I was thinking, why are these words called magic words? Are they really magical in the use of them or they are merely nursery rhymes we learnt when growing up?
I believe these words are truly magical. Just as the Bible says
Pro 15:1 KJV A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Words are so important because in marriage, what we do basically is talk. We express our feelings, our emotions, our thoughts, our insecurities, and all these could either be positive or negative.
Communication is however not complete until what we are saying is understood by the other party. Ninety percent of the quarrels in marriage can and would be avoided if we follow the Bible’s injunction of using soft answer.
Couples who have mastered the act of speaking in certain ways or using certain phrases in their marriage have been more successful in avoiding strife.
It really works, when my husband and I started saying to ourselves, ‘I can not fight you, we are one and we are joined together’, it helped us better to resolve whatever was bothering us.
As insignificant as these words seems, their effects on the hearer works wonders. Remember, God will not come down to help us speak to our spouse.
We have to learn the art of being pleasant, speak calmly and avoid harsh words.
Of course, we are not restricted to just these five words:
- I am sorry
- Thank you
- Excuse me
- Pardon me
We can adapt these words in our different situations. Let’s learn to stop, calm down before we speak. Don’t let us be too rash in our speaking and with our tongue. Let us learn better ways to communicate better.
We can say the same things in several different ways. Let’s also watch our tone and our body language. Respect is important to guys and any form of disrespect, they frown at it immediately.
Husbands, your wife is an emotional being and they respond to words.
Psa 55:21 The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart: his words were softer than oil, yet were they drawn swords.
If your words are kind and soft you will get a better reaction from her. You cannot get the best from your wife if you keep shouting at her and throwing commands at her as though she is your servant.
Make your marriage better by speaking to yourselves more kindly.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I speak with my spouse kindly and respectfully
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
I receive help to bridle my tongue
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Pro 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. )
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Make a decision to speak softly to your spouse
BIBLE READING FOR TODAY
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Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.