What To Do When Your Lover is A Perpetual Snub

What To Do When Your Lover is A Perpetual Snub

It can be painful.

It can be hurting.

It can be debilitating, degrading and reprehensible depending on the degree of the snub moves.

It is one thing if you are not emotionally connected or you don’t feel any deep thing, but what do you do when you so passionately love a snub!

The word “snub” means is “to rebuff, ignore, or spurn disdainfully.”

It also means to deliberately ignore or treat rudely.

So, here you are so much in love with this guy or lady who is a snub.

Here are few things to note:

Do not ignore the attitude!

If indeed you intend to marry such a person, you cannot afford to turn a blind eye to the situation.

You don’t enter a land without observing it first!

Numbers 13:19 (MSG)  
Observe the land: Is it pleasant or harsh? Describe the towns where they live: Are they open camps or fortified with walls?

Wedding will not make it better or change anything. In fact, the snub acts will go to the next level because of additional pressures that come with marriage.

Pressures and a lots of stress come with marriage, okay!

Here is how apostle Paul puts it.
1 Corinthians 7:28 (MSG)  
But there’s certainly no sin in getting married, whether you’re a virgin or not. All I am saying is that when you marry, you take on additional stress in an already stressful time, and I want to spare you if possible.

So. when this stress adds up with an unrepentant snub, it can really get out of hand.

So, you cannot afford to ignore.

The issues have to be confronted and trashed.

Why is he being snobbish?

Could it be he is disinterested?

It is not a nice feeling to love the one who does not love you.

It’s a time waster, a destiny distraction, a dissipation of both spiritual and emotional energy.

Could it be she is never in love with you but doesn’t know how to tell you because of your too many gifts?

Now this topic is deep.

The first thing is not to live in denial of this attitude either as the giver or receiver of the unpleasant attitudes.

Marriage is two friends who genuinely love each other coming together.

A marriage where one loathes the other perpetually will not last.

A marriage where one party makes all the efforts at making the relationship work, while the other looks on and keep giving excuses will not last.

Nobody should use temperament as an excuse! No matter how how much of an introvert you are, when you are with the one you love, you will naturally open up. You will talk, laugh together, and all that!

You are not yet married and you are already being manipulated with silent treatments, disrespectful attitudes and the likes, so what is going to happen in marriage?

You see why you need a lot of counseling and orientation?

(You may use the whatapp button below the page to find out some of the courses and classes you can take that will help you.)

Too many people get into relationships without even knowing the purpose!

Every man and woman has a need to be loved, appreciated and praised.

You cannot keep using a bat on your lover’s head and expect all will be well.

So you sit down and talk about this issue.

So, that it won’t just be that you have been in love with yourself all along..

How beautiful is it when two friends who love each other come together?

How terrible is it when one is making the pursuit while the other disdains and rebuff every good action?

Why is it like that? Find out?

Are there parental dysfunctions?

Is there a past abuse that brought emotional and attitudinal damage?

Is the person incapable of showing and receiving love because she is closed up? Why is he or she closed up?

That you are constantly locked up in the legs in compromise all the time does not mean there is love or you will eventually marry. Sexual compromise deceives! It gives you a feeling that you are intimate but you are not. It is an illegal intimacy that opens up to demonic oppressions.

Is the guy just hanging on for the benefit of jeru trip while marriage is never in his agenda?

Those are pertinent issues that must be trashed.

I should be able to write more on this in the coming days, because I have not even started yet.

But we stop here this morning!

I pray for your relationship, may God help you in the very area where you need Him in Jesus name.

You will not be confused.

God will help you indeed.

Be blessed.

Meanwhile today is a special day o! 1996, on this very day, Pastor Sophia said YES to me, and she IS STILL saying YES! Hip hip hip…

I have a pleasant spirit

Lord, take every animosity away from me in Jesus name

Numbers 13:19 (CEV)  and if they live in open towns or walled cities. See if the land is good for growing crops and find out what kinds of trees grow there. It’s time for grapes to ripen, so try to bring back some of the fruit that grows there.

Write out what your lover appreciates about you. If you don’t know, ask him or her.

Proverbs 11

Pastor Dunamis Tunde Okunowo

Husband of one. Father of Three. Mentor of thousands. Impact to nations. Addicted writer. Web Developer. Pastor at Shouts of Grace Center, Ibadan, Nigeria. Facilitator of Kisses and Huggs Club. Follow on Instagram HERE

This Post Has 16 Comments

  1. Boluwatife

    Hurrah! Happy YES day sir (laughing)

    I have a pleasant spirit

  2. John Oluwawalemi

    😀 congratulations sir!!!

    1. Oluwakemi Yetunde Taiwo

      Nice one pastor 💪
      I have a pleasant spirit full of life. Amen

  3. Excel

    Happy Anniversary Sir and Ma. May God also say YES to you both in all things in Jesus name Amen

    1. Gina

      All the best sir……may it always be a yes for the both of you,congrats!

  4. Bro. Iyke

    Congratulations! Sir and Ma on this special day. But please why no share button and options unlike before? I searched everywhere to no avail.

    1. Pastor Dunamis

      The share buttons are right there. Clear your cache and reload again.

    2. Stephanie

      Happy Anniversary Sir and Ma,your marriage shall continue to be a blessing in Jesus Name..

  5. Oni Elizabeth


  6. Jesupelumi

    I have a pleasant spirit

  7. Dunmoye Olamide

    I have a pleasant spirit. Happy anniversary Sir and ma

  8. OGB

    Happy YES day… hehehe..

    I do have a pleasant spirit

  9. Isi

    Happy anniversary sir and ma..
    Today’s devotional message speaks to me on all levels, Even though God pulled me out of such relationship, I began to blame myself for not been tolerant enough and walking out. This is an eye opener for me and I’m looking forward to the subsequent devotional on this..More grace sir.

  10. Simply peculiar

    I have a pleasant spirit…

    Happy anniversary daddy…

  11. Sylvester Obinna

    Amen to the prayers and congratulations sir!

  12. Adebisi Ajibade

    Congrats sir!

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