Who Is The Right Person To Marry?

Where is that right person?

Gen 39:10 KJV
And it came to pass, as she spake to Joseph day by day, that he hearkened not unto her, to lie by her, or to be with her.

We fault Mrs. Potiphar each time we read this story, but there is a major lesson here for us all.

When choosing a life partner, pertinent questions needs to be sincerely answered.

Nobody seems to remember Mr. Potiphar in this whole scenario, but where was he when his wife was eyeing a common slave?

Where was he when his wife became obsessed with a mere servant boy?

Let’s try to analyze it.

Mr. Potiphar was probably a civil servant, a government worker.

Mrs. Potiphar was probably a full time housewife.
Joseph was a full time house boy.

Have you wondered how and why some women stoop low to seek solace and comfort in the arms of their domestic staffs?

Have you asked yourself why some men would do anything to sleep with their maids?

I presume quality time and attention is a default love language for almost all women and indeed, some men.

So here is my submission;

Dear KHCites, before you ask or say yes, know what language you speak.

Before you ask or say yes, know basic things like your temperament.

Before you ask or say yes, know what you want for yourself.

You know you cannot stand being away from your husband for 2 weeks, what are you then doing with a naval officer? Don’t you see you are setting up yourself?

You like the title “mummy G.O”, “pastor mrs”, “mummy pastor” and the likes…can you bear to have dinner alone, because “daddy pastor” is on a fast?

You want your wedding day to be graced with uniformed personnel…you love the sword crossing ceremony, but can you live with the fact that you are likely to be transferred from place to place and may not spend up to a year in a particular location?

Mrs. Potiphar probably fell in love with the civil servant in Mr. Potiphar, not with Mr. Potiphar, so she wanted something more, that his money, affluence and position couldn’t provide.

Mr. Potiphar probably needed a woman, not a wife, so he felt all he needed to do was make money available.

Another lesson;

As a man, don’t spend all your time building your career at the expense of your family…you may make the money and loose your family in the process.

Uriah the Hittite lost his family because he put his career first.

Like Pastor Dunamis will always say…Family first!

These are my thoughts…let me hear yours in the comment section.

I put my family first place.

Lord, help me not to misplace my priorities.

Am I sure I am ready for my dream marriage?

Do a temperament test if you haven’t done so.

2 Sam 11

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  • Annie says:

    Yes ,I’m a woman and quality time and attention is part of my language. I think many brothers are really hard working and should also work hard to learn to speak the language of their women

  • Sylvester Obinna says:

    Help me Lord to always put my family first when I eventually have one.

  • Adedokun Oluwaferanmi Faith says:

    God bless you for this Pastor! This is one of the best devotional ever! God bless you richly sir.

  • Adejoke says:

    I put my family first place. Amen

  • Yinka says:

    What if circumstances changes along the line, you have to travel or stay apart not because you love your career more but it’s a necessity at the moment. I feel a place of understanding and self control should be well excecised. I speak cos I’m in a similar situation, though tough but for a greater course.

    • Sylvester Obinna says:

      Always stay in touch.
      Communicate every now and then.
      Use all available social media platforms to your advantage.


    Quality time with your family is necessary and of great important. God help our men to make time out of no time as they struggle to feed the family.

  • Gina says:

    Great thinking Sir,…self discipline is vital here…promiscuity shouldn’t be an option come what may…Lord help me!

  • Adebisi Ajibade says:

    Thanks for this.

  • Victoria says:

    I love the devotional

  • Jesupelumi says:

    More grace sir

  • Estherine says:

    Quite an eye opener. I love the way the story tells about issues from another perspective!

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