Sade is so much in love, but she just couldn’t fathom her boo’s hesitation in walking down the aisle.
I mean, she is ready to take off, not just walk down the aisle but run!
But her boo’s reluctance is a point of constant frustration despite all his assurances.
Why is he hesitating? Will this man ever marry me?
This shouldn’t be too hard to notice.
But most of the time, we are so lost and enraptured in some love that the obvious becomes unnoticed.
I can assure you, there are tell tale signs.
Having counseled alongside these issues for many years, here are a few things that could be pointers, thought not absolute.
1. The secret cult approach
The secret cult is shrouded in mystery. Its identity is that secrecy. They operate mostly in the night.
A man who doesn’t want to marry you will want to keep the relationship secret. He wants to minimize casualty by the time the cat is let out of the bag.
He wants to marry you and yet you don’t know his parents. You only know a few of his friend who are of the same behavioural pedigree.
Just the two of you know about wedding plans.
He tells you he will show you to the world when the time is ripe.
You know what, his mind is not made up!
He is not sure yet whether he wants to really end up with you.
You see ladies, when a guy’s mind is not made up, he is not going to act.
And yet, he won’t let you go because of the “benefits,” if you know, you know.
And this is what we keep telling young ladies, never think the jeru trip is cementing anything. If anything, it is bringing more cracks to the table.
In the secret cult approach, you might even be given a certain date or year as wedding date, just to keep you hanging, but then when there is no parental involvement, you are on your own most of the time.
So, basically, we re saying, that the secret cult approach to a relationship is a red flag. It is a pointer that the guy is not committed.
In his mind, you might even just be a side chick stuff, or no chick at all.
So, I have to counsel a lot of ladies, who ended up being jilted, hurt and abandoned.
Most of the time, the handwriting is legible enough.
Fall in love with wisdom, with counsel, with mentor-ship and with God.
That way, you will prevent anybody from toying with your emotions or just making you a jeru trip toy.
Conversely, it is a red flag as well, when the lady won’t allow any introductions. It shows she is not committed, her mind is not made u and she might have options.
I am going to stop here this morning and will continue tomorrow.
May your relationship be blessed.
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