Counting The Cost For Your Marriage

Counting The Cost For Your Marriage

I observed an unpleasant occurrence in the clinic premises some years back. A pregnant woman who fell into labor was rushed to the clinic. Immediately, the husband was told to go back home and get the required items that will be needed by the wife only for the husband to exclaim that they do not have anything at home to present because of their economic situation.

The question the lead health worker on ground asked the man was “can one claim ignorance for a visitor that gave 9months notice” ?
The man was embarrassed as health workers had to do the needful of tasking themselves to at least give basic support.

Childbirth is expected to be a product of marriage and it is not something that can fall on one unexpectedly hence, deliberate plans must be in place to make the time/period the best one can have.

My focus is not on childbirth this morning but on marriage itself. No matter how easy or low key your wedding was for those in a proper marriage, the day did not fall on you unexpectedly.

You had a plan, you counted the cost and figured out what will make the event successful. But it seems as if when one gets into the marriage, we tend to become unintentional in planning for some vital aspects that will make that marriage work.

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Let us consider the scriptures in

Luke 14:28, 31 (KJV) For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it? Or what king, going to make war against another king, sitteth not down first, and consulteth whether he be able with ten thousand to meet him that cometh against him with twenty thousand?

Marriage can be likened to a building as well. You have to sit down as husband and wife separately and jointly to really plan for each phase of your marriage and know what you will put into it to make it work.

I am not saying you will be notified of all issues that will come at your marriage, but we cannot afford to be insensitive or ignorant of what phases of our marriage will require from us. Money is quite important to marriage but beyond the availability of cash (money) our marriages will require more from us.

We can learn from the analogy of a building at the foundation phase (substructure phase). A lot of concrete and iron will be placed in. So also in the early years, you will require real time solid materials, beyond the fancy dinners, romantic vacations etc. solid materials like sufficient time of prayers and fasting, confession of the word, the overseeing of mentors etc. to have the initial phase of your marriage stable.

Going forward, we need to be conscious that each phase of marriage will require being deliberate about counting the cost.

Let me conclude this piece by rephrasing the words of our Lord Jesus Christ into the marriage situation: “which one of you intend to have a good marriage that will last, sitteth not down first and counteth the cost whether he or she have sufficient to make it to the end”

Your marriage will make it to the end in Jesus name!

My marriage will make it to the end

I receive divine wisdom to build my home

You will have to count the cost to have a good marriage

Think on the things that will make your marriage work

Psalms 121

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