This is a very practical subject because there are alot of women out there that are asking, what else should I do?
Some times we have done all we know to do but our best just doesn’t seem to be working.
We did and keep doing our best but our efforts are not celebrated nor appreciated. At such times, what do we do?
What do we do when our weaknesses seem to be our beloved Husband’s focus?
It is not that we should not be corrected. But when the correction is more than the appreciation, what do we do?
What happens if the wife seems defendless against some of our husbands accusations?
It should be noted that sometimes our intensions are right so also is our motives but what if our actions are wrong?
If we understand our husband’s combination of temperament it will help us in dealing with this dilemna.
For example, my own huband is a Choleric all the way and he has as his secondary temperament, a very little percentage of phelegmatic. His background also plays an important role in how he sees things.
The way he sees things and interprets issues will be quite different from someone who is a Sanguine and has a different background.
It is very true that we see things and interpret issues based on who we are and not necessaily as they are.
It is also important to know that, God knows all about your husband and knows that he has a combination of idealogy, background, experiences and temperaments.
His background and temperament are never a minus. God knows exactly how to handle situations the best way possible.
Jer 29:11 KJV
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end
Jer 29:11 GW
I know the plans that I have for you, declares the LORD. They are plans for peace and not disaster, plans to give you a future filled with hope.
God has you covered. There is a plan that has your best interest at hand.
Rom 8:28 KJV
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to [his] purpose.
Sometimes, our husband hammering on our weakness may be what we need to continually draw us to our knees to talk to God.
Our husbands, most of the times, their aim is never to hurt us but maybe their approach is the best for us based on our temperament.
Whichever way, two things are important:
1. Be wise enough like the old cow to eat the hay and spew the straw. Look beyond his method and pick his wisdom in correcting you.
Grow beyond the hurt and embarrass his wisdom.
2. Be teachable, humble and meek.
The Pharisee couldn’t benefit from Jesus because they were unteachable and too full of pride.
Humbly accept his correction and rebuke.
We all had parents whose approach in dealing with us was not totally correct, but once we accept their method, we are better for it.
So wives, you are not alone. It’s all part of the package.
Sometimes, we may not be appreciated or understood.
Never mind, our reward is sure. And you know what?
God Himself is our shield and exceeding great reward.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am a faithful wife, humble, meek and teachable
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, help me to humbly receive my husband as my head and submit to him
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
For we know that all things work together for good for those that love the Lord.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
I accept my husband as God gift to me
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
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Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.