This is the concluding part of this topic. We looked at 3 major things that could possibly affect marriage.
1. Male – female differences
2. Temperamental differences
3. Wives want to train their husbands and love their children.
So this morning, we continue.
4. Immaturity on both sides
You must learn to matured.
Maturity doesn’t necessarily come with age but with experience.
There are some childish behaviors that just would not work in marriage.
That is why we say, marriage is not for boys and girls.
One of the signs of maturity is forgiveness
Unforgiving posture is a cancer in marriage. It eats up peace, unity and love.
Another one is strife and keeping malice.
We have several others like not eating because of anger.
Crying instead of intelligently explaining yourself, trying to get even in marriage.
Whatever might be an immature action in your marriage, avoid it.
5. Covetousness and lack of focus
God has dealt with us well.
We need to learn to be grateful with whatever God has done for us.
Let us stop focusing on other people’s marriages and work at our own.
Being covetous will not get you any where.
Focus on what God has given you, the grass always seems greener on the other side.
6. Lack and Insufficiency
Lack of finance is a major cause of stress and quarrel in marriage.
Love does not pay our bills and provide for the necessities of life, money does.
So not managing the times of insufficiency could affect our marriage.
In times of lack and insufficiency, we will do well to build commitment
Anger can adversely affect our marriage.
As couples we should learn about anger management.
We should disagree and not get angry over our disagreement.
The couples have to learn how not to speak or act in anger with each other.
Parents and in laws could be a blessing.
Not knowing how to manage our parents could be a major threat to the marriage.
We should put our feet down on issues when we need to do so.
Unfaithfulness of either spouse or both spouse can affect marriage.
All forms of affairs and out right adultery can affect the peace of any marriage
This could affect the marriage if either of the spouse is lazy.
If the wife is lazy with cooking and other house chores and the husband is lazy at work, this will affect the marriage.
Let’s work hard at avoiding things that can affect our marriage.
Confession of the day
I avoid things that affects my marriage
Prayer for the day
Lord, help grant grace to avoid these things and work for the peace of my marriage
Thoughts of the day
Marriage only works, when we learn to work at it.
Begin to take positive steps towards making your marriage work.
Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.