Five Signs That Your Marriage Needs Help

Five Signs That Your Marriage Needs Help

When you see any of the signs I’ll be talking about this morning in your marriage, it means your home needs urgent attention. The list is not exhaustive, but these are the major issues to deal with in marriage.

1. When you have been indulging in emotional affairs.

Pro 16:25 MSG ‘There’s a way that looks harmless enough; look again–it leads straight to hell.’

Usually, adultery begins with emotional affairs. Emotional affairs usually look harmless, but they are very dangerous. If you have been wrapped up in the sheets of emotional affairs, your marriage needs attention. If the sheets have blinded you, and you can no longer see your spouse as it should be, it would be good to seek help as soon as possible.

2. When you have been out rightly involved in adultery.

Pro 6:32 MSG
‘Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive;’

If you have been out rightly involved with adultery as you read this morning, and you have been cheating on your husband or your wife, you need help urgently. It will not work out, and it has a potential of ruining your home and family.

Try and seek help rather that retaliate on an erring spouse with adulterous lifestyle. It will have impact on you, your spouse, your home, your children, your career and above all, your relationship with God will crumble. It is not a good place to be. Actually, Adultery is a stupid sin!

3. When you have not been making love regularly with your spouse.

Pro 5:18 MSG. ‘Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man!’

The frequency of lovemaking between a man and his wife usually indicates the health status of that marriage. When you have not been making love with your spouse on a regular basis, it means there is a serious underlying problem.

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Ladies, when your husband who has been constant with you in the other room suddenly withdraws and for weeks stays aloof, offering you various excuses, know that there is a serious issue going on.

If the cause of his withdrawal is not on health basis, and he doesn’t offer any explanation, it could be an indication of infidelity. This is because, usually, a man who is in love with his wife will be interested in jeru trip from time to time.

4. When you associate making love with pain.

‘Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.’ Proverbs 5:19 KJV

If you are always scared of making love with your husband because you ‘feel’ pains, you should seek help. This pain you feel could be just a psychological one, as a result of unpleasant childhood experiences or beliefs. Whichever way, you should seek help on how to satisfy your husband.

This becomes important, because if your husband does not fear God, he might start looking for it in the wrong places.

5. When you have been using jeru trip as a tool for reward or punishment:

1Co 7:4 MSG. ‘Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out.’

A lot of couples do this, even in the body of Christ. If my husband is nice, I will cooperate. If he offends me, I will usually be tired in the night or have some serious headache.

This is not good for your home. Rather than use this gift that God has given you and your husband to enjoy as a punishment or reward, rather than stay unforgiving, talk about your differences and resolve to solve them.

I pray for you this morning, God will give you the strength to do the needful and the right thing in Jesus name.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY: I am wise. I am alert

PRAYER FOR THE DAY: Pray that God will give you the strength to do the needful

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY: Romans 6:14 KJV – For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY: Study your Bible today with a concordance


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Pastor Dunamis Tunde Okunowo

Husband of one. Father of Three. Mentor of thousands. Impact to nations. Addicted writer. Web Developer. Pastor at Shouts of Grace Center, Ibadan, Nigeria. Facilitator of Kisses and Huggs Club. Follow on Instagram HERE

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