You and I are seeds now in our single phase. What determines whether we will germinate well in marriage is how much nutrient we are receiving now.
And the determinant of that nutrient in the first place, is the type of soil we have been placed.
Matthew 13:3-9 (NLT) says
He told many stories in the form of parables, such as this one:“Listen! A farmer went out to plant some seeds.
As he scattered them across his field, some seeds fell on a footpath, and the birds came and ate them.
Other seeds fell on shallow soil with underlying rock. The seeds sprouted quickly because the soil was shallow.
But the plants soon wilted under the hot sun, and since they didn’t have deep roots, they died.
Other seeds fell among thorns that grew up and choked out the tender plants.
Still other seeds fell on fertile soil, and they produced a crop that was thirty, sixty, and even a hundred times as much as had been planted!
Anyone with ears to hear should listen and understand.”
I am sure we are wondering how the parable of the sower relates to our relationships. Well it does.
You see, sometimes we are looking for our spouses in the wrong place.
Or maybe you yourself are the one positioned wrongly.
The first set of seeds fell along the footpath. A footpath is a place to be trampled upon by every Tom, Dick and Harry.
Some people still carry the trauma of previous relationships and all the garbage life has thrown at them. You can’t take that into a new relationship. It won’t work. You have to be healed first.
Also don’t think you can ‘manage’ someone who has been trampled upon. You are not the Holy Spirit. Give room for that person to grow out of it. This is especially common with the guys who come in with the super hero mentality.
You will get your hands burnt sir!
Am I saying you should run away from such people or neglect them? By all means no but know your boundaries.
Love is patient. Be a friend in need and indeed first before going into a romantic relationship. Don’t carry a cross that was not built for you. You will just fall under it’s weight hence you too will become another seed that was trampled upon.
Relationship requires the wholeness of the individuals involved.
Another set of seeds fell on shallow soil with underlying rock. The interesting thing is that these seeds sprouted quickly however because their roots didn’t go down deep, they quickly withered away.
There are some individuals who are so good looking on the outside, in fact they are the ideal according to human standards.
All the muscles, the height, the hips, lips and tips are in place, the beauty or handsomeness, the money, the job, the house, the cars, the diction, the certificates and so on.
But you know what? They are not deep at all! Any small wind will send them packing. These kind of people fall under any slight pressure. If at all you want to fall, let it be under the anointing of your spouse! Oh yes!
If you are this kind of seed, you better get deep. Neither should you entangle yourself with a shallow individual. Your deep should be calling your partner’s deep in the deep!
You should not be a man that will run away from home because of certain challenges. You should not be a woman that will dishonour your husband because he lost his job. Stay there and sort it out together! Stand on your convictions, my friend!
That is why knowing why you got into it in the first place is as important as staying there. And if you think the relationship you have right now is not what it should be, well, go back to the source and crosscheck again.
We will continue next week.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY:
I am a good seed on a good soil.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY:
Father help me not to be looking for my lover in the wrong place.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY:
Are you a seed positioned rightly or a disaster that is about to happen?
ACTION PLAN OF THE DAY:
Allow the Holy Spirit helps you to assess your depth in God.
BIBLE READING OF THE DAY: