Segun and Bisola have been married for 5 years.
They cant really call their marriage a blissful marriage but you know the ‘we thank God” kind of marriage.
The type of marriage where the husband is trying to understand the wife and the wife too is trying her best to understand her husband.
Their consolation is that their marriage is still better than some others.
At least, they are faithful to each other and have no extra marital.
When Bisola thinks of her marriage, she is not particularly happy with the way they don’t understand themselves.
She secretly wished she can be the best spouse to Segun.
They were campus sweethearts but now….
Well, they are still sweethearts but not like before.
Segun on the other hand too, secretly wished he was the best spouse to his wife.
He wished he could be all that his wife wanted of him as husband.
Is there even a way one can be the best spouse?
These and many other questions flooded the hearts of these two lovers.
Marriage is not just living as house and bed mates.
It is not just bearing your husband’s name and nursing his children,
keeping a house for him and cooking his meals.
For the husband too, there is more to marriage than just having a woman in your house and life.
To be the best spouse, you need to understand yourself, your spouse and the concept of marriage as instituted by God.
There is no happy marriage without God, outside God all you have is trial and error.
Learn the basic principles that makes marriage work.
Know and accept that you and your spouse are different and will have different opinions about issues.
Try to understand what your spouse’s love language is and speak it.
Know how to communicate your own love language to your spouse.
Don’t harbour unforgiving spirit, bitterness and strife.
Take your marriage to God daily in prayers.
Be sacrificial. Be understanding.
Don’t be selfish or be concerned about your own thing.
Be excited about your spouse, celebrate him or her in whatever state they may be.
Don’t be over demanding.
Don’t compare your spouse to another and don’t keep company with those that will influence you negatively.
Focus on your own marriage and trust God to make you and your spouse what He wants you to be.
May you be the best spouse your spouse has ever dreamed of.
Confession of the day
I am the best spouse to my husband or wife.
Prayer of the day
Lord, help me become the best spouse.
Thought of the day
It is possible to learn principles that will make me be the best spouse
Begin to work at being the best spouse
Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.