Dear Pastor, I Always Have Issues With My Spouse – Part 2

Dear Pastor, I Always Have Issues With My Spouse – Part 2

We continue from where we stopped yesterday. We looked at choosing the right words and how we can train ourselves in that area. You can read it HERE in case you missed it.

Let’s continue.

2. Put yourself in your spouse’s shoes and reason also from his/her point of view.
Inasmuch as you are convinced that your own opinion about the issue is right, reason from the other person’s line of thinking too.

Keep your spouse’s situation and opinion in mind when you’re both having a conversation that involves an exchange of emotions.
Don’t be insensitive to how your partner takes the issue at hand.

You have not won an argument in marriage if it will make your partner feel hurt. Any argument that will leave your spouse emotionally drained is a big loss to you.
Every argument must lead to a reasonable and agreeable conclusion.

3. Force yourself to listen to what your partner is saying.
Whenever couples are having a misunderstanding, both parties will strive so hard to make a point and then miss out the whole point. Desist from such.

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Sometimes, all you need to arrive at an agreeable conclusion is to listen to your husband/wife. Let him/her talk too so you won’t overpower them with your words which will now lead to withdrawal from your matter. His/her opinion (s) counts too.

Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom. (Proverbs 13:10 KJV)

4. Use the three power phrases PIT
P- Please
I- I’m sorry
T- Thank you
These words above are as strong as strong can ever be but they are underrated.

Own your wrongs and apologize as quickly as you can. Don’t be proud to say, “I was wrong, I’m very sorry. Please forgive me.”

Learn to fight in your marriage without leaving scars.


Have a fulfilling week.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
My marriage is like a well-watered garden, like an ever-flowing spring. (Isaiah 58:11)

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Father, I ask for grace to be able to tackle issues in my marriage without leaving scars (Amen)

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
You have not won an argument in marriage if it will make your partner feel hurt.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Did your previous argument leave your spouse feeling worse than they were initially? If yes, apologize for your wrong choice of words and/or your insensitivity to his/her feelings today.

BIBLE READING FOR TODAY
Proverbs 13

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Mrs Oluwatoyin Ogunbameru

Oluwatoyin is a wife, teacher and a lover of God. She loves to see people living their lives in the most amazing way, thereby becoming useful to one another.

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