I Really Missed The Times I Was Single

I Really Missed The Times I Was Single

I know singles will not believe this, until they get married.

All singles want to do is to get married. And you will.

But marriage is work. Just know that right away.

In November this year, our marriage will be two decades! That’s right, twenty years!

It looks like yesterday o.


And somehow I missed those times when I was single.

So, it’s just a word of advice.

Enjoy yourself thoroughly well.

Don’t use all the time sulking, getting depressed and feeling sad that others are getting married.

Enjoy yourself while it lasts.

Engage yourself intellectually. Build yourself up.

In the minds of guys, marriage brings a picture of jeru trip and more of that.

In the minds of ladies, marriage brings a picture of romance, love, a husband that never gets angry and children who are well behaved.

One single guy, many years ago, even wrote a book and wrote there that it is demonic for kids to cry, and that when he starts having children, they will not cry.

At the time, we already had our first child. I only shook my head for the guy. There are some things you don’t even reply, you simply wait for time to expose the foolishness.

I can promise you it is more than all these.

One guy said his wife-to be is in trouble. That jeru trip would be nothing less than three times a day. That having kept himself for 30 years…his wife will “take!”

I laughed!

As a man, sometimes, the last thing on your mind is Jeru trip! Yes, really.
So if marriage is not about jeru trip and romance all the time what is it about?

It’s about pampers, babies, house rent, paying bills, school fees, building your own house, getting a vehicle for yourself, and for spouse, vacation goals, in-law management, parenting, and a hundred other things!

Marriage comes with pressures.

Marriage never relieves pressures. It adds more.

But thank God for grace! Two will always be better than one!

Some people have had very bad experiences with marriage that they call it in a necessary evil.

I don’t agree with that.

It is not an “evil” but then it is work.

People who are not ready to sacrifice and love genuinely will see marriage as evil.

The bible says whoso finds a wife finds GOOD!

There is good in marriage when you are ready to let go of selfishness, greed, unfaithfulness and other vices.

Marriage can be beautiful when you do it God’s way.

So, in conclusion, I missed the times I was single, but I don’t EVER want to be single. I am good as it is now! God has given me a beautiful family and I am grateful.

I pray that God will help you in areas you need His help that you might not even know in Jesus name!

Be blessed!

Confession for the day
My marriage will be beautiful

Prayer for the day
Lord, show me areas I need to work on.

Thought of the day
Psalms 90:14 (KJV)  O satisfy us early with thy mercy; that we may rejoice and be glad all our days.

Action plan
Write out your strength/versus your weaknesses.

Bible reading
Psalm 114

Pastor Dunamis Tunde Okunowo

Husband of one. Father of Three. Mentor of thousands. Impact to nations. Addicted writer. Web Developer. Pastor at Shouts of Grace Center, Ibadan, Nigeria. Facilitator of Kisses and Huggs Club. Follow on Instagram HERE

This Post Has 10 Comments

  1. Sylvester Obinna

    My marriage will be beautiful because two are better than one…glory to Jesus!

  2. John Oluwawalemi

    My marriage will be beautiful

    1. PastorDunamis


  3. Prince

    People feel when u are single, you can do and undo but it’s not so…for me it’s a time of self development and preparation for a greater calling and responsibility…my marriage will be made in heaven! And I will build myself this time I have left as a single.

  4. John Oluwawalemi

    Lord, show me the areas I need to work on

  5. Pastor Sophia

    Stop day dreaming,Marriage comes with its pressures. Be prepared to handle them. Also be prepared to enjoy the blessing therein.

  6. Dunmoye Olamide

    My marriage will be beautiful. Amen

  7. Jesupelumi

    My marriage is and will be beautiful!

  8. Edu

    Frank! Not sugar coated. It’s work!! and more work!!!

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