Priest: ‘You may now kiss the bride’.
Priest: ‘By the power vested on me, I now pronounce you, Husband and Wife”.
Those are the sweetest words filling the ears of the newest couple.
The long awaited pronouncement.
Finally, they are now Mr and Mrs.
How nice, how sweet and how wonderful?
Every single is looking forward to that day and those words.
But how many couples remember those words with smiles on their faces, and joy in their hearts?
Don’t let us be like the husband who kept on looking at his marriage certificate for a long time. A friend finally approached him, and he said, “I am looking for the expiry date whether it is written there”
Obviously, the man is fed up of the marriage. He is thinking of a divorce.
Or another man, who was watching his wedding video in the reverse and kept smiling. He reached the place where he removed the ring from his wife’s finger, and he kept watching that part, thinking, how good it would be!
The two men in this funny story are actually frustrated at the marriage.
Is it that they didn’t love their spouse?
Is it that they married the wrong person?
Is it that there is something wrong with the marriage institution?
Is God no longer interested in marriage?
Is it that marriage is just a necessary evil and that love indeed gets sour with time?
The answers to these question most of the time is a ‘NO’.
Their spouse is the love of their lives and most likely a very wonderful person, and God is still very interested about marriage and love does not get sour.
Actually, marriage was instituted by God to last.
The wine of the marriage covenant is meant to get sweeter as it gets older.
Marriage is till death do us part.
And God has not packaged any one to suffer till death do us part.
There are principles on how to run your marriage so it will not run aground.
There are God laid down rules for every couple to live by.
Pro 11:14 Where no counsel [is], the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors [there is] safety.
Failure to follow these principles will only lead to struggle and apparent destruction of the marriage.
In other words, our marriages are in our hands.
We can pull them down with our own hands or build it up with our hands.
The choice is ours.
That’s why God has placed in my husband’s heart and hands to help bring out some of these principles.
We will do ourselves a lot of good to listen and learn, unlearn and relearn some of the principles that are not necessarily bad but wont just work for our marriage.
It’s time to be serious students of the institution of Marriage.
Don’t let us be forgetful hearers but doers of the word we hear.
Jam 1:22 But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.
Let us not deceive ourselves. We must be ready to learn new ways.
Unlearn old ways that are not moving us forward and re-learn principles that will make our marriage work.
The principles of God are not automatic they are manual. You have do your own part and do it well.
Mar 2:22 And no man putteth new wine into old bottles: else the new wine doth burst the bottles, and the wine is spilled, and the bottles will be marred: but new wine must be put into new bottles.
Let us be ready for what God wants to do in our marriages this year.
God bless your marriage
Confession for the day
My marriage shall last in Jesus name.
Prayer for the day
Lord, help me to follow the principles that will make my marriage last
Thought of the day
God’s Principles are manual not automatic. I have to apply what I learn
Follow the principles that you learn here
Sophia Bolanle Okunowo pastors alongside her husband at Shouts Of Grace Center in Ibadan. She is an administrator with a Health Provider company. She desires to see marriages blessed and fulfilling it’s purpose.