Before I go on, let me quickly wish you a Happy New Month!
This month will bring forth all the good it has for you in Jesus name! God bless our marriages!
There are some messages Pastor taught in the month of January on Fruitfulness that will bless you . Check them on Audio Page HERE under 2019 messages
Yesterday, I wrote on ‘How to take care of your husband and the responses I had were very interesting and quite encouraging.
By the way, I hope you learnt one of two things.
I hope you got an idea or another about how to take care of your husband.
Let me start today from a question I had from one of the comments:
“Who takes care of the woman especially if she does everything possible and takes care of the husband and he doesn’t even notice, until she can’t take care of him any more?
In the scenario above, the husband is seriously in error by not noticing his wife’s effort to keep the home and the family.
The man is either immature, selfish or simply doesn’t care.
But before I jump to conclusion, I need to ask, Is the wife caring for her husband with a wrong attitude?
I remembered Joyce Meyer saying in her tape that because she wanted to be noticed by her husband, she would slam the door, do house chores with a bad attitude, snap at every one, fusses about things etc.
A negative attitude does no good. It puts men off. When you do the house chores with a smile and a song in your mouth you attract the help of your husband.
A good attitude is attractive and commands attention.
Now, to our main topic today.
Husbands should take care of their wives like ‘kilode’.
Eph 5:25 (MSG) Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church–a love marked by giving, not getting.
Eph 5:28 (MSG) And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor–since they’re already “one” in marriage.
Eph 5:29 (MSG) No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it.
That’s how Christ treats us, the church,
The bible also talks of cherishing his wife in verse 23.
Now this can be in various fashion and flavour, but a woman sure knows what it means to be cherished.
If your own idea of cherishing your wife is helping with the house chores, please go ahead.
But if you can’t do the house chores, make sure you compensate for that in another way.
Get some help for your wife if you cant offer her the needed help especially since she probably has a job.
But mostly, the care your wife wants and needs is emotional.
Husbands need to understand that they married an emotional being.
Be there for her. Listen to her. Be her friend. Protect her. Appreciate her every effort.
Nurture her physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Your wife is your most valuable gift from God.
How you treat her will go a long way in determining how she will function.
Your wife does not function in automatic but functions in manual.
You treat your wife well, she in turns treat you well in multiple ways. You have to treat her well to enjoy her maximally.
Make your wife blossom and she will give the beautiful scent of her petals to you and the world.
Some husbands without conscience will watch their wives labour endlessly to care for the children, do house chores, handle the rigors of business or a job, take care of them, put food on the table and of course still demand for regular ‘night duty’.
I feel this is so unfair. God gives us grace to cope with all that needs to be done but please the husband needs to show some care too.
How proud will you be if your wife appears and she looks unkempt.
Buy your wife gifts, take her out, take her to the movies, eat out, buy her jewelries, clothes and shoes, fix her car, take items for repair at home, buy equipment that will ease her work at home. Drive her to places she needs to go. Just offer to be of whatever help she needs.
Let your wife be able to say, ‘My husband is trying, he is taking care of me’.
God bless your marriage.
Confession for the day
I honour and cherish my wife and treat her special in everything I do.
Prayer for the day
Lord, help me and teach me more how to take care of my wife.
Thought of the day
My wife is God’s gift to me. I have to take care of her.
Begin to take care of your wife and appreciate her.
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Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.