Dear Couple, You Are A Team, Not Competitors

Dear Couple, You Are A Team, Not Competitors


Have you ever been to or participated in an Inter-house Sports Competition? It is usually an interesting thing to watch. I witnessed one recently and I thought to share some major lessons I learnt.

Each house comprises of quite a number of people across different ages and each age group is expected to perform activities that are peculiar to their age groups in which marks are given to the positions garnered by each house.

At the end of the day, the total marks gotten by each house is summed up and the house with the highest mark goes home with the Golden Cup.
In a case where there is disunity among the members, it has an overall effect on their performance because their strength lies in their unity. The more united the team is, the stronger they become.

This morning, I’ll like to liken marriage to Sports. Husband and wife are the members of the team and a successful marriage is the grand prize.

Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. (Ecclesiastes 4:9)

Distractions and other external forces that strives to pull down the marriage are the opponents.

The day of the competition is not the day to prepare. The members of a team would be required to have put in weeks (and sometimes months) of rigorous practice. A lot of time and energy had gone into the trainings.

Sometimes, these trainings come with lots of disagreements and discipline but then, they will be welcomed with shouts of jubilation when they eventually win.

This also applies to marriage. The process of coming together, aligning purpose and making the marriage work is not without its own unpleasant moments but patience and endurance is very key during those times as the eyes of the couple are on the Golden Cup which is to have a blissful and successful marriage.

I put it to you this morning to see your spouse as your team mate and not a competitor.

You’re not in a competition with your spouse, it’s a partnership venture. When one partner is weak, it takes a toll on both partners. When both partners are strong, then they will be able to go far together.

Hold hands together and work together to make things work and to make life more enjoyable for you both.

Until married couples learn that they are a team will they accomplish so much in their marriage. Enough of things like my spouse must not be richer than me, my spouse has bought his second car, I must buy my third, my wife now has her Masters so I must begin my Doctorate etc.

Cheer yourselves on to bring the best out of two of you.

Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. (Proverbs 27:17)

Are you willing to make your spouse your team mate and not a competitor?

Let me tell you this, you’re not alone. You’re taking up this challenge with a good number of other couples.

I see our marriages blossoming!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
Our marriage is flourishing as a palm tree. Together, we are working together to put to best use our individual strengths in order to keep our marriage working. (Amen)

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Father in the Name of Jesus, help my spouse and I to see ourselves as team mates and not as competitors for us to have a successful marriage.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment. (1Cor. 1:10)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Your spouse is a team mate, not a competitor. Identify areas in which your partner has certain weaknesses and prayerfully help them to overcome it.

BIBLE READING FOR TODAY
Ecclesiastes 4

Marriage Is Work

Marriage Is Work


For your marriage to work, both spouse must be committed to it.

No matter how you try to involve a third party or get counsel from a spiritual head, it still leaves you with the responsibility of working out your marriage.

At a point in our marriage, hubby and I were so preoccupied, house chores were heaped up and the house untidy. Several times, we tried to fix the house, we could do but little because we gave more attention to other things.

At some point, we called for assistance to clean up the house but we realized that as relieving as it was, the person could not do everything as desired- there was restriction to our inner chamber which needed attention as well.We made out time and determined to clean up the house even when it was not convenient.

The Holy spirit used this scenario to teach us basic principles that makes a marriage work.

Help is good, seeking counsel is not out of place either, but it is your sole responsibility to make your marriage work!

“Lady wisdom build a lovely home, Sir fool comes along and tears it down brick by brick (Proverb 14:1 MSG)”.

It takes a Lady wisdom and Sir wisdom (not sir fool) to make a successful marriage.

And wisdom in marriage can be displayed as;

1. When both spouse decide and determine to work things out in their marriage. You must know the needs in your marriage and be ready to pay the price!

2. Commitment to your spouse and your home which builds your marriage.

3. Don’t rest responsibility on your spouse, marriage is team work and your best team mate is your partner.

The spirit of marriage has never outgrown love, sacrifice and dedication.
Best marriage is an experience of two determined lovers not two married people.

Your marriage will continue in its state of rest (where and when you stop building) until an external force (wisdom, commitment, sacrifice, determination…) impacts on it.Your marriage will be as beautiful, peaceful and organized as your heart is.

Little wonder that the Bible says: as a man thinketh in his heart so he is.
You don’t have to settle for a scattered marriage when you have what it takes to make it successful. Just a little more and a little more effort will fix your home.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am a blessing in my marriage!

PRAYER FOR THE DAY.
Lord, I receive grace to build a joyous and victorious marriage

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Proverbs 14:1 (NET)
Every wise woman builds her household, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.

ACTION PLAN
Resolve to work out your dream home

BIBLE READING:
Genesis 24

How To Handle An Affair When Discovered

How To Handle An Affair When Discovered


A lot of couples have called my husband on this issue in the past few days.

This could be like a night mare, when you discovered your spouse is having an affair.

Your spouse is actually ‘cheating’ on you.

You should know that there is a good and a bad way to handle this.

Joh 14:6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.

There is always a God way and a man way to achieving things. Dealing with this issue of infidelity is not left out.

The issue of unfaithfulness should be treated intelligently, strategically and prayerfully.

Things you may want to take note of that will help you handle the situation well.

1. Can you trace the issue of unfaithfulness to the time of courtship?

Were you and your spouse involved in pre-marital sex?

Did you notice any form of cheating while courting?

If the answer is yes, then the issue of unfaithfulness is not a ‘now’ thing.

2. Ask yourself, have I been careless in any way?


This is not to blame yourself, nor have a pity party or be self condemned.

It is to be true to yourself.

This helps you to identify loopholes to cover.

3. Is your spouse repentant?

Genuinely? Is he/she truly sorrowful about this evil, not only to you but to God?

Godly sorrow will lead to true repentance

2Co 7:10
For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.

4. Does your spouse feel sorry and was it a mistake or a deliberate act, a temptation, a seduction, a trap, a revenge or a game?

You can get to know this by his/her words and what actions he/she demonstrates.

If he or she is truly repentant there is hope.

5. Is your spouse ready to be counseled and go and seek help?

This is very important and shows your spouse’s willingness to learn from their mistake.

It also shows humility and meekness. It shows he or she is willing to be accountable and that means a lot.

5. Does your spouse admit he/she is wrong?

This is necessary and goes a long way to know if there will be progress. Denial is not a good sign.

6. Does your spouse see the need for God as the only one who can forgive and give strength against adultery?

Psa 51:3 -4
For I acknowledge my transgressions: and my sin is ever before me. Against thee, thee only, have I sinned, and done this evil in thy sight: that thou mightest be justified when thou speakest, andbe clear when thou judgest.

These questions are important to find out the real state of things.

It could just be a case of being careless in which case you don’t have to condemn him/her but lovingly forgive and do the necessary things to shut the door against the enemy that seeks to destroy your home.

Unlike popular opinion, you don’t have anything to do with intruder. He /she was just a distraction.

In some cases, you may have to confront the intruder and tell him/her your spouse is no more available but avoid violent confrontations. Confrontation should never be done alone. Get your Pastor, elder, parents involved.

This is necessary for spouses who are timid.

Never waste time and energy exchanging words with an intruder.

You do not have any business with the intruder.

Make up with your spouse and renew your covenant. Plug all loopholes. Concentrate on each other.

I know there are other complications and deeper issues, when the spouse is not even interested again in the marriage or when there is love child involved. We will discuss these dynamics another day.

God bless your marriage

Confession of the day
I handle my marriage with discretion

Prayer for the day
Lord, help me manage the affairs of my marriage well

Thoughts of the day
Marriage is a covenant. I honour this covenant no matter what

Action plan
I pay more attention to my marriage

Bible reading
John 7

How To Protect Your Marriage

How To Protect Your Marriage


Man: And why is this toy here in the living room?

Woman: (looks and continues what she’s doing)

Man: I’m I not talking to someone?

Woman: But sweetheart, there is nothing wrong with that toy there now.

Man: This is a living room for crying out loud. What if we have guests?

Woman: Babe, this thing is insignificant. Its too small for anyone to even notice it.

Man: (affirmatively) I don’t want to see it here.

Woman: So where do you want me to put it?

Man: I don’t know. (Absent mindedly)Maybe in the kitchen or anywhere.

Woman: (surprised) kitchen? Are you kidding me?

Man: (getting irritated) Just take this thing away. After all, your baby hasn’t arrived yet. If you start littering the house with baby toys now, what will you do when you finally give birth? Please don’t get me upset.

Woman: my baby hasn’t arrived yet? Like…MY baby? MY baby? not OUR baby?

Man: oh, come of it. You know that’s not what I mean (tries to touch her)…

Woman: (jerks his hands off)…don’t touch me (walks out of him into the room)

This is how a little, seemingly insignificant thing degenerated into a big mess.

Song of Solomon 2:15 The Message (MSG)
Then you must protect me from the foxes, foxes on the prowl,Foxes who would like nothing better than to get into our flowering garden.

It is your duty to protect your marriage.Protect your wife, protect your husband.

May I point out that the foxes will not come as foxes.

They will come as disagreements, arguments, little fights and the likes.

A wise spouse will spot them from afar off, before it comes close enough to cause damage.

May God bless our homes.

CONFESSION FOR TODAY
I am a wise spouse.

PRAYER FOR TODAY
Lord, help me to stay sensitive.

THOUGH FOR TODAY
1 Peter 3:7 (KJV) Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

ACTION PLAN
Make up your mind to guide against anything that so easily besets you towards your spouse.

BIBLE READING
John 1

Straight Talk To Couples

Straight Talk To Couples


The truth must be told.

Every couple has an assignment and purpose from the Lord.
God is an investor.

He invested so much in us and expected us to go forth and multiply his investment on us and our marriages.

I would like to talk to us about three aspects of our marriage.

1. Agreement
2. Communication
3. Jeru trip

1. Agreement

Amo 3:3
Can two walk together, except they be agreed?.Couples should see to it that they are in agreement all of the time.

It doesn’t cost any thing to agree with your spouse, but it cost a whole lot not be in agreement with your spouse.

When you are not in agreement, eventually you open the door for the enemy to afflict and torment the marriage.

Most of the crisis in marriage are an accumulation of years of walking in disobedience.

You are married and you want to do your own thing.It cannot work.

In marriage you have to understand the marriage institution itself as a living entity that thrives on rules and regulations.

You have to learn these rules for your marriage to work.

2. Communication

This is the live-wire of any marriage.

Some people are natural talkers. They talk about every thing and anything.
There is never a dull moment with them. They say their minds out and don’t hide their feelings.

Now this does not make them superior or always right.

Couples are encouraged to always talk and learn to converse as friends.

Gist, gossip, talk about your fears, become vulnerable to each other.

3. Jeru trip

This is very, very important to the health of the marriage.

In fact, how healthy a marriage is can be known by how frequent and how intimate their sexual life is.

The couple has to work things out.

For example, the wife doesn’t enjoy jeru trip, has a low libido or has a medical condition, it is not the end of the world.

Walk through this path together.

Be patient with her.

Maybe it’s the husband that is shy and doesn’t talk or is always tired.

Don’t just keep quiet.

There are some natural medicines or even fruits that can help out.

Just seek help and do that early before things get out of hands.

Enjoy your marriage.

Confession of the day
I have grace to devote myself to my marriage

Prayer for the day
Lord, help me to take seriously the things important to my marriage

Thoughts of the day
There are rules that govern the marriage institution. I have to obey and honour them

Action plan
I pay more attention to my marriage

Bible reading
John 4

Something Every Husband Will Love

Something Every Husband Will Love


I think every wife should go and ask their husbands just one thing they will like for them to be doing for them.

There are so many things to be done, that sometimes a wife is confused as to what she has to do .

We hear of stories of husband who are not satisfied with jeru trip and they are not talking about it to their wives.

Some of our husbands love their food in a particular way, but pressure of work and other things have prevented wives from doing this all the time.

So you see, every wife will have the do the task of finding out, (maybe every once in a while), what their husbands want.

Some times,we are busy focusing on the wrong things or the less important things leaving the very important things.

When you ask your husband what really it is he wants, it may sound ridiculous, funny or even ‘stupid’ (lol.. did I just say that…)

It will also help our focus.

Another thing It does is that it creates room for talking, discussing and revealing ourselves.

That is really true intimacy.

Who we have heart to heart talks all of the time is who we are bonded with.

Another thing it does is that it shows our commitment to want to work on our marriage.

Our husbands becomes proud of us and the fact that we are willing to make things work.

You want to find out what matters most to your husband.

Some may say they prefer you to be more loving and romantic, they want you to touch them more, they want their sexual life to be enjoyable and not monotonous, they want good food, they want you to be respectful, they want you to pay attention more to the home and kids, the list is as wide as it possibly can be.

Like the words of Mary to the servant ‘whatever he asks you to do, do it’.

God bless you marriage.

Confession of the day
I am well pleasing to my husband. Our marriage is blissful.

Prayer of the day
Lord have mercy on us and heal our marriage.

Thought of the day 1 Peter 3:1 (KJV)  
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

Action plan
Ask your husband what is the one thing he wants you to do better

Bible reading
John 6

Talking To Your Marriage

Talking To Your Marriage


Yes, I mean you talking to your marriage.

Your marriage became a living entity the day you walked down the aisle and stood before a priest to declare those marriage vows.

It became recognized in heaven, on earth and in hell as a living institution.
Like every living thing, your marriage can hear your voice and respond.

The truth is that it can hear other voices also, but your voice supersedes every other voice.

Other people may be speaking negative things to and about your marriage, speaking its destruction, its struggles, lack of peace, unity, love, lack of break through, malice and all sorts.

But not you!

That is why we should watch those we talk to about our marriage.

The question now is, ‘What are you saying to and about your marriage?

The future of your marriage is in what you are saying consciously or unconsciously to it.

Isa 54:17
No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue [that] shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This [is] the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness [is] of me, saith the LORD.

It is God’s design and will, that no weapon against your marriage shall prosper.

Every thing contrary to your marriage must give way, as you super impose the judgement written.

You are a priest over your marriage.

Every couple should have scriptures, what God has said and good things they confess and declare about their marriages.

These declarations should cover all areas of the marriage.

You should learn to speak out loud what you want to see, not your present situation.

Your declaration should cover, your spouse, your finances, your career, your sexuality, doing the will of God and every area that has issues per time.

Your declaration has a way of ensuring all things work together for your good in the spirit realm.

Declare this over your marriage, but this is in no way exhaustive:

My marriage of born of God. It overcomes the world and every negative thing that rises against it.

My marriage is blessed. My husband/wife is blessed.Our differences do not cause issues among us.

We understand each other perfectly because God gives us supernatural understanding. My spouse is my best friend.

The love of God that is marked by giving surrounds and overwhelms our marriage. I decree and declare and speak peace into my marriage. Peace, spirit, soul and body.

I speak prosperity, help and mercy into my marriage.No one can stand against us because God is with us.

My spouse and I are happy and it is well with us in Jesus name I declare, Amen

Wow. You would have done well speaking like this every single day over your marriage.

This is how we fight for our marriage, with our words.
God bless your marriage

Confession of the day
My marriage is blissful. I enjoy days of heaven on earth.

Prayer of the day
Lord, help me to always keep speaking to my marriage

Thought of the day
This is the good fight of faith. I must engage it.

Action plan
Use this declaration or write out yours and declare it over your marriage

Bible reading
Mark 11

Things that Affect Our Marriage Part 2

Things that Affect Our Marriage Part 2


This is the concluding part of this topic. We looked at 3 major things that could possibly affect marriage.

They are:
1. Male – female differences
2. Temperamental differences
3. Wives want to train their husbands and love their children.

So this morning, we continue.

4. Immaturity on both sides

You must learn to matured.

Maturity doesn’t necessarily come with age but with experience.

There are some childish behaviors that just would not work in marriage.

That is why we say, marriage is not for boys and girls.

One of the signs of maturity is forgiveness

Unforgiving posture is a cancer in marriage. It eats up peace, unity and love.

Another one is strife and keeping malice.

We have several others like not eating because of anger.

Crying instead of intelligently explaining yourself, trying to get even in marriage.

Whatever might be an immature action in your marriage, avoid it.

5. Covetousness and lack of focus

God has dealt with us well.

We need to learn to be grateful with whatever God has done for us.

Let us stop focusing on other people’s marriages and work at our own.

Being covetous will not get you any where.

Focus on what God has given you, the grass always seems greener on the other side.

6. Lack and Insufficiency

Lack of finance is a major cause of stress and quarrel in marriage.

Love does not pay our bills and provide for the necessities of life, money does.

So not managing the times of insufficiency could affect our marriage.
In times of lack and insufficiency, we will do well to build commitment

7. Anger

Anger can adversely affect our marriage.

As couples we should learn about anger management.

We should disagree and not get angry over our disagreement.

The couples have to learn how not to speak or act in anger with each other.

8. In-laws

Parents and in laws could be a blessing.

Not knowing how to manage our parents could be a major threat to the marriage.

We should put our feet down on issues when we need to do so.

9. Infidelity

Unfaithfulness of either spouse or both spouse can affect marriage.

All forms of affairs and out right adultery can affect the peace of any marriage

10. Laziness

This could affect the marriage if either of the spouse is lazy.

If the wife is lazy with cooking and other house chores and the husband is lazy at work, this will affect the marriage.

Let’s work hard at avoiding things that can affect our marriage.

Confession of the day
I avoid things that affects my marriage

Prayer for the day
Lord, help grant grace to avoid these things and work for the peace of my marriage

Thoughts of the day
Marriage only works, when we learn to work at it.

Action plan
Begin to take positive steps towards making your marriage work.

Bible reading
Eph 6

Things That Affect Our Marriages

Things That Affect Our Marriages


There are many things that affects the well being of our married life, our home, our relationship with our spouse and so on.

We have the job of making sure that those things that affects marriages don’t affect our own marriage.

No matter how small or little they seem. Little, insignificant things that destroy marriages.

The list is not exhaustive, but just a few to mention.

A sage once told a young boy that sought his counsel, ‘Whether it liveth or dieth, it is in your hands’.

The same way, whether our marriage dies or live, it is in our hands.

Let us work at jointly and individually and make our marriages work.

Things that affects marriages

1. Male -female differences
This is major cause of quarrels in marriage. Male – female difference exists.

The male would never come to know how a female thinks or reasons, but he can try to understand and empathize with her.

Just like a man can never know what it is being pregnant and delivering a baby, even if he is a doctor.

2. Temperamental differences

Your temperaments will always be very different.

By now, you know that you are very different from your spouse.

Temperamentally, you will be very different.

Opposite temperaments will always attract.

The point of your attraction will always be the in marriage the point of your many quarrels.

Wisdom is learning to work out the principles that make marriage works..

3. Wives want to train their husbands and love their children while they are supposed to love their husband and train their children.

A wife does not have the authority to train her husband.

You train your children and love your husband.

As a wife you don’t correct upwards, you only suggest.

You don’t go around picking his faults and trying to change him.

I will continue tomorrow.

Confession of the day
I have grace to avoid things that affects my marriage

Prayer for the day
Lord, help me to to avoid these things and work for the peace of my marriage

Thoughts of the day
If I want my marriage to work, i have to work it

Action plan
I begin to work towards making my marriage work.

Bible reading
Eph 5

Loving Your Wife

Loving Your Wife

Loving your wife

Loving your wife is about the best decision you can make.

The bible says ,if we love our wives we love ourselves.

Eph 5:28
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

We can see from the above scripture how important loving your wife is.

Eph 5:29
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

In Message translation, the same truth was emphasized

Eph 5:28 -29
And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage.
No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church,

Two principles can be noticed in the Message translation.

1. You are doing yourself a favor when you love your wife.

2. You are one in marriage.

That means no matter how hard it seems to love your wife or no matter how unlovable your wife seems, these two principles will help you to be able to love them.

If every husband would see loving their wife as doing themselves a favor and not any one else, they would love their wives without complaining.

And that you are already one in marriage and that loving your wife is like feeding and pampering your own body.

There is no point starving and treating your body harshly.

A healthy body will serve you because it will have stamina to carry you through the journey and function properly.

We love our bodies and we take care of it.

Taking our bath, going to the spa, gym, saloon, barber, wearing different clothes ans shoes of different designers, majority of our actions are to protect and care for our bodies.

We also see ourselves in the way we appear.

In essence our bodies represent us.

People will address us the way we are dressed.

So let every man treat their wives with so much respect and dignity respecting them.

Loving your wife comes with a lot of benefits.

You are happy as the husband for fulfilling scriptures and your wife is happy doing you well.

God bless your marriage

Confession of the day
I fulfill my high calling of being an helper meet to my spouse

Prayer for the day
Lord, help me to fulfill my assignment no matter how difficult it is in Jesus name.

Thoughts of the day
God calls with a mandate and purpose to fulfill. He also strengthens to fulfill the assignment

Action plan
I will ask my spouse “how can I be an helper meet to you?”

Couple Goals Or Nay?

Couple Goals Or Nay?


Making Marriage Work

Looking at the society today, it is filled with so much negativism about life and marriage especially.

With the news of divorce and stories of failed marriages here and there, there is need to put in so much effort in our marriages too.

Marriage requires work for it to work. That couple you so much admire put so much work into theirs and I’m here to encourage you to do same in yours too.

Whatever you do [whatever your task may be], work from the soul [that is, put in your very best effort], as [something done] for the Lord and not for men (Colossians 3:23 AMP)

Your marriage can be another person’s goals too. Your marriage must work.

This shouldn’t be just a decision but a conviction and mindset.

Make God a priority. Make Him the number one. Understanding that you have only one source (God) and your happiness comes from Him alone is very crucial.

Put God in charge of your work, then what you’ve planned will take place. (Proverbs 16:3 MSG)

Learn to pray as a couple

Study the Bible together

Engage in reading challenges as husband and wife.

Do fun things together.

Find the right company, those who are willing to hold your hands and walk through this journey together.

There are lots of resources online that will keep you both motivated.

Get someone you both can be accountable too. Someone both of you can easily talk to, and someone who prays for and with you.

You’re not in a competition with your spouse, it’s a partnership venture.

When one partner is weak, it takes a toll on both partners. When both partners are strong, then they will be able to go far together.

The goal is to stay together and in love forever. Are you ready to take up this challenge?

No matter how good or bad the state of your marriage is now, it can be better. Your marriage is worth fighting for and it is definitely worth the work.

Are you willing to put in work into your marriage?

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
My marriage is blessed and fruitful. Divorce will not be heard in my home. I commit to making my marriage work and I see God bringing it to pass

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Father in the Name of Jesus, grant me the grace to put in the required effort to make my marriage work. THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Whatever you do [whatever your task may be], work from the soul [that is, put in your very best effort], as [something done] for the Lord and not for men, (Colossians 3:23 AMP)

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Marriage requires putting in a lot of work. Identify the areas you need to work on in your marriage and begin to work on them one area at a time.

BIBLE READING FOR TODAY
Philippians 3

Making The Most Of Your Time Together

Making The Most Of Your Time Together


As husband and wife our relationship is actually till death do us part. In other words we are stuck together for good. So, in the ideal sense we should just prepare ourselves to enjoy our lives together, period.

Let’s stop the blame game, the unforgiving spirit and those little tantrums we throw as couples.

I know it’s not easy. I also have been there.

I have thrown tantrums, I have been in unforgiving mode, I have fought and done the silent treatments. I have been misunderstood.

But you know what, when you look back at such behaviours and immaturity, you will see that it was not worth it.

We usually feel we have rights in marriage.

Well, we do have rights, but if we want our marriage to work out beautifully well, we must learn to forgo our rights atimes and swallow our pride.

We must learn not to yield to the flesh when dealing with our spouse.

Yielding to the flesh always work counter productive effects.

The flesh always work contrary to the Spirit.

Our spirit, recreated in Christ, will always seek for forgiveness, but our flesh will always seek for vengeance and revenge.

Each time we yield to our flesh rather than our spirit, we are not doing it God’s way.

Everybody at one time or another have yielded to the flesh before.

God does not condemn us but calls us to repentance so far as our repentance is genuine.

He also promised to help us anytime we are faced with situations beyond our control.

Many time I have asked the Holy spirit to help me and He has helped me beautifully well.

I wish I could say that each time I asked for help I did receive that help.

The help came quite alright but it was not the type I wanted or the way I wanted it.

So instead of receiving the help, I simply ignored it.

The Holy spirit will always send help to us.

Let us be careful to obey the leading of the Holy Spirit and be quick to repent whenever we are convicted of any sin.

As we strive to do that we get better, more matured and our marriage becomes heaven on earth.

God bless your marriage

Confession of the day
My marriage is blissful. I enjoy days of heaven on earth.

Prayer of the day
Lord help me. Help my marriage

Thought of the day
Marriage is on earth so I have work at it while on earth.

Action plan
Do not yield to the works of the flesh

Bible reading
John 5

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