The Power Of Love Languages In Relationships

The Power Of Love Languages In Relationships

Construction has been ongoing around my work place for quite a while now and a couple of days ago one of the labourers was trying to point my attention to something. From his gesticulation I could see that what he was trying to communicate was important, but I didn’t quickly get it because He was not speaking my language.

Language is a very powerful and important thing, especially in relationship and marriage.

Let’s take a look at the scriptures
Genesis 11:6 (KJV)And the LORD said, Behold, the people is one, and they have all one language; and this they begin to do: and now nothing will be restrained from them, which they have imagined to do.

Genesis 11:6 (AMP) And the LORD said, “Behold, they are one [unified] people, and they all have the same language. This is only the beginning of what they will do [in rebellion against Me], and now no evil thing they imagine they can do will be impossible for them.

Scriptures say the people were one and had the same language and so they were practically unstoppable. If God did not come down to scatter their language, they would definitely have achieved whatever they wanted.The language you speak will affect the unity and oneness between you and bae/bae-to-be.

When bae or boo does not understand your language, there will be confusion.

There’s a language that you will speak to bae/boo that he/she will resonate with. By language here, I don’t mean English, Yoruba, Spanish e.t.c. I’m talking about his/her love language.

Understanding Love language is non-negotiable for a successful and lasting relationship that will lead to marriage.

Your bae’s love language is not something that you can assume. It’s something you have to find out deliberately.

Let’s take a quick look and remind ourselves about the 5 love languages

1. Words of affirmation
This involves speaking words of affirmation, encouragement and expressing words of appreciation and kindness. Words have great influential power, in other for bae to feel love, you have to be deliberate about your choice of words.

You can’t afford to be careless with your words. Singles who have grown up in environments where negative words are common will probably have greater difficulty speaking this language. So it will involve unlearning the negative and learning to listen to affirming words of others.

2. Gifts
Gifts are powerful in the sense that they say, “I was thinking about you. I wanted you to have this”. Love is spelt G-I-F-T-S for them. Until you buy something regularly, you are just wasting time!

It can be any shape, size, colour or price, but it should be consistent. Gifts don’t really need to be expensive, but it should be something they care about. You can find out what they care about by listening to them so you have clues of gifts you can get that would be appropriate.

3. Acts of service
He only feels loved when you give a helping hand. That is the language he/she understands and you have to speak that language before feeling loved. For example, as a student, if you help her out with tutorials, and her love language is acts of service, she would love that more than some box of chocolates.

4. Quality time
When a person’s love language is quality time, that individual will value you spending “quality” time with him/her. You can’t have quality time with someone when you’re checking notifications on your phone every moment. Whoever has this love language will not feel loved unless you give him/her your undivided attention.

You might have the money to buy everything, but it wouldn’t make the individual with this love language feel as loved as when you spend quality time with them.

5. Physical touch
The last one is physical touch. Singles in courtship have to exercise some caution here and you should not insist on him or her speaking this language until you are married.

If you’re in a relationship and it seems bae does not understand and is not speaking your love language, help him out by showing how. He might have grown up in an environment where he does not know how to express or speak your language. This is a good reason you have to know your own love language.

I will speak the right language. My relationship is/will be blessed.

Father, I will not be ignorant. I study to show myself approved. I know the things that will cause my relationship to be successful

And the LORD said, “Behold, they are one [unified] people, and they all have the same language. This is only the beginning of what they will do [in rebellion against Me], and now no evil thing they imagine they can do will be impossible for them. Genesis 11:6 (AMP)

Read The Five Love Languages (Singles Edition) by Gary Chapman

Genesis 11

This Post Has 7 Comments

  1. Sylvester Obinna

    My relationship is blessed.

  2. Akin

    Out of the five love languages, physical touch seems to me to be the most dramatic.
    My question is how do singles escape the temptation that comes with a partner whose love language is physical touch. Since he or she won’t feel loved until the this language is spoken .

  3. Oni Elizabeth


    1. Akin

      Yes very possible, one dominant one and a secondary one

  4. Clinton Nkwa

    Am enlightened, hallelujah

  5. John Oluwawalemi

    I speak the right language, there will be no form of confusion in my relationship

  6. Jesupelumi

    I speak the right language

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