adequately face the world.
You may want to think twice before you act that way, and ask yourself, ‘What legacy am I leaving for my children?”
We may think it doesn’t matter, but in old age, you as a parent want to see your children’s homes and their marriages and be glad.
You don’t want to be running around.
Today you are settling quarrels, tomorrow you are begging the wife not to pack her things away.
Seeing your children doing well and happy in their marriage is a wonderful thing.
Begin to create the future now.
Stop being childish, immature and carnal.
Embrace God’s instruction to having a blissful marriage.
May God help us.
God bless your marriage.
Confession of the day
I leave a beautiful legacy for my children.
Prayer for the day
Lord, help me by your Holy Spirit to know that the principle of sowing and reaping works even in marriage.
Thought of the day
I watch what I do because I am either leaving a good or bad legacy for my children
Start watching every of your actions
BIBLE READING OF THE DAY:
Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.