Dear Couple, You Are A Team, Not Competitors

Dear Couple, You Are A Team, Not Competitors

Have you ever been to or participated in an Inter-house Sports Competition? It is usually an interesting thing to watch. I witnessed one recently and I thought to share some major lessons I learnt.

Each house comprises of quite a number of people across different ages and each age group is expected to perform activities that are peculiar to their age groups in which marks are given to the positions garnered by each house.

At the end of the day, the total marks gotten by each house is summed up and the house with the highest mark goes home with the Golden Cup.
In a case where there is disunity among the members, it has an overall effect on their performance because their strength lies in their unity. The more united the team is, the stronger they become.

This morning, I’ll like to liken marriage to Sports. Husband and wife are the members of the team and a successful marriage is the grand prize.

Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. (Ecclesiastes 4:9)

Distractions and other external forces that strives to pull down the marriage are the opponents.

The day of the competition is not the day to prepare. The members of a team would be required to have put in weeks (and sometimes months) of rigorous practice. A lot of time and energy had gone into the trainings.

Sometimes, these trainings come with lots of disagreements and discipline but then, they will be welcomed with shouts of jubilation when they eventually win.

This also applies to marriage. The process of coming together, aligning purpose and making the marriage work is not without its own unpleasant moments but patience and endurance is very key during those times as the eyes of the couple are on the Golden Cup which is to have a blissful and successful marriage.

I put it to you this morning to see your spouse as your team mate and not a competitor.

You’re not in a competition with your spouse, it’s a partnership venture. When one partner is weak, it takes a toll on both partners. When both partners are strong, then they will be able to go far together.

Hold hands together and work together to make things work and to make life more enjoyable for you both.

Until married couples learn that they are a team will they accomplish so much in their marriage. Enough of things like my spouse must not be richer than me, my spouse has bought his second car, I must buy my third, my wife now has her Masters so I must begin my Doctorate etc.

Cheer yourselves on to bring the best out of two of you.

Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. (Proverbs 27:17)

Are you willing to make your spouse your team mate and not a competitor?

Let me tell you this, you’re not alone. You’re taking up this challenge with a good number of other couples.

I see our marriages blossoming!

Our marriage is flourishing as a palm tree. Together, we are working together to put to best use our individual strengths in order to keep our marriage working. (Amen)

Father in the Name of Jesus, help my spouse and I to see ourselves as team mates and not as competitors for us to have a successful marriage.

Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment. (1Cor. 1:10)

Your spouse is a team mate, not a competitor. Identify areas in which your partner has certain weaknesses and prayerfully help them to overcome it.

Ecclesiastes 4

Mrs Oluwatoyin Ogunbameru

Oluwatoyin is a wife, teacher and a lover of God. She loves to see people living their lives in the most amazing way, thereby becoming useful to one another.

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