Things That Put Men Off In Marriage – Part 2

Things That Put Men Off In Marriage – Part 2

So let’s start where we left off on Friday.

We established the first point which is:

1. When the wife is trying to train the husband.
If you missed it, check it HERE

Let me quickly say something about my second point which is

2. Never be disrespectful to your husband, he will react badly.
It will only take God, serious maturity on the pat of the guy, his background, sometimes, serious understanding and a beautiful blend of temperament for a husband not to react to his wife’s disrespectful moves.

Even the most anointed of men will sometimes react. Men want and demand to be respected. It is even more dangerous if your husband doesn’t react or talk. He may decide to avoid you or stop all forms of deep communications with you.

So wife, you may be putting your husband off by your actions or reactions. Whichever way, humble yourself and learn what has to be learnt.
Marriage works not on our terms but on God’s terms.

3. Being emotional about everything
No doubt, women are emotional beings. We are emotional because God created us so. Without being emotional, I don’t think we will be able to mother our kids well. Nursing a child, and as many as the Lord gives us, requires a high level of being emotional. We can feel the pulse of another.

But the truth be told, we can’t live our lives based on emotions. Life is governed by principles.

In as much as we are emotional, in marriage, we should avoid the extremes. Learn to compromise a little and add some logic. When your husband is being logical, don’t let your differences be a reason for quarrels and strife.
Sometimes, logic always wins and at times, it’s being emotional.

Remember, the woman in the Bible that feed Elisha the prophet in 1kgs 4:10? It was her emotions or perception. There was no logical reasons that played out. Her husband cooperated with her and they got a long standing testimony.

But your husband gets put off when you handle everything emotionally, cry about every thing and want to be right always. Being both emotional and logical have their places in marriage.

4. When a wife is sharped tongued
It is a turn off when a wife is sharp mouthed. Some may excuse this major vice as a background and temperamental issue.

Some say, they are sharpe tongued because they are expressive, opinionated and objective.

There’s what to say, but how to say it is so important or the content of your message will be discarded.
Always learn the art of speaking. It requires some level of skills that has to be learnt.

There are different methods of saying the same things.
Watch your husband’s mood, the atmosphere at home and recent happenings. You don’t say important things when your husband is tensed.

Col 4:6 KJV
Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.

Pro 31:26 GW
When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly.

5. A moody wife and a disorganized house.
I put these two together because if a man has these two characters in his wife, he is in a mess.

A man is created for work outside the home while the woman is created a home maker. When a wife fails in this role, she frustrates her husband. The man is supposed to come home and meet a safe haven, where he can rest his head, free of chaos and complaint.

Pro 12:4 BBE
A helpful wife is a jewel for her husband, but a shameless wife will make his bones rot.

The wife’s mood is supposed to help and not frustrate her husband.
By the time a wife’s moods is frustrating her husband, there’s a problem.

Pro 31:25
She is strong and graceful, as well as cheerful about the future.

When a wife is moody and her countenance is sad, she affects the whole atmosphere of the home and especially her husband.

Let all wives work at being cheerful most of the time.

God bless our marriages.

I am a virtuous wife

Lord, I receive Grace to make my home a safe haven for my husband

Pro 12:4 A helpful wife is a jewel for her husband, but a shameless wife will make his bones rot.

Start to unlearn those things that can put off your husband and learn the right things to do

Pro 31 (Amp)

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Pastor Sophia Bola Okunowo

Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it's purpose.

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