A group of young people were having a discussion and one of them said ‘I am done with this relationship and marriage thing sef… Maybe it isn’t meant for me’.
Another one said ‘I think God just decides who He wants married or not. Let me just have a baby daddy and I am OK’.
Proverbs 23:18 (AMP) says For
surely there is a latter end [a future and a reward], and your hope and
expectation shall not be cut off.
That one thing that God will never do is to disappoint His children. There is never a man who is on God’s side who can say God has disappointed him or her. See, God knows you have needs, He knows you have expectations…
For instance, people are expected to get married at a certain stage of their lives. So that it is not happening now does not mean it will never happen.
Psalms 138:2 (NLT)… I praise
your name for your unfailing love and faithfulness; for your promises are
backed by all the honor of your name.
Now the question is are you a
child of God? The above passage says ALL of God’s promises are backed up by the
honour of His name. Meaning if you want to be sure of results, it has to be on
the basis of God’s promises alone. And how do you know His promises? It is
through his WORD!
Job 33:8 (NLT) “You have spoken
in my hearing, and I have heard your very words.
One of God’s weakest points is
speaking His own words back to Him. He can’t resist it. That husband is in the
word. That wife is in the word. Those children are in the word. That
job/promotion is in the word. That house or ministry is in the word.
Numbers 14:28 (NLT) says Now tell them this: ‘As surely as I live, declares the lord, I will do to you the very things I heard you say.
The only wicked thing you will therefore do to yourself is not to allow the word of God dwell in you richly.
Don’t let the devil cheat you. Even if it doesn’t look like it, keep saying those words.
Go back to those things God had told you in the secret place.
Hold Him by His word!
However like I said, it is only children that can accurately say their Father’s words. Are you truly a child in the kingdom or you have grown wings?
Do you know that it takes your sleeping to bring the right lover?
Ah! You are wondering how right?
And the Lord God caused a DEEP SLEEP TO FALL UPON ADAM, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, MADE HE A WOMAN, AND BROUGHT HER UNTO THE MAN. (Genesis 2:21-22 KJV)
Did you see that?
It was time to bring Adam’s lover to him. And Adam went into a frenzy, searching around for she that was meant for him.
But he found none suitable for him!
It may be time for you to marry… and like
Adam, you may have been searching everywhere, and found no one. You have lost your peace… you have become
anxious. You have lost your
confidence/faith in God (and in His promises)… you have allowed the fear that
you will not likely get married pervade every part of your being.
“Where is my lover?” You cry
yourself to sleep every night. And wake up the next day with the same cry. You are at the verge of losing it… you are
quietly but quickly sliding into depression!
Stop right there my friend!
Follow me as we draw some lessons from the
first man that got married… Adam.
Notice it was God that certified it was time for Adam to get his lover. So God may have told you it’s time to get married. Fine. We will come back to it.
Notice again that Adam did not see his lover till he fell into a deep sleep.
For me, being awake signifies being ANXIOUS, while being asleep signifies being at REST. When you are awake, there are high chances you would interfere with the process. That God told you this is the year your lover will come to you doesn’t translate to, “Get anxious and start searching frantically!”
Quite on the contrary, that promise of God should actually bring you to the place of rest, where you are doubly sure that God is working out something for you… that God is putting finishing touches on your lover, and bringing him/her to you.
And therefore you take rest.
That promise of God should put you to sleep… to rest
It is in that place of rest that you can accurately discern your right lover when he/she appears.
For thus says the Lord God , the Holy One of Israel: “In RETURNING and REST you shall be saved; In QUIETNESS and CONFIDENCE shall be your strength.” But you would not
Isaiah 30:15 NKJV
Your salvation in the area of marriage lies in you RETURNING (being found in God always) and taking REST in God
Your strength to hold on and receive the promise of God lies in not losing your QUIETNESS and CONFIDENCE.
Don’t allow the things your five natural senses can perceive to make you lose any of these virtues
My sister/brother, sleep to bring your lover!
Sleeping doesn’t translate to running home after service in Church without exchanging pleasantries with people.
Taking rest is not equal to not being in platforms that bring you in contact with the right set of people.
Go for that Church youth picnic.
Join that group that meets every week to visit orphanages.
Taking rest is more of a matter of the heart first.
Is your heart anxious, and always seeing every one as a potential lover?
Then you are not at rest.
Take rest, and always get involved in platforms, and your lover will not tarry.
Dupe was worried. What has she done?
She has broken his heart. She didn’t mean to. He has left her. She lost both
ways. This all happened in a twinkle of an eye. If Only she had been patient.
She was in a relationship with George all this while… A beautiful relationship it was. They had it all.
God fearing background. Knew they
were meant for each other. Only for the devil to strike his ugly head.
Bible says in Pro 4:23 Keep thy
heart with all diligence; for out of it [are] the issues of life.
She left her heart exposed and
the devil took advantage of it. The lust of the eyes, lust of the flesh, also
came into play.
She met Smith at Work, who was
newly employed. He had the eyes for her. He was handsome, tall, had a good
accent and was very friendly with her. Always on her tail, gisting, going to
eat together to the extent of him calling her late at night.
Her mistake: She never told
George anything about him. She started getting fond of him, her feelings for
George was in doubt. She began to dislike his calls, dislike him from visiting
her, finding faults with him.
It got so bad, that they had a fight
and she said so many harsh words towards him, because of her feelings for the
other guy. George was hurt, crushed and pained! He ended the relationship with
He couldn’t imagine what he had
done wrong, because this attitude had repeated itself over and over
Meanwhile, Smith took advantage
of her and played her with other girls. Eventually he told her he couldn’t
marry her. She was devastated.
George wasn’t taking her calls, or
trying to listen to her. She cried….Oh!
The thief cometh not, but for to
steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and
that they might have [it] more abundantly.
What has she done? She had
allowed the devil in. She allowed herself to be lured away.
-Keep your heart guarded at all times
-Dislodge from too friendly opposite genders
-Tell your partner of any new development
-Talk, Talk, Talk with your partner.
The devil indeed comes to steal,
kill and destroy, be sober! Be vigilant!