When She No Longer Wants To Cooperate In Bed

When She No Longer Wants To Cooperate In Bed

Why would she not want to cooperate in bed?

This attitude is not to be ignored because it can potentially bring harm to marriage.

It can push a man without self control into the zone of adulterous escapades, and of course, that comes with its unpleasant and attendant consequences that are detrimental to the family and home.

When this happens over and over again, that marriage is in serious danger of being exploited by the devil.

What seems like occasional refusals can quickly degenerate to a point where the wife closes up her spirit and the husband starts looking elsewhere.

When you look at the scriptures, it advocates that you should not deny each other sexually. 

As a counselor, I have to counsel not too few a couple on this area.

By the grace of God, we are having a camp meeting for married couples alone before the year runs out and we will explore more of these areas.

The Singles’ camp meeting will be on a separate date as well. 

Back to our topic, what are those reasons why a wife can suddenly lose interest, especially if she has been cooperative before?

When she is repeatedly hurt and disappointed Yes, the man is the head of the house and he is supposed to have the final say. But when the man refuses to let his wife talk all the time, shuts her up and mute her voice, it can make her withdraw emotionally.

When she is withdrawn emotionally, she cannot enjoy jeru trip like she should.

She is not a prostitute.

And because she is not, a sexual experience for her is a total experience that affects every part of her.

If she is unhappy while at it, she can have the feeling of being raped.

And when this happens continuously, she would associate pain to an experience that you are supposed to enjoy and which is supposed to transport you to a land of delight like never before.

I believe this is one of the reasons Apostle Peter said:

1Pe 3:7 (CEV)
If you are a husband, you should be thoughtful of your wife. Treat her with honor…
Being thoughtful about her off bed will make her cooperate more on the bed.

Invest in her emotionally.

Stop hurting her over and over again.

The moment you lose her emotionally, you will not enjoy yourself as well.

I am not justifying this attitude on the part of the wife, because this attitude is not the appropriate response to an insensitive husband. 

Maybe he just does not understand how to treat a woman or how you want to be treated specifically.

That is not a sin in itself, he only needs to learn.

So, talk to him.

Explain, rather than withdraw, go quiet and sulk. 


Express your frustrations without nagging and work together to build your home.

I will stop here this morning

May God grant more understanding!

Be blessed!

I will cooperate with my spouse

Lord, let your love be shed abroad in our home

1Pe 3:7 (GW)Husbands, in a similar way, live with your wives with understanding since they are weaker than you are. Honor your wives as those who share God’s life-giving kindness so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.

Communicate with your spouse today

Ezra 4-6; Psalm 137

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