Coker wanted to hear God’s voice concerning his marriage as he feels it’s about time to bring a wife home, so he went on a seven day fasting and prayer.
On the seventh day, the Lord spoke the word ‘That’s her’ to his ear while he was having a stroll on the street. He looked behind and found a lady. He beamed with a smile and approach his soon-to-be wife with a message from the Lord.
“Hello Sister, how are you today? I have a message for you from God. He told me you’re to be my wife. No wonder I have been seeing this face in my….
The sister cuts in with a hot slap on his cheek…”Me? your wife. May my eyes not see evil. You do not even know me, yet the first thing that comes out of your mouth is I’m to be your wife. If I were you I would build friendship first. You should go back home and learn your manners well.
Coker in utter dismay as to what just played out in front of him, went home disappointed.
Your intention may be right but your manner of approach might be totally off. Listen, if God has shown you the person, you don’t hurry and go profess “thus saith the Lord” to the person.
I have seen brothers “chop insults” from sisters over this thing all because they lacked the right knowledge to go about it.
How about saying the words ‘I like to marry you, please think about it and get back to me’, or better still, build friendship first with the person.
There’s nothing wrong in building friendship, brothers. This is very important because a huge chunk of what you will be doing in marriage is friendship, so anyone that can’t make it as your friend in the first place can’t make it into the marriage with you.
Let things naturally flow, enjoy each other’s company, let the love grow from friendship. The result is always rewarding by following this principle.
That’s why I’m 100% in the camp of reading Godly books, listening to sermons pertaining to marriage before getting hooked. Desire alone is not enough.
Proverbs 19:2 (NIV) Desire without knowledge is not good; how much more will hasty feet miss the way!
Oh ye Spirit-filled brothers and sisters desiring to marry hear me and hear me well! Please read Godly books on marriage and relationships to get enlightened with the right knowledge.
There’s nothing wrong in that; spirituality doesn’t mean you should read only the Bible and ignore all other Godly books full of practical insights that you’ll need in times to come.
As myopic as this thing is, some tongue-talking Christians still believe in that ideology of I’m a child of God, I will have a good marriage by confessing with their mouths alone. Oh, help me tell that brother or sister that faith without works is dead!
You want to marry and you don’t know what emotional intelligence is? You want to marry and you don’t know your temperament? You want to marry, you don’t know what sensitivity to the needs of your partner means? Oh! common, get off your high horse and start devouring these books.
Daniel 9:2 (KJV) In the first year of his reign I, Daniel, understood by books the number of the years, whereof the word of the Lord came to Jeremiah the prophet, that he would accomplish seventy years in the desolations of Jerusalem.
Please read! read!! and read!!!
It will help you a lot in preparing for that beautiful marriage. Don’t ever make the mistake of entering into any courtship or marriage in ignorance if you don’t want to ruin it with your ignorance.
We tend to attach the devil’s name to all our problems whereas ignorance as it is, has caused more damage in many homes! So before you run into any fasting and prayer to fight the devil get the right knowledge first. It will save you from a lot of hassle.
Hosea 4:6a (KJV) My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.
Someone might be asking, how do I go about getting the right knowledge for a start, there are a lot of bad books these days? That’s very easy, Godly books on relationship and marriage are not scarce; you can get them right here on the KHC blog.
Sermons, audio messages are also available. The blog itself caters for singles and marriage devotionals daily which is also a good start.
You’ll learn, unlearn and relearn here, trust me.
Don’t walk into that marriage in ignorance with all of these resources at your doorstep, please!
Ignorance is not an excuse anymore. That you’re a child of God doesn’t guarantee a successful marriage if you don’t arm yourself with Godly principles to live by!
Confession for the Day
Ignorance has no hold on me. I study to show myself approved.
Prayer for the Day
Father let my eyes of understanding be enlightened.
Thought for the Day
Relationship or marriage doesn’t succeed just because you are a child of God. That you’re a child of God or that you speak in tongues doesn’t mean you understand how to accommodate another human being in your life! You can be a child of God and still be ignorant of the principles to live by.”
Action plan for the Day
Get a copy of the ebook “Knowing who to marry” from the KHC store today and be enlightened.
Bible reading for Today
Proverbs 19: 2-3