Well, I have had a nice time writing about how to take care of your husband and how to take care of your wife.
Now to tie the whole gist together.
The bottom line is that, we need to care for one another, period!
If we don’t take care of each other, then who will or who should?
I believe part of marriage being a covenant is that we are meant to watch each other’s back.
Cover each other’s weaknesses and be committed FULL TIME.
If we understand this, adultery will not even be in the picture.
I guess that’s why God so much HATES adultery, because it is a breach of contract.
God never created anything to survive in isolation.
God is a God of associations. He loves synergy. He is a God of covenant and
He also keeps covenant.
If you take a look at the marriage vows, you will see how much God values the marriage covenant.
The marriage vows reads (a part of it):
Both Groom and Bride: ‘ With my body I do thee wed, to hold and to cherish till death do us part”.
This is the vow made before God, the priest and the congregation that becomes your witness.
The couples are to be there for each other.
Be friends. Listen to each other.
Be of help to each other. Assist one another in the chosen field of interest.
Help each other with house chores, let there be no wife’s duty or husband job except based on agreement.
Be competitive with out doing each other in kindness.
Give to each other and never be over demanding.
Let the love that Christ shows be evident in your marriage.
Pray together and pray for one another. This is most important.
Because a family that prays together stays together.
And I add, the family that plays together, grows together.
Have fun time together. Let there be family times together.
Schedule ‘Me and You’ times together.
I always like to go out together with my husband and bond with him.
Just being around him, makes you know him more, know how he reacts, know what he likes and don’t like and I get to see him in a different lights.
Do whatever in your capacity that shows that you love your spouse.
Forgive easily. Be angry but do not sin.
Don’t gossip about yourselves.
Love your children equally and don’t let them come in between you.
For those that are waiting for the fruits of the womb, stay connected to each other.
Be closer and in agreement now than ever before.
Pray together. Be strong and encourage each other.
Manage your finances well. Be a good steward of the resources you have.
Think of who to help and assist. Do your givings with each others knowledge.
Don’t hide anything from your spouse.
Avoid friends your spouse is not comfortable with, no excuses.
Don’t keep friends you can’t tell your spouse about, don’t trap yourself.
Always cherish your time at home and try as much as possible to eat meals prepared by your spouse at home.
Be present at home as much as you can.
Train and discipline your children together.
Avoid quarrels as much as you can.
Do all these and you will enjoy bliss in your marriage.
God bless your marriage.
Confession for the day
I honour and cherish my spouse and treat him/her special in everything I do.
Prayer for the day
Lord, help me and teach me more how to take care of my spouse.
Thought of the day
My wife/ husband is God’s gift to me. I have to take care of him/her.
Begin to take care of your spouse and appreciate him/her.
Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.