I’ve heard that statement over a thousand times since my existence but most of the time in the opposite. People often say, the grass is not greener on the other side. We still can’t deny the fact that the grass is sometimes greener on the other side.
Have you ever taken a look at a well-watered and a well-cultivated garden? Everywhere looks calm and serene.
The atmosphere there is very peaceful, mere staying by the grass brings some sort of coolness to you. It’s usually a very beautiful moment, isn’t it?
Then, you pass by some other garden and they are not much different from a dry land. Everything looks dry. The leaves of the flowers are all yellow, the grasses are brown. The whole surrounding is littered with dry leaves and very dirty. Right?
Same species of grass, same natural conditions but different results.
Mr. A’s marriage is so perfect. Without pretence or hypocrisy, he seems not to have any issues. Mr. A and his wife constantly beam at each other with smiles.
You can hardly ask any of them about their marriage and their response won’t be with a broad smile. Everything seems to be working absolutely well for them.
Yours may be different. It might not look anything close to what you see in Mr. A’s marriage. You then begin to wonder what is going wrong.
What are they doing differently?
The answer is simple. They are both putting in more work into their marriage.
A garden left unattended to will soon become a dry land. In just a little while, the leaves will turn yellow and the grasses will become brown.
You spend most of your day at work, you even have to bring some of your work home from office in order to meet up with targets.
You believe your spouse will understand. “Am I not doing it for us”, you say. Are they not our children? Why does he always complain? Why does she always clamour for attention?
You will retire from work one day. Your beloved children will soon start their own families too.
At the end of all these, what kind of garden of marriage do you want to return to?
… You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail. (Isaiah 58:11b)
A well-watered garden with the grasses green and the leaves so tender and soft, all looking healthy. A home where people find succour and one which people model after. A loving spouse looking so lively and loving.
Or one left in shambles, an abandoned site. An eyesore and one in which the couple are so hostile to each other. One issue upon another, one problem after the other. One that does not appeal to anyone and lots of insecurities attached.
Dear reader, the ball is in your court. What are you investing into your marriage now for you to continually enjoy the peace and serenity in your home?
A gardener is a groomer. Gardening work is one in which your patience is tested and you have to focus maximally to bring out the best.
A gardener is always excited at his final outcome at the end of the day because he has put in so much effort in his job and the result is so appealing.
Do all you can to make your marriage work. You both don’t have to be perfect but allow God work in your marriage and make something beautiful and perfect out of your marriage.
Create beautiful memories while you still can. Hold hands. Laugh at each other’s jokes. Be interested in what interests your spouse. Give unsolicited hugs and surprise kisses. Go on vacations, it doesn’t have to be so expensive. Eat out often. Do purpose together. Study the Bible together. Pray for and with each other.
As much as all these make you both feel loved, the memories linger a long time.
Gardening is not necessarily expensive but it must be very regular.
Your grass too can be evergreen but you need to put in effort.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
My marriage is like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord Jesus, I release myself and my marriage unto you. Grant unto us wisdom to regularly water our garden so that our leaves will be evergreen and bring glory to your name (Amen)
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little, and there a little (Isaiah 28:10)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Create a beautiful memory with your spouse today.
BIBLE READING FOR TODAY
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Oluwatoyin is a wife, teacher and a lover of God. She loves to see people living their lives in the most amazing way, thereby becoming useful to one another.