Everything on earth is war!
The devil ‘no like good things’… so you must also learn to fight for your relationship, if not you may readily lose it.
We will be focusing on one way we can fight for our relationship, and it’s this:
Don’t focus on the wrongs.
Whatever you focus on magnifies; and so when your eyes are always on what your partner is not doing right, those wrongs will magnify… and as they rise they form a wall of separation between you and bae!
And the truth is this:
When you keep focusing on what your partner is not doing right, your senses for perceiving wrongs heighten, while your senses for perceiving rights dies.
So what you will find happening is that you will increasingly grow unawares of the right things your partner is doing (how he/she is also trying to move the relationship forward… the sacrifices he/she is also making towards the relationship… the pains he/she is also bearing in the relationship… etc), and you will grow in your sensitivity to his/her wrongs, such that a time will come and you will start noticing that you’re the one always saying ‘good morning’ first whenever you guys see! Hehehe…
And as those issues keep piling up on one another, the wall of separation between you and your partner will keep thickening, and the distance between you both will therefore keep getting wider and wider.
So one way to fight for your relationship is to consciously magnify, in your heart first of all, the things that your partner is doing right over the things s/he is not doing right.
I said in your heart first because the way you relate with your partner depends on the state of your heart towards him/her!
When your heart is full of the wrongs your partner has done, it will naturally influence the way you relate with him/her (first taking away excitement from the relationship.)
See the way Scripture puts it:
“Brood of vipers! How can you, being evil, speak good things? FOR OUT OF THE ABUNDANCE OF THE HEART THE MOUTH SPEAKS.”
Matthew 12:34 NKJV
The principle has been, and will always be, that whatever the heart is filled up with will flow to the outside.
So if your heart is filled up with resentment for your partner, because you have stored up small, medium, and big wrongs there, it will eventually show in the way you relate with him/her.
And if your heart is filled up with love for your partner, because you have stored up small, medium, and big rights there, it will eventually show in the way you relate with him/her.
Am I saying you should overlook some wrongs?
Am I saying you should overlook some wrongs?
Hehehehe… you read correctly.
My point is that you should be led by the Spirit of God to know which wrongs to overlook and which ones to bring up and trash with your partner.
Notice I didn’t say ‘which ones to store up.’
Never store up wrongs in your heart; you would be priming your relationship for disaster if you do that.
It’s either you’re led to overlook it or you are led to bring it to the notice of your partner.
For my ladies that will be acting somehow (because of what bae did or didn’t do) and my guy will ask ‘What’s wrong?’ and they will say ‘Nothing,’… please read this devotional again (#RunsAway)
Finally, I’m not talking about major wrongs o.
My dear, if he beats you, don’t stay and be asking “Should I overlook or should I talk with him about it?”…Run for your life o!
If she has been seducing you and inviting you for a conjugal feast, flee (even fled sef… and keep fleeing) my brother, even if you have to leave your coat behind, like Joseph did.
May God grant us more understanding…
May our hearts become sensitive to the Spirit of God, to know when to overlook, when to bring up, and when to flee.
May every Godly relationship be protected.
May every unGodly relationship hit the rocks.
In the mighty Name of Jesus Christ we pray;
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I know what to do at every point in my relationship.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
LORD, rid my heart of every offence I have stored up against my partner.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Whatever fills up your heart, whether resentment or love, will naturally show in your external actions.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Pray intentionally and sincerely about these issues, as it’s specific to your relationship.
a. Overlook the wrongs the Spirit of God is leading you to overlook.
b. Talk with your partner about the wrongs the Spirit of God is permitting you to bring up.
c. Flee if the Spirit of God is prompting you to.
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY:
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