Yesterday, we looked at affair proofing your marriage.
Where the wife or husband sees it as their responsibility to protect their spouse against intruders.
Husband and wife should not take a lackadaisical position in protecting each other.
It is a fight meant to be jointly fought by the husband and wife.
In the book of Ecclesiastes, the bible tells us that two are better than one..
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (KJV)
Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.  For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.  Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?  And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
There must be a togetherness in ensuring the safety of our spouse.
You should care enough to know what is going on in your spouses’ life.
Ask question that shows that you are concerned.
View your marriage as an investment which you don’t want to crash.
If you have invested your whole life into something, you don’t want to be careless and allow some useless person scatter your investment.
There is a difference between being concern and being worried about your spouse and being suspicious.
Suspicions will drive you and your spouse apart and drive them into the waiting arms of another man or woman, if they don’t have the fear of God
You cannot afford to leave you spouse alone and allow them do what they feel like.
We have to be accountable to each other.
Be open as much as you can to each other.
Be sincere and true to yourselves
If you are having feelings for someone or you are not comfortable around someone, let your spouse be the first to know.
This also calls for being sensitive and mature.
How you handle such sensitive information goes a long way in determining whether your spouse will trust you with such sensitive information again.
You have to be skillful and make your spouse feel comfortable talking with you about their vulnerability.
My husband talks to me about such and I do the same with him.
In the plan of God, we are given to protect ourselves.
Never feel your spouse is being too concerned or jealous.
Even if they seem to be, understand their insecurities and try to reassure them.
If one spouse doesn’t feel okay with a relationship especially with the opposite sex, that relationship goes.
At least at that moment, until further notice.
Let this be a rule in every marriage.
It is better to save your marriage and home than to save a relationship with someone you don’t have any covenant with.
There are some exceptions, but generally this rule is to protect and make your spouse comfortable.
Do not over do things, by being overly jealous and childish.
Like I said yesterday, it is not your being a monitoring spirit that will keep your spouse from predators.
It is your prayers and trust in God to protect them.
Do what you have to do but don’t leave God out of your marriage.
God bless your marriage
Confession of the day
My marriage is blessed and protected by God’s Mercy.
Prayer for the day
Lord, I take up my responsibility of protecting my spouse
I become more sensitive to my spouse
Thoughts of the day
My marriage is my life time investment. It must be protected
Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.