I did a teaching once on the things that put men off in marriage and I thought it good to also show us that women also have things that get on their nerves in marriage.
I believe marriage is the joint effort of both the husband and the wife.
There are a lot of books, marriage seminars and teachings and what we see is that women are striving to make their marriages work.
We should also have a forum where men are addressed and helped to make their marriage work.
If the women know all the right things to do and do them while the men keep doing the wrong things that will not make marriage work, we are still back to where we started from.
So let’s look at some things in marriage that put women off or that can be a point of offence for women in marriage.
1. An immature husband who does not know how to handle and resolve quarrels.
Most husbands have not left their fathers and mothers as required for marriage in Gen 2:24.
They handle misunderstanding in all the wrong ways. They don’t eat their wife’s food, they leave the house for days, report their to their mother etc
2. Using your wife as an object of ridicule.
Making fun or tongue lashing their wife privately or in public and laughing at the weak points of their wife. This could be very disturbing to wives.
3. Promising and never fulfilling the promise.
This is about integrity. Women are mostly moved by words. Men know this and they can be careless to make promises when no one has put them under pressure to do so. They make promises and never fulfill them until the wife makes up her mind and never believes the husband.
4. Procrastination on important decisions.
A wife could be very disturbed when her husband is very slow on taking important decisions. It is understandable if he is taking time to pray or finding wisdom on what to do. It could be devastating for her to know that her husband will not take any step when important decisions are concerned.
5. Not celebrating your wife on special occasions.
Some occasions are very special and should be celebrated. Everyday should be made memorable by loving your wife. Such days as birthdays, anniversaries, promotions, birth of a new baby etc are to be held as special days.
6. Not helping out with house chores and the children.
It is very disheartened to know that at this age and time when women work at jobs sometimes more demanding than men’s, they still leave them alone to struggle with all house chores.
Sometimes, husbands are sitting with legs stretched watching the news, while the wife, after going to the market, cooking will still have to feed and care for baby. This shows the wife that their husbands are not sensitive or caring.
I will stop here today.
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I do not put my wife off in our marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, help me not to take my wife for granted.
THOUGHTS FOR THE DAY
I am one flesh with my wife, so I treat her as such
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Make adjustments where necessary and don’t take your wife for granted.
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
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Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.