Intruders come in different flavours and we should be sensitive to recognize them.
We should be able to discern who these intruders are.
They don’t necessarily have to be bad people.
They become intruders to us and our marriage when they are not helping us achieve our marital goals per time.
Good people, well meaning friends, relatives, colleagues, family members, parents or people we hold in high esteem could at any point in time constitute intruders.
To be able to recognise who is an intruder, we first must have a family vision or mission or goal we are looking towards achieving.
Most homes and marriage don’t have vision .
They just run their homes and marriages anyhow, as it pleases them.
We have a high standard for our home and marriage and that is why I can not just behave any how.
You see some wives and husband behave in a carnal way, not minding what happens. They yield to the dictates of their flesh every now and then.
So first things first, have something you are aiming for.
Run your marriage excellently.
Put structures in place. Establish systems and ensure their smooth running.
Anybody that stands in opposition to your marital goals automatically becomes an intruder.
Anyone not adding or contributing to achieving your marital goals is in essence subtracting from you.
To me an intruder is anyone who advises me to stop supporting my husband.
No matter how inconvenient it is, my life goal is to always support my husband with all I have, in word, thoughts and actions
So in your own marriage, discern the intruders and handle them with a lot of wisdom.
Time and space is one thing you should never give to an intruder.
Always find an excuse to avoid spending time with an intruder.
Intruders are time wasters and have nothing to contribute
You handle intruders by being firm. Be courteous and yet firm.
God bless your marriage.
Confession of the day
I discern intruders and I am bold to avoid them
Prayer for the day
Lord, empower me to handle intruders in my marriage
Begin to recognise intruders in your life
Thoughts of the day
Intruders are around me to waste my time and
eventually my life
Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.