Basically no woman will be glad of the news of side chicks sharing her husband with her.
There is this feeling of ownership every woman has for her man.
The same feeling the man has for his woman.
Side chicks are those ladies who are cycling your husband for attention emotionally, physically and mentally.
They are strange women that the bible talks about in
Pro 2:16 To deliver thee from the strangewoman, even from the stranger whichflattereth with her words;
Pro 5:3 For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil:
Pro 6:24 To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strangewoman.
The power of the side chicks or strange woman according to the Bible is first in their flattering tongue or honey dripping words.
Example the side chicks will always rub the bald head of your husband and complement him while the wife is busy complaining about it.
Here are a few things to do to keep these side chicks away from your husband.
1. Communicate with your husband on all issues with emotional intelligence.
As a wife you must learn how to talk with your husband.
Learn to arrest his interest with your conversation.
Stop boring him with information that don’t interest him.
Learn to sandwich your requests with some fun.
Don’t be a nag.
Learn to be fun to be with.
Relax. Don’t be tensed.
Learn to laugh.
Don’t be too serious.
Know how to answer without tension
2. Make your husband to be comfortable in your presence
Let him be free to talk to you about his vulnerabilities and challenges.
Let him find a shoulder to rest on and a bosom and laps to relax on.
A wise woman knows how to arrest the interest of her husband! Do you know that there is a boy in every man? You must know how to bring that boy out of him? You will be amazed how he looks forward to you playing with him.
3. Give him attention.
If you don’t, the side chicks are around that are willing to give attention.
Listen to your husband!
When your husband insists he doesn’t want something, flow with him. Don’t disobey him just for your convenience. For example, if he says he doesn’t want house-maid, believe me, he knows what he is saying. So don’t use your money to go and hire a housemaid and bring such to your matrimonial home. Always listen to what your husband is saying and what he is not saying. Men don’t talk much. They only sometimes drop hints. So be sensitive!
4. Have a common mentor
Every marriage goes through its own challenges.
Have mutual mentors you both respect and agree to talk with.
Don’t ever report your spouse to friends or colleagues. Definitely, we all want to talk when there are issues, and this is where a mutual mentor becomes important.
5. Always pray together.
Couples that pray together stay together.
The God factor is one of the most important factors in marriage.
Your marriage is not meant to be a journey you embark upon by your strength and energy.
This will give you strength, courage and grace to ward away ladies who are trying seriously to seduce your husband.
It will give you spiritual energy and discernment to know a lady making advances to your husband.
6. Give him Jeru trip!
Your husbands wants jeru trip all the time. The power of the side-chick outside is in her words, bums and bust! A sexually dissatisfied husband is vulnerable.
May God give us victory over every home and marriage destroyer.
May God bless your marriage.
Confession of the day
I am sensitive to know the wiles of the enemy
Prayer for the day
Lord, help me to be sensitive to your Spirit and do all I have to do to keep intruders from my husband
Thoughts of the day
My husband is my investment. I have a responsibility to protect him.
I have to up my game and become mature to protect my matrimonial home
Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.