My husband cheated on me with someone I know while I was 8th month pregnant. She even attended our wedding, I was so pained because I never thought he could cheat on me. I trusted him totally that I didn’t suspect, he told me he was going to school, meanwhile he didn’t head straight to school, he met with the lady in the guest house his office provides.
I didn’t even suspect him at all when I got to know, I was only checking his phone one morning, when my eyes just went to this chats with the lady. I didn’t know what to do, so I called my dad cos we are very close, he asked me to confront him but never let him know he’s aware
I couldn’t even tell my mom then, because I did not want her to hate him.
I confronted him, he denied at first, but eventually he confessed. He begged me not to tell anybody not even my family, I didn’t bother telling him I already did.
He said I pushed him out, he was always begging me for sex and i didn’t allow him ( sir, I was very sick during my pregnancy and my hubby was aware, in fact I didn’t enjoy the pregnancy for a single day, the idea of sex didn’t appeal to me at all, but despite that I didn’t deny him of sex all through, just when I was nauseated)
Anyways, after the confrontation, I expected that my husband would be sober and be very sorry for his actions. But he wasn’t, he was always aggressive towards me, my mother-in-law came to take care of our baby after I put to bed, one day we had a disagreement, then my hubby started telling her about my shortcomings, I was pushed to tell her.
But to my dismay my mother-in-law said my hubby was not wrong, that what is the big deal, “has he brought the woman in question home, that even if my parents hear they won’t do anything.” I was so shocked that someone who I felt would reprimand her son, but she was even giving him the go ahead right in my presence
Sir, I am tired of it all. I can’t seem to forgive my husband, each time I remember the incidence, my hatred for him would just be aroused. I really don’t know what to do that’s why I’ve decided to voice it out. To make matters worse, my husband doesn’t even sleep with me anymore, I had to practically beg him to come back to the room because his excuse was our baby cries during the night and he has to go to work and she disturbs him.
Our baby doesn’t cry during the night again, he now sleeps off in the sitting room while watching TV. But sometimes comes to the room.
Sir, if I don’t touch my husband, he won’t touch me, I’ve complained to him twice, the first time he said I pushed the instinct out of him.
The second time he said who said he must instigate it first.
I even told my mum, she said I should not beg him again that I’m not a prostitute. Please, members of KHC, advise me.
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