This year my marriage with my husband will be twenty years!
Wow! Two decades!
It looks so long and yet it also looks so short.
We have both come a long way together. We have grown, matured, gone through tough and rough times, we have seen God intervene for us, we have moved and changed location, we have both gained weight, My husband had added a few grey hair, we have had three boys and a lot more.
Throughout these changes, I have come to know some things about marriage.
Let me share with you ten of those things with you.
1. Let the person you marry be more than your lover.
If your spouse is nothing more than being just a lover be ready to work extra.
Your spouse have to be your best friend, your cheer leader, your counsellor, your benefactor and much more.
2. You will quarrel and have misunderstandings.
If you never quarrel during courtship be prepared because you will surely have misunderstandings in marriage.
Only know that misunderstandings doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you.
In fact a marriage is considered healthy when spouses have different opinions.
Only disagree fairly and let it strengthen your marriage.
3. Our personal behaviour directly affects our marriage.
Our personality do affect our marriage.
Try to improve on your personal traits that negatively affects your marriage.
In other to be treated like a king, you have to behave like one.
4. There are ‘highs’ and’ lows’ in Marriage
Highs and lows are part of life and definitely part of your marriage life.
Enjoy the highs and try to be courageous during the lows.
Never ask “why me”, during the low moments.
Trust in God and Hold on to Him.
It will also pass away.
5. You both will change.
Only make sure that you change for the better and not for worse.
As your spouse change and grow, be prepared to grow also.You must mature in the ways you do things
1Co 13:11When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
I will continue tomorrow!
Confession of the day
I am not ignorant of the institution of marriage
Prayer for the day
Lord, help me to do what is right with that which I know about marriage.
I will make necessary changes in my marriage.
Thoughts of the day
The more I know about marriage, the more the information should provoke me to right actions.
Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.