Dear Pastor Is It Love, Infatuation Or Just Playing?

Dear Pastor Is It Love, Infatuation Or Just Playing?

Your love life is that scintillating part. It is that part where unseen butterflies flap their tiny colourful wings in your tummy and you often turn pinky.

Your love life is that part that you recount with nostalgia and you still feel excited as memories of loving and falling in love flood your soul.

Your love life is that part where you visit the cinemas together, walk down the lonely road holding hands and wishing the road will never end as you look into each other’s eyes and and beatings of your hearts merge together in increased speed.

Your love life is that part where you look forward to wedding day, you have all planned out in your mind, and the wedding planner actually has nothing to do.

Your love life is that part where you just always want to be together. “I just wanna be where you are, dwelling daily….” the lyrics of the song done for God, but alas, you look into his eyes or her eyes and you become a singer!

Is it real love? Could be.

But sometimes, it is infatuation and no more.

Sometimes, it is actually love.

Sometimes, it is just nothing other than playing around.

How do you know which is which?

Let’s see some elements of infatuation.

1. You feel you know everything about him/her whereas you don’t know anything.

It is not likely true love when you’ve met in a few days and you are so convinced you already know everything about him or her.

Proverbs 28:26 (MSG)  
If you think you know it all, you’re a fool for sure; real survivors learn wisdom from others.

People who have been married for fifty years are still discovering themselves!

2. In infatuation, everything is quick and happens in a daze.

It has to happen now. Jeru trip has to happen now. Intimacy has to happen now.

But love doesn’t work that way. Love takes time to build, and if you are in love with someone, you enjoy the process of getting to know them and building your relationship with them one step at a time.

Psalms 37:7 (MSG)  
Quiet down before GOD, be prayerful before him. Don’t bother with those who climb the ladder, who elbow their way to the top.

3. Feelings are fickle.

Infatuation cannot be trusted because it is short termed.

Love takes a while to develop. It takes intimacy, which requires a connection or attachment to someone. Love is about being familiar with someone, where a bond has been developed.

The difference between infatuation vs love is that infatuation is a short-lived passion for someone whereas love is a deep affection for someone that lasts the test of time. You cannot love someone you do not know.

Don’t ever trust yourself.You can never know your capacity for foolishness until you fall in love.

People that are infatuated do the most foolish things and then regret later.

Proverbs 3:5-6 (MSG)  
Trust GOD from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own.  [6]  Listen for GOD’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track.

4. You are so insecure.

You are afraid they might leave you. You are obsessed about them leaving you.

You question every move and every look. You are love sick.

You crave attention by all means. You are ready to do anything for him or her at the expense of your relationship with God.

You will go there and spend days and weeks in his house. You will send sultry texts to him.

You become useless to your environment because you are in love.You stop doing anything in church. You move away from the Pastor and avoid him lest he picks something up in the Spirit.

You avoid deep conversations with friends because you don’t want them to talk to you about it.

Song of Solomon 8:4 (AMPC)  
I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that you never [again attempt to] stir up or awaken love until it pleases.

Insecurity can push to a place where you do derogatory, wrong and sinful things just to get attention.This is not true love.

Final words, learn to slow down. Ask questions. Do not rush.

May God bless your relationship.

I take rest in God; I am not anxious.

Rest, Quietness, confidence… fill my soul!

In RETURNING and REST you shall be saved; In QUIETNESS and CONFIDENCE shall be your strength.

Meditate on God’s word.

Genesis 2, Isaiah 30:15

Pastor Dunamis Tunde Okunowo

Husband of one. Father of Three. Mentor of thousands. Impact to nations. Addicted writer. Web Developer. Pastor at Shouts of Grace Center, Ibadan, Nigeria. Facilitator of Kisses and Huggs Club. Follow on Instagram HERE

This Post Has 5 Comments

  1. Sylvester Obinna

    Thank you sir for distinguishing these two.
    Give me rest oh Lord!

  2. Oluwakemi Yetunde Taiwo

    I have confidence in God and I will take rest in him. Amen

  3. Jesupelumi

    I am not anxious

  4. Oni Elizabeth


  5. John Oluwawalemi

    I take rest in God, I am not anxious

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