Dear Brother, This Might Be Why She Has Not Said Yes

Dear Brother, This Might Be Why She Has Not Said Yes

It was like relationship packaged in heaven.

Everything kind of fits in.

Career wise, future plans, location preferences were all in tandem.

People that saw you together said not only will you make a good couple, you are going to make cute kids.

The body chemistry is like a divine equation written from heaven.

You loved each other.

You have prayed.

She has prayed.

You are so sure she is the one.

She said she was sure too, all of a sudden, after getting to know you a little bit, she said she needs to pray again.

Pray again bawo?

“I thought we already crossed that bridge?”

You become confused.

Everything looks so good, yet the big yes that will seal it up is not forthcoming.

She begins to foot-drag.

She says she is not sure again.

Why is she behaving like that? These are possible reasons why she has not said Yes.

1. She discovered some character tendencies and to make it worse, you don’t see those tendencies as a big deal.

If she is thinking, if love has not blinded her capacity to think right, she is not going to say yes, or she might just withdraw the “yes” that has been given before.

If she is thinking, she is going to realize all of a sudden that she is going to be living with those tendencies, day in day out, for the next fifty years or so.

Especially when she sees you are not remorseful.

2. She saw how you were treating your siblings, particularly your sisters.

She saw you slap your immediate younger sister, a deafening slap that has no Part 2!

The kind that resets a brain!

You thought you were getting across as a tough and disciplined husband to be.

But where she is coming from, her dad or brothers have never lifted their hands against her.

She saw how you shouted on your sister because she moved your phone from point A to B.

You know what, she is going to “borrow” herself some sense.

If she is thinking, she will realize that all the “treats” which your sisters have been sharing for years, she will be the sole recipient after wedding.

That Yes will not come, if she is thinking.

She is going to get scared.

3. When she noticed you were lazy and financially irresponsible.

She saw that you don’t know any other thing apart from accumulating new movies and watching them, including movies that have not been released yet! How you got them was a mystery.

They are all on your laptops. You have never bought a single christian book, but you can spend money on data.

She is gong to keep her Yes with her.

When she sees that you don’t tithe, you are owing a lot of people including her, you are always saying you have no money, you are always coming up with some needs that has to be met.

She calls you and discovers you are still sleeping on your bed at 11.00am, she will never give that yes, unless of course if “love” has taken her capacity to see the obvious.

Well I am going to stop here,

These are some things that guys would need to work on. They are major turn-offs.

I pray that God will grant more wisdom unto you to do the needful in Jesus name.

I am prudent and responsible

Lord, open my eyes to see

Proverbs 13:16 (KJV) Every prudent man dealeth with knowledge: but a fool layeth open his folly.

Talk to a mentor about your decisions

Matthew 25:14-30

Pastor Dunamis Tunde Okunowo

Husband of one. Father of Three. Mentor of thousands. Impact to nations. Addicted writer. Web Developer. Pastor at Shouts of Grace Center, Ibadan, Nigeria. Facilitator of Kisses and Huggs Club. Follow on Instagram HERE

This Post Has 6 Comments

  1. Funmilola

    I am Prudent and Responsible!

  2. John Oluwawalemi

    I am prudent and responsible in Jesus’ name

    1. Simply peculiar

      Uhmm, so true… I’m prudent and responsible

  3. Sylvester Obinna

    Thank you sir.
    I am prudent and responsible

  4. Adetoye Adenike

    I am prudent and responsible IJN

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