Five Lessons All Singles Should Learn Now

Five Lessons All Singles Should Learn Now

1. Your spouse-to-be will not be perfect

If you are looking for a perfect spouse, don’t bother to get married.

As a matter of fact, a season will come in marriage that all you will be seeing are these imperfections, that you will be wondering if you missed it.

Not being perfect does not translate into being steeped in sin!

There is a difference between imperfections and outright sin and desecration of the marital covenant.

While he or she may be imperfect, you can see the genuine love of God.
These imperfections or weaknesses are not excuses to be irresponsible or careless, even as a single.

2. Expensive weddings do not guarantee a beautiful marriage.

Don’t spend all your fortunes on wedding day.

Don’t do wedding to a point there is no life to live afterwards.

Gram worthy weddings, viral wedding videos and all the social media glamour do not reflect the success of that marriage.

Be modest. Don’t try to impress people.

If you have the money, cool. But if you have to borrow to have an expensive wedding, you will know that it is the most foolish thing to do, afterwards.

3. You will be discovering stuffs about your spouse for as long as you will be married.

That person called “husband” and “wife” are so complex that you only know a bit from time to time.

Communication is essential in marriage!

This is why as singles in courtship, a strained communication or no communication at all is a red alert. It should be confronted and handled and not denied or ignored.

4. Jeru trip will not be daily or several times daily.

Not likely.

Maybe a few times it would be like that.

If the two of you are on the higher rung of the libido ladder, then maybe, more of that.

Its frequency is however recommended.

A marriage where there are no jeru trips will be riddled with all kinds of issues.

As much as your body wants jeru trip all the time as a single, there would be times after wedding that your spouse would touch you and the words that would tumble out will be “Not tonight , dear!”

You don’t believe me? Ok, we will wait till then

5. Beauty can be vain, Handsomeness can be so empty.

The scriptures says that.

Proverbs 31:30 (AMPC)  
Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain [because it is not lasting], but a woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord, she shall be praised!

At then end of the day, it is not just beauty or handsomeness that counts, but beauty, handsomeness plus the fear of the Lord.

That is what you should go for.

I am wise

Lord, endue me with wisdom for my relationship

Write down five things you have learnt from past relationships that didn’t work out

Proverbs 22:29 (KJV)  Seest thou a man diligent in his business? he shall stand before kings; he shall not stand before mean men.

Proverbs 22

Pastor Dunamis Tunde Okunowo

Husband of one. Father of Three. Mentor of thousands. Impact to nations. Addicted writer. Web Developer. Pastor at Shouts of Grace Center, Ibadan, Nigeria. Facilitator of Kisses and Huggs Club. Follow on Instagram HERE

This Post Has 7 Comments

  1. Sylvester Obinna

    I am wise.
    I go for the fear of the Lord.

  2. John Oluwawalemi

    Lord, endue me with wisdom for my relationship

  3. Jesupelumi

    I am wise

  4. Temitope Otunuga

    I am wise.
    Give to me wisdom for my relationship.

  5. Jayne

    I am wish, fear of the Lord overshadow my life.

  6. Clinton Nkwa

    I am wise, amen

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