A friend shared some things with me and I was able to pick one or two things from it.
Sometimes we tend to have a preconceived idea in our minds about whom our spouses should be. As such, we tend to categorize people around us into various groups.
There are some that are the friends, the big brothers, the church sisters, the family friends, the classmates, the colleagues at work and then the besties.
The one I find most interesting however is the bestie which is usually of the opposite sex.
Why make an opposite sex your best friend if you can’t marry him or her? Who else should you even marry if not your best friend?
Of course there is nothing in knowing people’s places in your lives. For example, an unbeliever who is your colleague should not even be a love interest in the first place. You can only love them as Christ has commanded us and keep praying for their salvation.
However, there could be some really good relationships that can be ruined if care is not taken. Many times we don’t define the boundaries before emotions start setting in.
Many people have been damaged emotionally because of unmet expectations.
True to it, not everyone is a potential spouse, but what if the person is and you are busy ‘zoning’ the relationship?
If as a brother, you have started liking a sister and you have checked with God, please make your intentions known. You can ask in a jovial way just to know the state of her heart. The worst case scenario is that the lady in question will tell you a no but at least you will know where you stand and you can go back to meet God.
Sisters, stop giving brothers unnecessary ‘green lights’ when you know you can’t imagine being their wives. It is selfish for you to keep enjoying the gifts, the time and attention when you know that this is leading no where.
Proverbs 4:23 (TPT) So above all, guard the affections of your heart, for they affect all that you are. Pay attention to the welfare of your innermost being, for from there flows the wellspring of life.
Whenever you notice people coming around you all the time, there is no harm in asking where the relationship is leading. Don’t spoil future relationships because of your negligence.
Some are just in your life as destined helpers for a given time.
Some are gifts of men and vision builders.
Some are the ones whose decisions will determine whether you get to your next level or not.
Some will put in a good word for you where it matters.
Sisters, if a brother makes his intentions known and you are not interested, tell him politely. You don’t have to abuse his entire generation because you think you are not on the same level at that time.
1st Corinthians 13:7 (TPT) Love is a safe place of shelter, for it never stops believing the best for others
When you genuinely care about people, you won’t want to hurt their feelings. And if you know you are not the best for someone, please let them go and stop doing ‘canopy ministry’. Don’t block the other person who should see him/her from seeing them.
Finally, let the Holy Spirit be your guide. Fellowship with Him constantly and you can never go wrong.
You can always sense a person’s intentions even long before they come into the picture and you can guard your heart against any pain.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY: I will not marry my enemy.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY: Lord help me not to be misled and help me not to mislead others.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY: Have you been sending the wrong signals to those around you unknowingly?
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY: Speak up if you have to. Don’t just make assumptions.
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY: Proverbs 4