The home is supposed to be a safe haven, a place where peace and serenity dwells but that seems not to be the case with Florence and her husband as that seems to have lost a long time ago.
Her husband, Coy, now keeps late nights and leaves before her and the kids are up. In fact, he hasn’t tasted her food going to a month now. Where did she go wrong?, she kept asking herself as she no longer finds it funny.
It is very crucial for couples to seek to maintain the peace of their home.
The home should be a place every member of the family is looking forward to return to, not some sort of battleground.
There are some homes you even enter into as a stranger and the peace in there is so thick that you can cut through.
A peaceful home does not just grow, it is built. Anything can grow on its own but a building requires adequate involvement, else it will collapse.
And my people shall dwell in a peaceable habitation, and in sure dwellings, and in quiet resting places (Isaiah 32:18)
To maintain the peace and serenity in your home, the following must be put into practice.
1. Desire a closer walk with God. God is the author of marriage. Marriage was primarily His idea, so much cannot be done in the marriage without Him. Seek answers to your questions from Him first. Ask Him to give you all the wisdom you need to run the home as He wants you to. Set up the spiritual atmosphere of your home through prayers and be consistent with it.
2. Communicate often. Let everyone in the home have a true sense of belonging. Everyone should have a say and their words should matter. Allow everyone to be part of the family decision making. When you allow your spouse and children to think through making a decision with you, it boosts their self esteem and your children will learn to make the right decisions early.
3. Let there be mutual love and respect. Show love and respect to your spouse at all times. Do not allow over-familiarity as familiarity breeds contempt. Don’t become too acquainted to your spouse and lose your respect for themShow genuine love to your spouse and every member of the family. Let everyone feel loved. Be their greatest cheerleader. Be their for them at all times.
4. Create quality time for your home. Many times, we get carried away by the busyness of life,which we cannot often control. Take charge of your time and consciously create time for your family. How often does your family enjoy healthy meals, not junks or fast-food?How often do you pray and play together? How often do you listen to one another?
Just like Proverbs 31:29 says, can your spouse and children say of you that, many spouses/parents have done virtuously but you excel them all?
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
Our home is peaceful and serene. We seek God daily to direct the atmosphere of our home. No bitterness of any sort will thrive in our marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Father in the Name of Jesus, let your peace reign in our home. Help us to love and respect on another.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another. (Romans 14:19 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Ask your spouse for any way you can be better and work on it.
BIBLE READING FOR TODAY
Oluwatoyin is a wife, teacher and a lover of God. She loves to see people living their lives in the most amazing way, thereby becoming useful to one another.