Yesterday, we mentioned two main points with regard to this topic
- Understand you are different from your spouse.
- Communicate more often.
Today, we will conclude as God will give us utterance.
3. Do not attempt to read your spouse’s mind.
Many of us make this mistake a lot in marriage. Before your partner says A, you are so quick to read BCDEFG meanings to it.
An example is a wife asking her husband how the dinner tastes. He replies it was OK but the wife took his response as the food was bad. It did not appeal to him, the food was tasteless. He did not like it etc whereas the husband said OK for lack of a better word.
Reading your partner’s mind often leads to misinterpretation and misinterpretation often breeds misinformation which leads to misunderstanding.
4. Express your emotions with a free mind but keep them under check.
A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife. (Proverbs 15:18 KJV).
Try as much as possible to keep your temper under check so as not to overreact as this will blow the issue out of proportion. Do not rush into saying things or doing what you will eventually regret.
A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards. (Proverbs 29:11 KJV)
5. Always disagree to agree.
Understand that at the end of the day, it does not matter who was right or wrong, who won or lost; resolving conflicts should be a win-win situation for you both.
If the conflicts are resolved successfully, you both win.
You and your spouse are on the same team and not competing against each other.
Do not forget also, not to underestimate the power of prayer. Prayer still changes things. Take it to God in prayer before taking it to your spouse.
I believe these few points will help you in a bid to resolve conflicts the right way in your marriage.
Until you read from me again, keep flourishing in your marriage.
God bless you.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am committed to fighting fair in my marriage. As we apply the principles taught in yesterday and today’s devotional on resolving conflicts, my spouse and I enjoy a stronger bond and a flourishing family (Amen)
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord Jesus, help my spouse and I to always resolve any conflict we have in an healthy way, not to bring each other down but to enjoy a long lasting relationship (Amen)
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.(Proverbs 29:11 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Do you have an outstanding conflict yet to be resolved? Find time to discuss it with your spouse today in a loving way.
BIBLE READING FOR TODAY
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Oluwatoyin is a wife, teacher and a lover of God. She loves to see people living their lives in the most amazing way, thereby becoming useful to one another.