What To Do When Your Lover is A Perpetual Snub

What To Do When Your Lover is A Perpetual Snub

It can be painful.

It can be hurting.

It can be debilitating, degrading and reprehensible depending on the degree of the snub moves.

It is one thing if you are not emotionally connected or you don’t feel any deep thing, but what do you do when you so passionately love a snub!

The word “snub” means is “to rebuff, ignore, or spurn disdainfully.”

It also means to deliberately ignore or treat rudely.

So, here you are so much in love with this guy or lady who is a snub.

Here are few things to note:

Do not ignore the attitude!

If indeed you intend to marry such a person, you cannot afford to turn a blind eye to the situation.

You don’t enter a land without observing it first!

Numbers 13:19 (MSG)  
Observe the land: Is it pleasant or harsh? Describe the towns where they live: Are they open camps or fortified with walls?

Wedding will not make it better or change anything. In fact, the snub acts will go to the next level because of additional pressures that come with marriage.

Pressures and a lots of stress come with marriage, okay!

Here is how apostle Paul puts it.
1 Corinthians 7:28 (MSG)  
But there’s certainly no sin in getting married, whether you’re a virgin or not. All I am saying is that when you marry, you take on additional stress in an already stressful time, and I want to spare you if possible.

So. when this stress adds up with an unrepentant snub, it can really get out of hand.

So, you cannot afford to ignore.

The issues have to be confronted and trashed.

Why is he being snobbish?

Could it be he is disinterested?

It is not a nice feeling to love the one who does not love you.

It’s a time waster, a destiny distraction, a dissipation of both spiritual and emotional energy.

Could it be she is never in love with you but doesn’t know how to tell you because of your too many gifts?

Now this topic is deep.

The first thing is not to live in denial of this attitude either as the giver or receiver of the unpleasant attitudes.

Marriage is two friends who genuinely love each other coming together.

A marriage where one loathes the other perpetually will not last.

A marriage where one party makes all the efforts at making the relationship work, while the other looks on and keep giving excuses will not last.

Nobody should use temperament as an excuse! No matter how how much of an introvert you are, when you are with the one you love, you will naturally open up. You will talk, laugh together, and all that!

You are not yet married and you are already being manipulated with silent treatments, disrespectful attitudes and the likes, so what is going to happen in marriage?

You see why you need a lot of counseling and orientation?

(You may use the whatapp button below the page to find out some of the courses and classes you can take that will help you.)

Too many people get into relationships without even knowing the purpose!

Every man and woman has a need to be loved, appreciated and praised.

You cannot keep using a bat on your lover’s head and expect all will be well.

So you sit down and talk about this issue.

So, that it won’t just be that you have been in love with yourself all along..

How beautiful is it when two friends who love each other come together?

How terrible is it when one is making the pursuit while the other disdains and rebuff every good action?

Why is it like that? Find out?

Are there parental dysfunctions?

Is there a past abuse that brought emotional and attitudinal damage?

Is the person incapable of showing and receiving love because she is closed up? Why is he or she closed up?

That you are constantly locked up in the legs in compromise all the time does not mean there is love or you will eventually marry. Sexual compromise deceives! It gives you a feeling that you are intimate but you are not. It is an illegal intimacy that opens up to demonic oppressions.

Is the guy just hanging on for the benefit of jeru trip while marriage is never in his agenda?

Those are pertinent issues that must be trashed.

I should be able to write more on this in the coming days, because I have not even started yet.

But we stop here this morning!

I pray for your relationship, may God help you in the very area where you need Him in Jesus name.

You will not be confused.

God will help you indeed.

Be blessed.

Meanwhile today is a special day o! 1996, on this very day, Pastor Sophia said YES to me, and she IS STILL saying YES! Hip hip hip…

I have a pleasant spirit

Lord, take every animosity away from me in Jesus name

Numbers 13:19 (CEV)  and if they live in open towns or walled cities. See if the land is good for growing crops and find out what kinds of trees grow there. It’s time for grapes to ripen, so try to bring back some of the fruit that grows there.

Write out what your lover appreciates about you. If you don’t know, ask him or her.

Proverbs 11

The Yoke Every Lover Must Bear

The Yoke Every Lover Must Bear

‘But mum you can’t talk to me that way, I am an adult’…

Jessica was shouting at the top of her voice. She was angry because her mother told her to go to the market for her on her way back from work the next day.

She refused, saying she was going to be tired and that her younger sister should go instead.

Her Mother: it is you I want to go

Jessica: I will soon go to my husband’s house anyway, then you will stop disturbing me

Jessica’s mum: is that the way you will be behaving in your husband’s house or is that the way you would reply your mother-in-law?

Lamentations 3:27 (AMP) says It is good for a man that he should bear the yoke [of divine disciplinary dealings] in his youth.

Listen to what the message bible says in Lamentations 3:27

It’s a good thing when you’re young to stick it out through the hard times.

Truthfully, many of us youths want to run away from certain disciplines that are necessary for our lives.

We sometimes think that our parents, pastors and spiritual fathers are too hard on us. But you know what, no matter the level of knowledge in the world today or the level of sophisticated technology, God’s standard cannot and will not reduce.

Now is the time to fast. Now is the time to pray. Now is the time to volunteer. Now is the time to read that book. Now is the time to take that job. Now is the time to learn that skill. Now is the time to spend your energy and time on that which profits. Now is the time to say no to sin.

You don’t want to be doing the wrong things at the right time. Neither do you want to be doing the right things at the wrong time. Some don’t even have right or wrong time.

Please, don’t gamble with your life now that you are still ‘young’. It takes a whole person to work out a relationship. It takes a person who has built up capacity to stick it through marriage.

Don’t run away from challenges. Face it and conquer. You are a victor. You might be the reason why someone out there is still holding on. Don’t give up just yet. God is counting on you. Your generation is counting on you. Your children are counting on you.

Have you seen some old people do certain things and you are wondering what they were doing in their younger days? Though motivational speaking has tried to make them feel they can do anything anytime but really, there are some things that can be too late.

Don’t let the young ones use you as a negative example to learn from. Be a positive inspiration. Don’t gamble with God and play away your destiny. Say no to sin and stay focused on God!

Things don’t just happen. They are made to happen. Make things happen in your own time!

Proverbs 24:10 (NLT)
If you fail under pressure, your strength is too small.

Finally remember that your spouse is going to need that strength of yours someday. The Bible says iron sharpeneth iron. Don’t go into a relationship to become a liability. You want to be able to add value to the younger generation when you are older too.

Remember that you cannot give what you don’t have.

God bless you.

I am not a liability.

oh Lord strengthen my weaknesses

do you tend to run away from things that challenge you?

be willing to enlarge your capacity

Proverbs 24

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That Prayer Concerning Your Wedding Will Be Answered

That Prayer Concerning Your Wedding Will Be Answered

I want to quickly encourage dear singles this morning!

God will answer your prayers!

Wedding? Job? International job? Open doors? Financial intervention?
Whatever it is, God will answer you.

Stay in faith.

Believe God.

Don’t let past experiences harden your heart.

Unbelief and prayers are not good friends.

You have to learn how to believe God and to also know that God wants the best for you!

Do you know Jesus has a weakness?

Let me tell you His weakness.

He will always answer prayers!

Let me show you a scripture that will amaze you.

Mark 5:12-13 (MKJV)  
And all the demons begged Him, saying, Send us into the pigs, that we may enter into them.  [13]  And immediately Jesus allowed them. And the unclean spirits went out and entered into the pigs. And the herd ran violently down a steep place into the sea (they were about two thousand), and were choked in the sea.

Did you see that?

Demons prayed to Jesus and he answered their prayers!

You are not a demon?

You are God’s own child, a joint heir with Christ, redeemed and bought over, blood bought and Holy Ghost filled and sanctified, precious in His sight, a King and a Priest!}

Jesus will answer your prayers! Only pray in faith!

Don’t go back and forth!

You don’t even need to “beg!”

You only need to ask and not ask amiss.

James 4:3 (KJV)  
Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.

What is asking amiss?

How does one know he is not asking amiss?

The Amplified Bible explains better.
James 4:3 (AMPC)  
[Or] you do ask [God for them] and yet fail to receive, because you ask with wrong purpose and evil, selfish motives. Your intention is [when you get what you desire] to spend it in sensual pleasures.

No need for any more explanation.

Read it again and meditate on it.

When you want to pray, the scripture will pop up from your spirit and guide you!

I pray for you, God will answer your prayers in Jesus name!

You will have the travails of your heart!

So shall it be for you!

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Confession of the day
God will answer me.

Prayer for the day
Lord, hearken to the voice of my heart

Thoughts of the day
James 4:3 (CEV)  Yet even when you do pray, your prayers are not answered, because you pray just for selfish reasons.

Action plan
Read a good book on prayers

Bible reading
John 17

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The Voice Of Your Lover

The Voice Of Your Lover

Getting to your lover was not designed to be difficult! You know why?

Because you were not meant to do it on your own. You were meant to receive help (guidance) from the spirit realm.

Part of the reason it may seem one hell of a task getting a lover may be because you’ve not really acquainted yourself with the ways of Your Guide.

Let me start this way.

Do you really know that there’s a Voice that wants to lead you in the right way so you can meet your lover? I mean, is it in your consciousness that you are not alone in this business?

That’s where it actually starts from… because you cannot experience what you are not conscious of.

And yes, you need guidance in this business [many there be that have lost their lives (figuratively and literally) because they shi-married.]

Imagine that your right lover is at the end of ‘Peace Avenue’, and you are headed down ‘Anxiety Street’. You would meet a lover, but you would agree with me that s/he would be all shades of wrong!

But Your Guide doesn’t want you to end up with the lover at the end of

Anxiety Street! So the voice calls out to you, right from the point you missed your way, and directs you aright, so you can meet your lover.
Hmmmm… what a beauty!

I think the Scripture says it better even!


“Your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it,” Whenever you turn to the right hand Or whenever you turn to the left.”

Isaiah 30:21 NKJV

Isn’t that beautiful? To know that we are not alone.

There’s a Voice, the Voice of the Lord, that desires to lead us in the right way…



You are still a part of the equation, and so you have a role to play.

Let’s note two of our roles from that Scripture:

1. You must develop ears!

The Voice could speak from before the foundations of the world till the end of times, but if you don’t have ears, you will hear nothing!

So as a single, you must develop ears for the Lord.

Of course you know I’m not talking about physical ears now.

You must work at growing in your sensitivity to the Spirit of God. You must seek to be able to discern His promptings, His nudging, His intuitions in you, etc.

You do this by consistently spending quality (includes quantity also) time with God. You grow familiar with someone you spend time with right?

If your mum calls you from behind, and you can’t recognize her voice, then there must be something wrong… with you!

So as you spend time with God, you become increasingly sensitive to Him, such that you can discern His Voice when He calls from behind you to guide you.

2. You must obey.

Many of us are not progressing, not because we are not hearing, but because we are not obeying.

You know why the Voice is calling from behind you? That’s the last point of your obedience, before you veered off in disobedience.

The more you obey the Voice of the Lord, the more you open up yourself to His Voice! Don’t really expect to hear more when you’ve not obeyed the one you’ve heard. The Voice will keep calling you back, “This is the way!”

Has the Lord instructed you to do anything? It could be a personal adjustment (e.g. to stop gossiping, listening to secular songs, to let go of an offence, etc.)… an assignment (e.g. to start a monthly reach out to homeless folks, etc.)… anything at all… Then it’s time to obey.

Remember, your obedience opens you up to more.

Our walk with God is simply a walk of hearing and obeying!

When you listen and obey in ‘little’ issues, it won’t be difficult for you to little and obey the Voice leading you to your lover.

I have ears for the Voice of the Lord, and I obey.

“The hearing ear and the seeing eye, The Lord has made them both.” Proverbs 20:12 NKJV Pray for the hearing ear!

Our walk with God is simply a walk of hearing and obeying!

Ponder. Is there any Voice I’ve not obeyed? Then seek to obey.

John 16:5-15

Dear, Will You Be Patriotic To Me?

Dear, Will You Be Patriotic To Me?

Bode picks up his phone to call Sally.

Bode: Dear, how are you this morning?

Sally: I am fine, and you?

Bode: I am good, just that I am missing you

Sally: You don’t know more than that.

Bode: May I never know more than that. You are the only brain in my skull

Sally: Uhmmm

Bode: I am serious. I have just been thinking of you.

Sally: You better go and think about Jesus.

Bode: Yes, and you.

Sally: Who are you voting for this morning?

Bode: I don’t even know. Will our vote count?

Sally: Whichever way, but who are you voting for?

Bode: I am not voting. My PVC is in Benue state where I served.

Sally: Ha! seriously? That is not being patriotic at all.

Bode: You have started. Somebody cannot forget PVC abi?

Sally: So, why didn’t you go for it since?

Bode: It’s far now.

Sally: Upon all your arguments on Facebook about politics, No PVC!

Bode: Let’s leave this topic.

Sally: I am not leaving this topic. If you are not patriotic to your nation, how will you be patriotic to me?

Bode: Ha Sally now? It’s like you just want to fight me this morning.

Sally: Not voting shows irresponsibility.

Bode: What has this got to do with our love now?

Sally: Plenty! It means you just have mouth, no action.

Bode: Now, I will not take that. What is the meaning of that nonsense?

Sally: Oh, someone cannot correct you now, and you’ve started abusing me.

Bode: Sorry, but watch your mouth.

Sally: No PVC!

Bode: Thanks, Sister INEC

Sally: Welcome, Brother We want change but no PVC

Bode: Please, it’s enough. Who are you voting for, my patriotic sister? And where is that your polling booth so that I can come and meet you there. Let’s do some “lovinto” there.

Sally: Lovinto ko, Lollypop ni. My PVC is in Kogi State jor

Bode: Ha! Can you imagine.

Sally: Imagine what?

Bode: Chai! Kettle calling pot black.

Sally: Yes now, if it electric kettle nko?

Bode: Ha! Monkey abusing baboon that it’s not walking straight!

Sally: Who is Monkey now?

Bode: Ha! I am not sure of your commitment to this our courtship

Sally: How do you mean?

Bode: You have no PVC!

Sally: Don’t turn this thing around, you are the man.

Bode: But sincerely, is this generation serious at all?

Sally: Most people are not voting and yet complaining.

Bode: Including us!

Sally: Seriously, we need to repent. It’s not good at all.

Bode: But, let me be sure, do you still love me?

Sally: I am thinking

Bode: I promise to be patriotic from now on, to be involved and to ensure you do the same.

Sally: Now you are talking.

Bode: So can we meet at polling booth?

Sally: No way! No PVC, No love talks! Bye, I need to cook for the house…

Bode: Wait.. emmm

I am responsible

Pray that God will open the heavens over Nigeria

1 Timothy 2:1-2 (KJV) I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men; [2] For kings, and for all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty.

If you have your PVC (Nigerians) Go and Vote

1 Tim 2

Beauty is Vain, Charm is Deceptive

Beauty is Vain, Charm is Deceptive

Ronke is tying the knots with Femi soon.

Butterflies in her tummy.

That’s the only thing she thinks of…

Oh , Thank you Lord..

She was eternally grateful….

But Femi on the other hand, was a bit scared…

Why, ….because of her mouth, Her words!

He wasn’t sure, if he was taking the right step…

Ronke was beautiful, had a nice smile, she had everything in right way, but there was a But!

He could still remember how she Shouted at him publicly in front of their friends, when he tried telling her something.

It Crushed him.

His friends were like

O Boy, think well o..

Are you sure you want to enter into this marriage…

This is just one of many…

Words, Anger, Character!

So in as much as you have beauty and charm , please mind the words you say.

Pro 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.

Be wise in your sayings!

Think about a matter before answering!

It’s not everything you need to respond to

Look at Jam 1:19 KJVWherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:


Don’t let every little thing get at you.

If it is anger issues, try to deal with it, let the Holy Spirit help you…

Pro 16:32 KJV
[He that is] slow to anger [is] better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.

Because you see, apart from beauty and charm, you need to have the right qualities and character that attracts a Godly spouse…

Be careful…

Watch the words you say, try to build your partner up and not tear him down.

Stop Assumptions!

Anything you are not clear of,

Talk it out with him or her..

Be apt in listening, slow to speak and slow to anger….

Anger doesn’t show forth the attribute of God….

Beauty alone doesn’t qualify you…

Work on other aspects!

God bless you.

I am patient with my partner….

Father , help me to improve in areas where needed…Say the Area

1 Peter 3:3-4 (KJV)  Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;  [4]  But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

Make a deliberate effort to watch what you say..

James 1:19-27

Happy And Godly Marriage Is A Scam?

Happy And Godly Marriage Is A Scam?

I know quite a few Christian people who have told me they would rather stay single than get married, not because the Lord has commanded them to do so.

Their reason is actually simple and logical: most of the Christian marriages they have seen has filled them with dread.

The experience of other Christian families distorted or coloured the truth of God’s word in their lives. These terrible experiences caused them to believe that the idea of a happy and truly godly Christian home or family is a scam.

Well, I am here to tell you today to shut down that stinking thinking. The devil wants you to think that it is impossible to get married to a Christian man or woman who will love you, and who will always be there with you forever.

This is the reason why some Christians have given room for things like “cheating” in the relationship they have not even entered into.

So, they feel like, “Abeg jare, all these Christian men or women are not all that holy, they will eventually cheat on their partners” and all of that funny stuff.

Sometimes, these deadly thoughts enter into your mind unconsciously, and before you know what’s up, you are already entering into a relationship and marriage with the wrong mindset.

Listen. The word of God should be your only reality, not the experience of others. That you know a tongue-talking Christian man or woman who cheated or committed adultery doesn’t mean that the same has to be your experience.

The bible says in the book of Prov. 5:19 that the man should always be ravished with the love of the wife of his youth. This means that God is really against committing adultery, cheating and so on.

It also means that you can pray that your future spouse will always be ravished with your love and not that of a stranger.

God will definitely answer such prayers because it is in accordance with His will.

In fact, this kind of prayer has the potential to chase away liars and cheats from your life.

Therefore, stop entertaining such dangerous thoughts that are obviously against the will of God for your life.

The truth is there are lots and lots of Christian couples who are living in line with the scriptures.

Don’t allow the Devil to paint this picture of the impossibility of having a lovely Christian home.

Fill your heart with thoughts of how your home will be a place of joy, love and peace, not the other way round because as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.

May the Lord grant more understanding in Jesus name, Amen!

I will always be ravished with the love of my future spouse, and my future spouse will always be ravished with my love.

Lord, help us to have Christian homes that will glorify your name.

Are your thinking word-based thoughts about your future spouse and your future family?

Begin to think godly thoughts about your future spouse and your future family.

Prov 5:15-21

Pastor Dunamis Okunowo:
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Hey Bae, Thank Your Stars For Someone Like Me

Hey Bae, Thank Your Stars For Someone Like Me

We started looking at symptoms of a man that will not likely marry you.

Yesterday, we looked at the secret cult syndrome. When he strongly refuses to make the status of relationship known, there are skeletons in the cupboard.

This morning, we are looking at another man you should be careful about.

He is the cocky boo.

The proud somebody!

The high and lofty husband-to-be.

The head of the house that is yet to begin!

The one you are not married to and yet demands more respect from you than your dad does!

His esteem is weak, but deals with it with a frontal and manipulative approach.

He tells you you should thank your stars for meeting a person like him.
Usually, he has a good job and some money and he uses that money to control you.

And sometimes, in a twist of events, he doesn’t even have money, but has a big mouth!

You are the one feeding him and yet he makes you feel like a fool most times.

He demands for jeru trip like it’s his birth right.

He can even take it to the next level and ostracize you from your pastors and mentors, just as to be in control of your life and to prevent you from their wisdom.

And a lot of ladies have foolishly bitten the fingers that fed them because of “love.” It would usually take a few months or even years to be free from such grips, unless you seek help quickly.

He refuses to verbalize his commitment and yet won’t let you go.

He is not in that relationship for the long haul.

The day he sees a another person he can latch on with additional benefits, he is going to leave you.

He is always emphasizing your weaknesses in other to make you feel more unworthy of yourself.

He wants you to always see it as he is doing you a favour while in reality, it is the other way round.

If you end up ever marrying a person like this, the marriage will be troubled.

Don’t hang around a man that keeps belittling you all the time, making you feel less a woman and always comparing you with others.

Don’t turn yourself into a house maid, washing clothes, doing dishes all in the bid of becoming a wife.

Too many wonderful glorious ladies have washed too many clothes for nothing at the end.

Times they should have used praying, practicing God’s presence, studying

God’s word, building their careers are spent doing housemaid things!

You don’t become a dry cleaner in your bid to become a wife.

My dear ladies, love yourselves. Have a good self esteem. Build God confidence into yourselves. You are created in God’s image, and God has man for you! That will love you and love God!

I pray that God will bless you and give you direction in Jesus name..

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Confession of the day
My relationship is blessed

Prayer for the day
Lord, deliver me from emotional traps

Thoughts of the day
Proverbs 15:26 (KJV)  The thoughts of the wicked are an abomination to the LORD: but the words of the pure are pleasant words.

Action plan
Disconnect from every manipulative relationships

Bible reading
Colossians 2

Pastor Dunamis Okunowo:
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Dear Pastor, Will This Man Marry Me?

Dear Pastor, Will This Man Marry Me?

Sade is so much in love, but she just couldn’t fathom her boo’s hesitation in walking down the aisle.

I mean, she is ready to take off, not just walk down the aisle but run!

But her boo’s reluctance is a point of constant frustration despite all his assurances.

Why is he hesitating? Will this man ever marry me?

This shouldn’t be too hard to notice.

But most of the time, we are so lost and enraptured in some love that the obvious becomes unnoticed.

I can assure you, there are tell tale signs.

Having counseled alongside these issues for many years, here are a few things that could be pointers, thought not absolute.

1. The secret cult approach
The secret cult is shrouded in mystery. Its identity is that secrecy. They operate mostly in the night.

A man who doesn’t want to marry you will want to keep the relationship secret. He wants to minimize casualty by the time the cat is let out of the bag.

He wants to marry you and yet you don’t know his parents. You only know a few of his friend who are of the same behavioural pedigree.

Just the two of you know about wedding plans.

He tells you he will show you to the world when the time is ripe.

You know what, his mind is not made up!

He is not sure yet whether he wants to really end up with you.

You see ladies, when a guy’s mind is not made up, he is not going to act.

And yet, he won’t let you go because of the “benefits,” if you know, you know.

And this is what we keep telling young ladies, never think the jeru trip is cementing anything. If anything, it is bringing more cracks to the table.

In the secret cult approach, you might even be given a certain date or year as wedding date, just to keep you hanging, but then when there is no parental involvement, you are on your own most of the time.

So, basically, we re saying, that the secret cult approach to a relationship is a red flag. It is a pointer that the guy is not committed.

In his mind, you might even just be a side chick stuff, or no chick at all.

So, I have to counsel a lot of ladies, who ended up being jilted, hurt and abandoned.

Most of the time, the handwriting is legible enough.

Fall in love with wisdom, with counsel, with mentor-ship and with God.

That way, you will prevent anybody from toying with your emotions or just making you a jeru trip toy.

Conversely, it is a red flag as well, when the lady won’t allow any introductions. It shows she is not committed, her mind is not made u and she might have options.

I am going to stop here this morning and will continue tomorrow.

May your relationship be blessed.

Pastor Dunamis Okunowo:
I am taking a personal journey with singles, waiting singles for 28 days! It is a comprehensive spiritual exercise including partial fasting, meditation, confession, dangerous prayers, character adjustment, deliverance, book reading, workbook sessions, one on one mentoring, and so many things. You can be a part of this from anywhere in the world. The goal is that by end of 28 Days, you are all set before God for a marital breakthrough! So many people are testifying already! Use button below to learn more.

I am wise. My eyes are opened.

Lord, guide me and don’t let me fall into romantic traps

Proverbs 15:16 (KJV)  Better is little with the fear of the LORD than great treasure and trouble therewith.

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John 11

In The Quest To Meet Your Spouse

In The Quest To Meet Your Spouse

The way these things sometimes work, ehn?

Look at Joseph for example.

His destiny is to be a prime minister in Egypt.

But there was he, far away from the place of destiny tending the sheep.

So, in order to “meet” his destiny, God arranged that He be sold.

Can you imagine?

Then even after getting to Egypt as a slave, he still needed to go “down!”


His announcer to the place of destiny is in the prison!

This God sha!

So, Mrs Potiphar had to have some illicit desire,

The guy is gently doing his “chief slave” thing, when Mrs Potiphar showed up.

But Joseph nearly fell, though, but then he ran away.

The scripture says that

The scripture says that Genesis 39:12 (AMPC)  
And she caught him by his garment, saying, Lie with me! But he left his garment in her hand and fled and got out [of the house].

How did that garment get into her hand? Not hands o!!!

But that is not where I am going this morning. That will be for another day.

Joseph ran away!

He ran away from “enjoyment?”

No, he ran away from nemesis. For distraction. From destiny killer.

So now you know, that on the path of destiny, lots of Mrs Potiphar will show up

Be smart enough to RUN and not try to speak in tongues!

Some people feel cool for bedding so many people. It’s actually a destiny disease!

Well, we all know where Joseph’s “righteousness” landed him.


Not nice at all. For standing for truth? For saying No to sin?


So, God that is it sir?

For serving you?

This is where I have to find myself?

Are you really there?

“Wifeless” after so many years of serving you?

Just surviving while several others that bedded “Mrs Potiphar” are all looking cool?


Are you even there, God?

Have you complained like that or even complaining like that?

You feel so much like an “idiot” after deciding for God!

Only if you can wait a little bit more, then you will know that God is not an author of confusion.

You will know Joseph had to pass through the prison, because His “announcer” is in the prison! Eeh!!

When you stay with God, the person who wants to end your destiny will be used of God to push you into your destiny!

Mrs Potiphar was a passage! She was programmed to be a grave for Joseph, but God turned it around.

I leave you with this scripture this morning!

Jeremiah 29:11 (MSG)  
I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.

Maybe one person needs to know this morning, that all that is happening to you may not be for evil, that God has not abandoned you and that some of these seemingly negative seasons are all set ups into your marital destiny!

Good morning. Wonderful week to you!

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Your relationship is blessed.

Pastor Dunamis Okunowo:
I am taking a personal journey with singles, waiting singles for 28 days! It is a comprehensive spiritual exercise including partial fasting, meditation, confession, dangerous prayers, character adjustment, deliverance, book reading, workbook sessions, one on one mentoring, and so many things. You can be a part of this from anywhere in the world. The goal is that by end of 28 Days, you are all set before God for a marital breakthrough! So many people are testifying already! Use button below to learn more.

God knows what He is doing with my life

Father, help me to see your works in my life

Jeremiah 29:11 (CEV)  I will bless you with a future filled with hope—a future of success, not of suffering.

Disconnect with every Mrs Potiphar!

Proverbs 6

Understanding The Times As Singles

Understanding The Times As Singles

Ecclesiastes 3:1 and 11 says
1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: 11 He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.

We understand through scriptures that there is a time for everything.

When a thing is done at the proper time it’s very good, pleasurable and beautiful.

There is a time a baby is expected to start crawling, and then to start walking.

When you put your food on fire, there’s a particular time when that food will be ready to be eaten.

I’m sure you won’t enjoy taking an unripe mango. It won’t be pleasant to your taste buds

There is a time!!!

We know God lives in eternity, where there is no time, but in his dealings with men he operates in times and seasons.

Scripture makes us to understand that God has a plan for us, and this plan is not haphazard, I believe it is organised.

There’s a time for your wedding, your car, your house included in God’s plan for us.

Now scriptures says “And of the children of Issachar, which were men that had understanding of the times, to know what Israel ought to do; the heads of them were two hundred; and all their brethren were at their commandment” (1 Chronicles 12:32, KJV)

These guys understood the times.

They didn’t have two heads, More importantly they never had the Holy Spirit living in them like you and I do today.Read that last line again, I really want this truth to sink in.

The Holy Spirit lives in me, He is my teacher, He is God – the third person in the trinity, He is omniscient – He knows all things, He wants to reveal all things, the times and the seasons set for me also included.

When I understand the times, I will know what to do.There’s ease that comes with doing a thing at the appointed time.

I remember listening to Pastor Dunamis when he was sharing one of his past experiences. God revealed to him that he had to get married before the end of the millennium (that was back in 1999) and he did so, and in his obedience and doing it at the right time there was an ease that came with it.

Beloved, there is an appointed time for everything, and its only by the help of God’s Spirit that you can know these times that have been set, so that you can make the most of them.

Determine more than ever to develop your relationship with the Holy Spirit.

I understand the times, I know what to do, I am not confused. I will not miss the time of my visitation.

Father, help me to develop my relationship with the Holy Spirit

He hath made everything beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end. (Ecclesiastes 3:11)

Ecclesiastes 1, Genesis 1

How To Preserve Your Relationship

How To Preserve Your Relationship

Boo: what have I done again?

Bae: oh, you don’t know?

Boo: If I do, will I be asking you?

Bae: That’s the issue. You never realize your faults.

Boo: That’s not the issue. The issue is you never tell me what I do, yet you keep complaining. Am I a wizard?

Bae: Oh, so I am a witch now ehn?

Boo: (turns to himself) oh my God, I’m in for it today.

Bae: So my question has no answer ba? I am now a radio without batteries! I am the nag. I am the bad person. I am the one with all the flaws right?

Boo: That’s not exactly what I am say…

Bae: …(cuts him) I perfectly know what you are saying…

They can go back and forth, arguing over irrelevances.

The major issue here is that bae hadn’t totally healed from her past relationships, before beginning a new one.

Matt 9:17 KJV
Neither do men put new wine into old bottles: else the bottles break, and the wine runneth out, and the bottles perish: but they put new wine into new bottles, and both are preserved.

You don’t put new wine in old bottle, nay!

If you want to enjoy your new relationship, ensure you are healed from your past relationship.

One way you do this is not to rush into a new relationship after your break up.

Here on KHC, we recommend a period of six months between your last and new relationship.

Truth is you are hurt. No matter how hard you try to hide it.

Even if your last relationship was just 2 days old, you must have invested something into it…time, energy or even data…lol

So take your time.

Go through the healing process, so you don’t become a burden to your next.

Don’t try to get back at your ex by jumping into another relationship, it is not worth it.

Your ex is now in the past, let him/her remain there.When you rush into a new relationship, without being healed of past hurts and bitterness, your partner bears the brunt.

After a break up, you are free to cry…yes, you read well.

Cry if you must.

Read books.

Talk to a respected mentor.

Forgive yourself and forgive your ex

Re-evaluate the relationship, then

Trust God for what he is set to do.

Your relationship will not suffer in Jesus name.

My relationship will not suffer

Lord, heal me completely of past hurts.

Isaiah 43:18 (KJV) Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old.

Forgive anyone who has hurt you before.

Matt 9

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