Mood Swings In Marriage

Mood Swings In Marriage


Like the word clearly represents, it is the unstable state of the minds which has to do with unpleasant expressions of the countenance.

Our moods are generally how we feel, expressed on our countenance. It usually has its root in unpleasant thoughts going on in the mind.

These thoughts could be a feeling of animosity, anxiety, jealousy, hatred, strife, anger, a low self worth, unhappiness, etc

These feelings must always have someone or something as the object of animosity.

What happens is that the devil controls the mind or thoughts of the individual, feeding him/her with all sorts of negative thoughts and then controls the moods.

The person is usually not happy or excited about life or anything.

He/she is busy finding faults, criticizing, getting hurt and usually, these are done internally.

The danger it poses to marriage is that all the productive ideas of this person is reduced to zero.

If it is the husband, then he losses the ability to be an effective head providing leadership for his family. He finds it hard to love his wife.

It is impossible to love and be moody at the same time.

In fact, it is impossible for him to, because he is busy in a struggle with himself and his thoughts are focused in the wrong place.

The same thing happens if it is the wife that is moody. She loses the ability of an help-meet and becomes as rottenness in the bone of the husband.

Pro 12:4
A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.

Pro 14:30
A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones.

Moodiness is a thing of the heart. Actually, it is a sickness of the heart, which translates to rottenness of the bones.

With rottenness, there is no movement, no progress, no victory. Every form of advancement is halted because there is a rottenness of the bone.

Moodiness actually eats up the bones gradually.

It is an attempt of the devil to ground the glorious destiny and make the person unable to fulfill purpose in life.

If you know you are given to mood swings, know that it is an attempt of the devil to snuff life out of you and reduce your potentials to zero.

Mood swing can be demonic and must be handled with all seriousness.

Here are steps that will help you deal with mood swings

1. It can lead into sin. The instability of the mind can lead to unwise decisions.

2. Denounce all forms of attachment to any demonic strong hold in your life causing mood swing.

3. Stand your ground against the devil causing the mood swings.

4. Avoid situations that fuels these negative moods.

5. Nip mood swings in the bud before it becomes full blown.

6. Use God’s word as a weapon to combat and deal with mood swings.

7. Rejoice in your victory and take practical steps to guard against moodiness.

It is important you deal with this as it has tremendous and adverse effect on marriage.

God bless your marriage

Confession of the day
I have victory over mood swings. I fulfill my destiny.

Prayer for the day
Lord, I ask for the help of the Holy Spirit in dealing with mood swings.

Thoughts of the day
Pro 14:30 A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones.

Action plan
Take the steps to dealing mood swings in marriage

Bible reading
John 14

The Ultimate Goal In Marriage

The Ultimate Goal In Marriage


Imagine a situation in which a father sends his son on a journey to oversea his company in a neighbouring community.

While embarking on this journey, his son met a friend of his who agreed to accompany him to carry out this special assignment sent by the father.

What is simply expected of this duo is to do all they can to see to the accomplishment of this task.

They will have to bond, strategize, engage, think and sometimes disagree to agree. While doing this, they must not be distracted because some day, they will give full account back to the father, Who sent them on this assignment.

The same is true in marriage. Marriage involves two people on a journey sent by God, the One who institutes marriage. Marriage is solely His idea and as much as we want to have a blissful marriage, we should not shift our focus from Him.

How lovely will it be if my spouse and I can enjoy a good marriage here on Earth and see each other in Heaven with God on the last day!

One of the ways to truly know if you love your spouse is how interested you are in their Christian life because God is Love and love stems from Him.

A good marriage is not just based on the physical and emotional alone but also on the spiritual.

Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. (1John 4:7-8)

Do you just push each other to achieve earthly goals while losing sight of the ultimate goal, which is to reign with Christ in heaven?

What efforts are you both putting together to build each other spiritually or that seems to be none of your business? How far have you both helped yourselves in your spiritual growth?

How often do you stimulate each other to godliness? Yes, you are very vibrant in the Spirit but do you care less about that of your partner?

The Bible admonishes us to encourage and build each other up

(1Thess. 5:11).
My beloved of God, place God at the centre of your marriage and constantly grow closer to Him as one united in love.

Share whatever you’ve learnt from your personal times with God.

Pray for and with each other.

Learn to trust God together especially during difficult times.

Worship God together.

Serve God together.

Keep your eyes on the ultimate goal!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
God is the centre of my marriage. My spouse and I are growing consistently in our love for God and each other. Our eyes are on the ultimate goal and we won’t be distracted.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Father in the Name of Jesus, help my spouse and I to stay united in the body, soul and most importantly in the Spirit.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do. (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Create time, not less than 30 minutes to discuss with your spouse ways you can build each other up spiritually.

BIBLE READING FOR TODAY
1John

When God Is Not Involved

When God Is Not Involved


God is supposed to be present in our home and marriage every time, helping us, changing the water of our marriage into wine and calming every storm.

But most of the time we forfeit His presence.

Mal 2:14
Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet [is] she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.

Mal 2:14
Do you know why? Simple. Because GOD was there as a witness when you spoke your marriage vows to your young bride, and now you’ve broken those vows, broken the faith-bond with your vowed companion, your covenant wife.

The scripture says that God was there as a witness when we spoke our vows to our spouse.

The vow that we will love and cherish our spouse. That we will respect and honor our spouse with our bodies, money and all.

God was there when we were making those vows. He was a covenant witness.

What do we think God’s job was?

Was He witnessing the vows so that He could count scores of our inability to meet up? Or was it to judge us whenever we miss the mark?

None of the above. He was present for neither of these. His presence was to strengthen the covenant. Make it more potent, make it more powerful and of course help us to fulfill our vows.

Don’t ever think you can ever fulfill those vows you made to your spouse on your own. That was why God Himself was present.

He didn’t send His angels, He had to be present Himself at your wedding ceremony.

Now the scripture is saying that you didn’t give God His place in your marriage and you have broken your vow.

By not involving God, you increased the probability of breaking your vows.

When God is not involved in your marriage, He will be conspicuously absent..

When God is absent in our marriages, we lose the Help of God, His ability and strength to do what we are suppose to do.

I don’t know whether you have being trying to fulfill these vows on your own?

The truth is that you can’t fulfill these vows. It is impossible to fulfill the vows in your power.

How easy is it for a husband to love his wife as Christ loves the Church when He is not Christ?

Eph 5:25
Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church–a love marked by giving, not getting.

Who can fulfill such an instruction?

But God’s ways are the direct opposite of man’s way.

That is why when it comes to marriage, you need God all the way.

Husbands, stop frustrating yourselves, you can never love your wife without the Help of God.

Wives, don’t frustrate yourselves. You cannot fulfill this without God.

Let us all repent because it is actually pride not to involve God consciously in our marriage.

When we don’t involve God, we open the door for all sorts.

May God bless our marriages.

Confession of the day
I am quick and humble enough to get God involved in my marriage.

Prayer of the day
Lord, I repent of not getting you involved in my marriage. Now, I involve you all the way.

Thought of the day
Php 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.

Action plan
Pray to God every time about your inadequacy to love and respect your spouse.

Bible Reading
John 14

How To Get Along With Your Spouse

How To Get Along With Your Spouse


Yinka and Bolade are still young in marriage being married for close to two years.

Their marriage has been riddled with many misunderstanding. Yinka is a sparky Sanguine while Bolade is a Phlegmatic.

Bolade in his quiet ways is very vindictive. He always wants to stubbornly have his way.

He often rubs it in that he is the head of the family.

He doesn’t talk much. Although he could be pleasant most times, his mood swings and his being vindictive always keep his wife away from him.

Yinka on the other hand is fun loving, careless and outgoing. Their differences seem to draw them apart.

Bolade often feels he is not respected and that his wife doesn’t revere him and can do without him. He often feels his wife is too careless to be sensitive to him.

You can imagine the everyday tussle. This is what happens when either party doesn’t mature and grow up.

Marriage is for the matured. People who are ready to sacrifice their own pleasure to see the marriage work out.

Both Yinka and Bolade will have to learn, unlearn and relearn ideas on marriage.

Yinka will have to learn that even though she is a Sanguine, your marriage comes first. You cannot afford to be carefree with your marriage. You have to be deliberate as a wife and don’t just do whatever is convenient.

Bolade on the other hand must be matured as the head of the family. He should be strong, bold and not be controlled by His moods.

He should use God’s word to give him a stable emotion.
Both of them should join hands together in working on their weaknesses. They should help each other to help themselves.

They should know that one person’s immaturity will affect the other person. Prayers will be hindered and they will both be frustrated.

Living with a person of different temperaments, from a different back ground, having a different point of view to things generally is a huge task. Which must to be done with so much maturity and spiritual understanding.

We all have our spouses different from us. Love means different things to us at different times and we interpret love in different ways.

Respect to a man is a big deal and as wives we should give our husband large dozes of it.

As we both mature, we will see our lives better, our marriage better and together fulfilling God’s purpose for our lives.

God bless your marriage.

Confession of the day
I have Gods Spirit. I am changed into his image.

Prayer for the day
Lord, help me always yield to the Holy Spirit.

Thoughts of the day
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Action plan
Find ways to love and respect your spouse without demanding anything in return.

Bible reading
John 12

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The Dirty Dozen Husbands And Wives Should Avoid Part 3

The Dirty Dozen Husbands And Wives Should Avoid Part 3


In the previous days on The Dirty Dozen Husbands And Wives Should Avoid, we have looked at the following:

1. Refusing to pray together as husbands and wives
2. Quarreling day in day out
3. Being moody most of the time
4. Disobeying your husband
5. Not Loving Your Wife
6. Cheating on each other

So, pick it up from here.

What other things should couple avoid in their home and as a family?

7. Comparison Traps

Don’t fall for this.

Don’t compare yourself to that other couple in the neighborhood.
Stop telling your spouse to be as nice as that other couple you met in the mall.

People are generally nice, until you start living with them.

Your spouse is the most precious person in your life right now, stop the comparison.

Appreciate what God has given you in a spouse and focus on it.

Stop admiring what will never be yours in this world or in the world to come.

What is the pint admiring another person’ spouse while you continue to disdain the one that God has given you.

You are violating the honour code right there.

Honour one another.

Love one another.

Appreciate yourselves to the very heavens.

Let’s dive into the scripture.

2 Corinthians 10:12 (KJV)  
For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.

We can see it right there.

It is just not wise.

Focus on each other and pray more together.

Be on the same page.

When you focus on each other, you will come to see the treasures that are within you!

I pray that God gives you more understanding.

May God bless your marriage.

CONFESSION FOR TODAY
I will not fall into comparison trap

PRAYER POINT FOR TODAY
Lord, lift up our heads.

THOUGHT FOR TODAY
2 Corinthians 10:12 (MSG)  We’re not, understand, putting ourselves in a league with those who boast that they’re our superiors. We wouldn’t dare do that. But in all this comparing and grading and competing, they quite miss the point.

ACTION POINT FOR TODAY
Flew from all source of temptation

BIBLE READING FOR TODAY
1Corithians 10

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The Dirty Dozen Husbands And Wives Should Avoid Part 2

The Dirty Dozen Husbands And Wives Should Avoid Part 2


I started writing on this topic about husbands and wives yesterday.

Yesterday, I looked at the following:

1. Refusing to pray together as husbands and wives
2. Quarreling day in day out
3. Being moody most of the time
4. Disobeying your husband

So, I continue from here today. If you missed yesterday’s devotional, you can read HERE

5. Not Loving Your Wife

So, I want to ask, why did you marry her if you are not going to lover her?

Living with another human being, especially a woman is such a lot of work!

For any progress to be, you have to love her.

As in LOVE her!

Your love for her has to be expressed.

Your wife wants to hear you say that all day and all night, and then go beyond saying it by doing tangible things to express that love.

Now, that can involve anything from buying her shiny things, they love shiny things, all the way to praying for her.

You’ve just got to love her, period!

6. Cheating on each other


Hey, don’t do that! As in why?

God is the witness in your marital covenant. You not only hurt your spouse when you cheat, you come under the risk of losing God’s support and favour over you and your home!

Now, that isn’t going to be a pleasant experience at all!
The consequences are too nasty and its not just worth it.

Job 31:12 (MSG)  
Adultery is a fire that burns the house down; I wouldn’t expect anything I count dear to survive it.

Ask children whose parents cheated on each other, they would tell you of their travails.

Cheating on each other brings some accolades with it; self destruction, bloody nose, black eye, and ruined reputation.

Proverbs 6:32-33 (MSG)  
Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive;  [33]  Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good.

If you find yourself cheating already, seek help.

And you know this thing begins in subtle ways.

Innocent flirting. Emotional flings. Avoid all of that!

The moment you start doing anything “innocent” with another person and you cannot share such with your spouse, they are after you already o!

Secrecy, non communication, and emotional withdrawal from your spouse will position you on the expressway of adultery.
You have to be strong, smart and spiritual.

They are coming after you not just because you are fine, but because hell is after your soul and your home.

The question is are you going to cooperate with the agenda of hell?

Or you are going to refuse the the traps?

Decide today. No cheating! Why?

It’s going to mess you and yours up. So there is no point!
All those demonic thoughts that someone is better, finer, more understanding than your spouse is all part of a grand slam to slam you out of your marriage and out of God’s plan for you.

So, make up your mind and ask God to help you.

Disconnect from all ungodly associations.

I pray for your marriage, God will protect and shield you.

Every help you need will come your way in Jesus name! Be blessed!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I love my spouse always.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, shield our home from evil

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Proverbs 6:32 (CEV)  But if you go to bed with another man’s wife, you will destroy yourself by your own stupidity.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Take concrete steps to end all unhealthy affairs

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Proverbs 6

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The Dirty Dozen Husbands And Wives Should Avoid

The Dirty Dozen Husbands And Wives Should Avoid


1. Refusing to pray together as husbands and wives

Believe me, this is not a nice idea. Learn to pray together. Pray daily. Stop throwing tantrums at each other, learn to pray together. As the saying goes, the couple that pray together, stay together.

Ask yourself, why have we not been praying together?

Why can’t we start now?

2. Quarreling day in day out

Hey, is that the purpose why you got married? To be quarreling all the time? So when do you get to enjoy each other.

Ask yourself, what exactly is the major cause of these quarrels?

What have the constant quarrels added to the family?

How has it impacted on the emotions of the children?

3. Being moody most of the time

Do you know the Bible advises you to be happy and to rejoice always as a couple?

Proverbs 5:18 (KJV)  
Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

See Message Translation:

Proverbs 5:18 (MSG)  
Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man!

Ask yourself, why am I moody all the time?

Why am I unhappy in my own matrimonial home?

4. Disobeying your husband


Some wives do this for several reasons.

It is anti-productive. Your husband is your head. That is never going to change. And you are to submit.

It doesn’t mean you don’t have a say, it just means you honour him by allowing him to have the final say.

Being rebellious to your husband, either directly or in a subtle way will hinder your prayers and tamper with the protective edge on you. It will be as though the powers of evil are triumphing over righteousness. There is no point.

Ask yourself as a wife, why do I find it difficult to honour my husband with obedience?

Could there be a seed of rebellion lurking somewhere?

Ask yourself as a husband, am I making it difficult for my wife to honour me?

Have I taken very wrong decisions in time past that landed the whole family in problems, for example, debts, financial mess etc?

Well, go over these and meditate.

Address the questions.

Try and get to the root of issues.

I will continue on this topic tomorrow.

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Recommend the devotional to another family.

God bless you as our spread the word.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I love my spouse and we are in agreement.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, bind us together in your love.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Proverbs 5:18 (AMPC)  Let your fountain [of human life] be blessed [with the rewards of fidelity], and rejoice in the wife of your youth.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Discuss lovingly with your spouse. Every time you keep quiet and assume, trouble is brewing.

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
John 17

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Keep Marching Forward As Couples

Keep Marching Forward As Couples


As couples we have to find a way of moving towards our goal in life and marriage.

All manners of things and distractions tend to weigh us down.

We wish life could be smooth and a smooth sailing, but we also know that life does happen.

Influences here and there whether demonic or otherwise.
Jesus Christ and his disciples also experienced similar setbacks when he told his disciplines to embark on a journey.

Their destination was somewhere on the other side of the lake.
Instead of a smooth sailing the encountered a storm on the way

Luke 4:35-38 (KJV)  
And Jesus rebuked him, saying, Hold thy peace, and come out of him. And when the devil had thrown him in the midst, he came out of him, and hurt him not.  [36]  And they were all amazed, and spake among themselves, saying, What a word is this! for with authority and power he commandeth the unclean spirits, and they come out.  [37]  And the fame of him went out into every place of the country round about.  [38]  And he arose out of the synagogue, and entered into Simon’s house. And Simon’s wife’s mother was taken with a great fever; and they besought him for her.

Jesus’ disciples were much afraid and troubled. They were moved by the wind and the storm.

To the extent that they doubted even when loved of God.

2Co 5:7
For we walk by faith, not by sight

As couples, when we move to make progress in life, storms of different kinds arise to stop us

Let us learn to always call upon Jesus. He is the prince of Peace, the one who calms every storm in our life and he will calm every storm we could ever face.

At the end of it all, we will share our testimony of having the victory.

Don’t let us allow storms to stop us from achieving our goals.

Keep your goal and your desire to advance in life. Don’t be afraid of storms, instead move forward.

God bless your marriage

Confession of the day
I move forward. I advance. I make progress.

Prayer for the day
Lord, help me to move forward, not minding any storms.

Thoughts of the day
2Co 5:7 For we walk by faith, not by sight

Action plan
Decide to move forward

Bible reading
John 10

The Couple That Decides To be Happy

The Couple That Decides To be Happy


Happiness may not be the solution to all lives problem but it sure leads to the solution.

To all waiting mothers and fathers, cheer up.

To all believing for one miracle or another, cheer up.

Yes, your situation may be depressive and there’s enough things to get you down.

Things don’t seem to be going on fine. All hell seems loosed.

Your body may be going out of order and your finances not where it should be.

You may feel like summarizing your life with a few negative sentences.

You may have enough facts to make you believe your tomorrow will not be better than your today.

2Co 4:17
For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding [and] eternal weight of glory;

The bible calls whatever affliction we are facing ‘light”. No matter how we want to look at it, it is still a light affliction.

The bible also says it is a but for a moment. How can we define ‘a moment”? Something insignificant, minute and inconsequential in time.

Something transient.

It says our light affliction is but for a moment!! Hallelujah.

No matter how long we may count the time it is still ‘a moment’.

The bible now says it is working for us a more exceeding and eternal weight of Glory. How beautiful?

From the scriptures,we know that this affliction is working for us.

It is working for us an eternal weight of GLORY!

That means our affliction shall end up in glory.

If not for anything, that’s why we should be joyful and happy.

Hab 3:17
Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither [shall] fruit [be] in the vines; the labour of the olive shall fail, and the fields shall yield no meat; the flock shall be cut off from the fold, and [there shall be] no herd in the stalls:

Hab 3:18
Yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will joy in the God of my salvation.

Despite all that is happening, verse 18 of Habakkuk says , ‘Yet’ I will rejoice in the Lord, I will joy in the God of my salvation.

We should come to a point of telling ourselves that even if things are not working, there is still a ‘Yet’ in us.

The devil is fighting your ‘Yet’. Don’t let the devil get or steal your ‘Yet’.

Between where you are and where you ought to be is your ‘Yet’.
If you can rejoice and be happy, there is a breakthrough on the other side of your rejoicing.

When you rejoice, you are exercising faith in a God who works in mysterious ways to meet His children’s need who trust in His power.

God bless you and give you the strength to rejoice no matter what.

Confession of the day
The devil can’t steal my joy. I choose to rejoice.

Prayer of the day
Holy Spirit please help me understand that there is a miracle on the other side of my rejoicing.

Thought of day
Php 4:4 Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, Rejoice.

Action plan
Begin to take ‘Rejoicing’ seriously

A Stubborn Insistent Couple Is Not A Good Idea

A Stubborn Insistent Couple Is Not A Good Idea


It is amazing how much time couples spend on quarrels that will not advance their lives in anyway.

Each spouse stubbornly insist on his own right. They refuse to bulge and give in to each other.

My husband and I had a few doses of our own times of stubbornly insisting on our own.

Of course we only look back at such times and laugh at our stubbornness.

Those times, I will be hurt and my husband will be hurt that I was hurt. I will in turn be more hurt that he is hurt because I was hurt and that he couldn’t come to rescue or beg me.

How childish! This can go on for days. I will sulk and have a pity party.

I know of a couple who because of their different backgrounds had a fight because they will not listen to each other.

The husband told the wife to pack out of the house in a moment a anger tantrum. The wife also angry, left the house before she could be stopped.

To the dismay of the husband who doesn’t say sorry, his wife packed out with everything including the children and the house help.

The husband was heart broken. The husband was not patient and the wife too was ready to call off his bluff.

The wife was a stubborn Choleric. The husband tried calling her severally to no avail.

Thank God for the prayers of both parents in intercepting what could have turned out to be eventually a separation.

Lesson learnt is that the couple should never stubbornly hold on to their rights.

This story could have turned out a more terrible one because when we are angry, we become blind to other things.

A whole lot of things could have gone wrong in the time the wife was away. She was away for close to three weeks.

She had a health condition that makes her faint during pregnancy. Any thing could have happened to her.

What if the husband got another woman pregnant at that time?
The ‘if’ are numerous.

We can both be right but one person has to be matured enough and let the other person win for the sake of peace which is more important.

Think of those precious times couples waste! It’s just a time wasting exercise.

Together but not together.

And that is what the devil wants. To make our fruits drop before they are ripe.

To have no fruits for our labour and no benefits at all for being husband and wife.

When the bible says one will chase a thousand and two will put ten thousand to flight.

Lets ‘fight’ with common sense! Gbam!

Don’t give in to your flesh. The flesh screams so much for our attention.

‘How could she treat you like that’? She doesn’t know who you are…?

He thinks I am a lady to be treated anyhow? I will teach her/him a lesson. I won’t talk to him.

And the list goes on and on.

As couples, let’s try and walk in the spirit for that is the only time we will not gratify the lust of the flesh.

So walking in the spirit is walking in love? Oh yes, it is.

That’s why marriage is for two forgivers. To forgive is very spiritual.
God bless your marriage.

God give us strength to overlook our spouse’s fault and short coming.

The marriage will move forward that way. We will experience miracles and God’s help.

Confession of the day
I am not stubborn. We lovingly submit to each other.

Prayer of the day
Lord, help us to walk more in the spirit that we may not gratify the lust of the flesh.

Thought of the day
Amo 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

Action Plan
Be submissive one to another

Bible reading
John 10

How To Boast About And Praise Your Wife Always

How To Boast About And Praise Your Wife Always


There is a dimension of boasting and praising your wife.

Most husbands do it but verbalizing it may be the issue.

I think the moisture that comes from the mouth of a husband when saying such beautiful boastful words about his wife does something to her.

The moisture and warmth from those words is needed for her to blossom.

Let us for some minutes forget about all the flaws of your wife and think of her good parts.

The mere fact that she can multi task is enough to sing her praises.

The job of parenting a child is enormous, not to talk of nurturing more than one.

This job starts from conception to birth and takes another level from birth till adulthood and doesn’t end there.

I feel it continues, till death.

Imagine, my mum still watches over me and asks after my well being as though I am a child.

A child never really out grows the care, love and attention of the mother.

Kudos to all mums and mums-to-be and all single mothers.

Caring for the home is another very huge task, for which every husband should praise his wife.

Combining parenting a child(ren) with keeping the house is a lot.

Now, combining these two with keeping the pace in a competitive society and running a business, having a career or doing a secular job is even more demanding.

Being a stay at home mum doesn’t mean the work is less demanding, it only means you get to work at a slower pace and get to monitor your kids more and better.

You see why every wife should be celebrated.

Pro 31:28 encourages husbands to praise their own wives.

Pro 31:28 Her children rise up and call her blessed (happy, fortunate, and to be envied); and her husband boasts of and praises her, [saying],

Now, this is not a women liberation movement or a women day write up, but a call to celebrate what we have.

I believe celebrating your own wife will encourage her to do even better.

I guess women are generally wired to do better when their husband lovingly corrects them and shower them with appreciation.

This is not a call for women to read this and begin to count how unfortunate they are, for not having a husband that praises them.

The truth is that you can celebrate yourself!

Leave the things you can’t do alone and focus on the things you can do.

Woman, feel good about yourself and be happy with ‘You’ on your way to being better.

If nobody celebrates you, don’t be offended.

Look at the mirror each morning and pat yourself at the back and tell yourself,

‘Girl, you are just too much”.

I want to shout out to all the women out there, who despite all, are enduring hardness like a soldier.

You are the true victors, the heroin of all times.

You are still standing despite the abuse, infidelity, hurts, pain.

I pray that the Lord is your exceeding, great reward. The Lord will give you compensations only He can give.

Keep holding on. Keep celebrating yourself. Keep being happy and keep becoming a better you.

God bless you all.

Confession of the day
I am a gift to my husband, a blessing to my children and a plus to the world

Prayer of the day
Lord help me to always remember to celebrate myself and be happy

Thought of the day
Gen 15:1 After these things the word of the LORD came unto Abram in a vision, saying, Fear not, Abram: I [am] thy shield, [and] thy exceeding great reward

Action Plan
Celebrate yourself and be happy because you are God’s prized creation

Bible reading
John 9

What To Do When Your Spouse Is Not Appealing

What To Do When Your Spouse Is Not Appealing


We all change, our spouse will change. So does our taste, out look to life, career demands, our looks and generally many things about us.

So what do you do when you have changed and moved on and your spouse is a little laid back?

What of if the things you once permitted are now no more appealing to you?

What of if you have a more demanding schedule, you got a better job offer, your level in life changes and so you have to make certain changes to fit your new status and your spouse is not changing with you?

What do you do when it looks like your loved one is not meeting up with your change in status?

What if you become the CEO and your spouse still relates to you as though you are still an employee and doesn’t treat you as the boss?

What if your sense of fashion changes?

Well, every spouse should note that you have to change with your spouse.

You have to make yourself relevant in whatever ways your spouse deem fit.

Intellectually, academically, socially, spiritually and others.

I remembered when my husband did his Masters, I knew I have to do mine too.

Not out of competition but in a bid to remain intellectually relevant to him.

In the same way, we all should strive at remaining relevant to our spouse and whatever status they attain.

Example, If your husband becomes an Ambassador, you know you need to up your game.

You need to look more attractive, speak better, learn more about people skill and generally be a more informed person.

Most of what happens when your spouse attain certain heights is that you don’t climb the success ladder with him.

So he tries to look for some one, a friend to fit in.

I know faithfulness is one virtue we have to possess. That no matter what, our spouse remains our spouse.

But we can help reduce the amount of temptation by us doing what we should do.

Now, here a few tips that can help us remain relevant to our spouse at all times.

1. Recognize when the times are changing.

Failure to do this, is failure to prepare for the future with your spouse.

2. Know what type of changes is required of you.

Not just changing anyhow but making the changes relevant to meet our spouse’s need.

3. Surround yourself with friends and people that can help you positively.

Which ever area you are trying to grow or change, there are people that can help you achieve this.

4. Be willing to do whatever it may cost you.

Your spouse got a new job in another country, don’t be rigid.

You may have to follow him there and learn new ways of life.

5. The sacrifice will pay off later

Whatever sacrifices you did for your spouse will definitely pay off later.

It is better to sacrifice now and enjoy later.

When your spouse is becoming irrelevant to your life, it is a danger sign.

a. Share your thought about this lovingly to him/her.

b. Get a common mentor (someone he/she respects) speak to him/her.

c. Help him/her go the necessary helpful things.

d. Carry your spouse along, make sure your spouse is not too far from you. Let them be at your side

God bless your marriage

Confession of the day
I remain always , at all times, in all circumstances relevant to my spouse life

Thought of the day
Galatians 5:18 (MSG)  Why don’t you choose to be led by the Spirit and so escape the erratic compulsions of a law-dominated existence?

Prayer of the day
Lord help me to be always relevant to my spouse.

Action Plan
Find out ways you can be relevant to your spouse

Bible reading
John 8

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