Yinka and Bolade are still young in marriage being married for close to two years.
Their marriage has been riddled with many misunderstanding. Yinka is a sparky Sanguine while Bolade is a Phlegmatic.
Bolade in his quiet ways is very vindictive. He always wants to stubbornly have his way.
He often rubs it in that he is the head of the family.
He doesn’t talk much. Although he could be pleasant most times, his mood swings and his being vindictive always keep his wife away from him.
Yinka on the other hand is fun loving, careless and outgoing. Their differences seem to draw them apart.
Bolade often feels he is not respected and that his wife doesn’t revere him and can do without him. He often feels his wife is too careless to be sensitive to him.
You can imagine the everyday tussle. This is what happens when either party doesn’t mature and grow up.
Marriage is for the matured. People who are ready to sacrifice their own pleasure to see the marriage work out.
Both Yinka and Bolade will have to learn, unlearn and relearn ideas on marriage.
Yinka will have to learn that even though she is a Sanguine, your marriage comes first. You cannot afford to be carefree with your marriage. You have to be deliberate as a wife and don’t just do whatever is convenient.
Bolade on the other hand must be matured as the head of the family. He should be strong, bold and not be controlled by His moods.
He should use God’s word to give him a stable emotion.
Both of them should join hands together in working on their weaknesses. They should help each other to help themselves.
They should know that one person’s immaturity will affect the other person. Prayers will be hindered and they will both be frustrated.
Living with a person of different temperaments, from a different back ground, having a different point of view to things generally is a huge task. Which must to be done with so much maturity and spiritual understanding.
We all have our spouses different from us. Love means different things to us at different times and we interpret love in different ways.
Respect to a man is a big deal and as wives we should give our husband large dozes of it.
As we both mature, we will see our lives better, our marriage better and together fulfilling God’s purpose for our lives.
God bless your marriage.
Confession of the day
I have Gods Spirit. I am changed into his image.
Prayer for the day
Lord, help me always yield to the Holy Spirit.
Thoughts of the day
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Find ways to love and respect your spouse without demanding anything in return.
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Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.