My fiancée wants us to live apart when married. I'll be in Lagos while he will be in Ibadan. All this arrangement is due to work. Ibadan will be our base and I will be travelling down every time the opportunity surfaces. How can we make it work as I want to live with...

Finding difficult to get wet for my husband, have tried several to be wet before making out, but it has not been fruitful, what can I do to improve it  

Good morning sir,Pls, sir, my question is about finance in marriage.My husband believes as a wife, I am supposed to be submitting my salary to him for him to join to his own salary and run the home from it. That anything I need and the house need we write the list...

I dated this guy while in my 200L and I was 17, he was 25. It wasn't as if the relationship was the best but ever since I broke up with him in my 400L, I find it Soo hard to date other guys. I keep thinking and comparing other guys to him. What can I do?  

Dear Pastor I'm a newly married woman, just a month into marriage, my husband has been transferred from our state of residence to another state far from me, I have so much anger and bitterness. I tried to stop him from going but he insisted, he left just 2 weeks after...

Ok so my question goes like this I have someone I'm dating, and we talk and communicate, but when he asked me a question, I give him my opinion but he sometimes makes my opinion feel like I am a bad person. For example, we were meant to go to the beach, but he didn't...

My husband wants me to take a loan from my workplace to put into the car business while the loan repayments will be collected from my salary monthly for the next two years because I am fully sure he will not pay back because I have tried giving him money in the past...

My husband is not a salary earner but I am, he is a pastor and supports the ministry with the car business which is not an every-time income thing, and we have a large family, 5 kids, and a helper cos I work in d bank all together 8 members in the family. my problem...

My wife is too harsh. I have been coping with this for a long time but now I am getting frustrated by her attitude. How do I confront her?

We got married 2 months ago and I am already fed up. He said he preferred his food fresh everyday while we were courting and I thought it was no big deal but now I feel depressed and purposeless. All I do is house chores, I have no time for myself. I practically live...

I am a Christian who walks with the Holy Spirit like any of our brethren. I do nothing without Him.He talked to me concerning my relationship for marriage in 2020 and then in 2021 and both communication completed each other. And exactly according to the last...

I have been dating this guy for 1year and one monthA few weeks into the relationship I noticed he lies, and lying is a turn-off for me. I confronted him after discovering his several lies which he promised not to lie again.In fact, his mum also confirmed that he lies...

Dear Sir,I am a single lady in her late twenties, believing God for a good spouse. I met a charming man who ticks all the boxes, also very caring. A quality I want in a man. He is proposing marriage, however he has been married before. Is it worth it at all? What does...

i FEEL MY WIFE IS PAYING TOO MUCH ATTENTION TO MINISTERIAL WORK THAN THE HOME. I SOMETIMES GET ANGRY WHENEVER SHE HAS TO ATTENTD TO PRAYER OR STUDY. WE ARE MINISTERS THOUGH. BUT I SEE THAT DEVOTION WITH THE CHILDREN IS NOT AS CONSISTENT AS HER ATTENTION TO EXTERNAL...

We have been married for 2 years and we have not had penetrative sex, she complains of pain all the time and is tired all the time we tried. We later discovered that she has vaginismus which makes sex impossible and attempts to penetrate painful. All advice is to use...

My wife is a career woman. She always complains of tiredness anytime we are supposed to get intimate. Averagely we have sex twice a month and I feel so unsatisfied. I have tried everything I know, and I am at the edge of compromise please help!  

I have a lot of female friends and I try to be open with my wife. But now, she said she will only be happy if I disconnect from them, which I find ridiculous. Please, what do you think? Should I make my wife happy by disconnecting from them while I lose my...

I met this amazing and beautiful lady during a work visit to her company, we exchanged numbers, and six months down the line we started dating because really she met all my expectations. Recently after introducing her to my mother; which was a very pleasant event, my...

He is not born again and I know. But I love him so much. I love him, and the thought of leaving him will make me shiver and cry. And yet I know this is not God's plan for me. No sex yet, but if he asks, I am not sure I can say No! What should I do? I am just 21 years...

My wife hates cooking. It has caused a lot of fight. I go hungry most times or end up preparing my food by myself and she has refused to change. What should I do?

My wife has no time for our little boy because of her work. She leaves early and closes late. In fact, I am the mummy of the house, cooking and cleaning the house, taking care of the boy, because I get home earlier, while she is the daddy of the house. She comes home,...

There is a lady that she would be 31 and on the big side while there is one of 26 but not given me attention. I am 32years. Everything seems okay about the 31 years old lady but she is the one doing the chasing. I am not really chasing her. What can I do

My sister's friend's husband has impregnated their housemaid, a girl of about 16 who has been with them for like 2 years. This lady is 2 years older than her husband and is the breadwinner of the family. She is always busy. She goes out with the girl to her place of...

I've been married for over 2 years nowAlthough I married as a virginBut having sex has been an issue for me. Penetration seems difficult and painfulWe've tried the hospital and I've been diagnosed with having a narrow Virginal pathway (this is how I can explain it for...

We're married, almost eighteen years ago with 3 children. I can't report my wife to anyone, I swallow every thing alone. Any attempt is counterproductive. What should I do sir/ ma

I'm in a four-month-old relationship. We both love God and the things if God. We are both committed to our local assembly.  However, we have serious doctrinal issues, especially in the area of prayers. How do we settle it?

We met back on campus and dated for over two years. He graduated before I did and got a well-paying job after I graduated I was posted to a very place but he wasn't happy about it and he wanted me to redeploy. I wasn't sure I want to because I would have to lie to get...

I met this young man two years ago in UK when I went for my Msc and I decided to date him after having a conviction in my heart about him but something happened a few months ago when one of his friends came around and we all hung out but to my surprise, the guy was my...

My wife has been denying me sex for weeks now.I understand she's gone through a lot as a growing-up young girl, but she keeps refusing help to speak to someone who can help, claiming those mentors have also got their own issues not resolved. I am tempted to go out and...

How does one handle a lot of "can we see" by brothers? Most come from the point of "so I can get to know you," let's just talk, just to see......and you don't want to be seen around with people anyhow, you also don't have all the time Yes, you know you will marry a...

Is it right for a child of God and a Christian brother to deny his wife of 7 years of a legal marriage certificate after getting married in church knowing fully well that the certificate is very important for his wife?And he is trying to claim a legal right to the...

What should I do, knowing that I am having an issue of 30 seconds (premature ejaculation) as a man, after praying and giving and trying all treatments both herbs and prescribed medicines, still same problem. Thinking of staying single due to this embarrassing illness,...

I am a single lady of 38 years, a Christian and I cherish my relationship with God. I come from a closely-knit family and am the second to the last child. I am writing this having just dried my tears so I can see clearly. I have been praying to God for not just a...

My husband always wants me to submit my money and we spend it together but he doesn't carry me along with his own money but though he spends it for the family. What do I do? I want to know how and when his money is coming in too.  

I caught my husband cheating and challenged him, but he denied it. When I later gave my evidences, he was shocked. Since then he has been keeping to himself. How do I win him back and how do I trust him again . Like I am afraid he might contract a sexually transmitted...

My wife works with a financial institution and earns four times more than I do. I pay about 80% of the bills but things are getting expensive by the day. She has refused to take up some financial responsibilities, despite my explanations, saying that's the "job" of...

My parents want me to marry the son of their business partner who is not handsome nor appealing, though rich. I don't like him, not to talk of love. I don't know how to handle my parents and I don't want to displease them. What can I do?  

My husband’s mother is a witch. This I can confirm. My husband has no clue, but this woman will appear to me in my dreams and be stomping on my chest. I don’t know how to tell him. I planned to tell our Pastor this coming week. My husband is so close to him that he is...

My wife never listens to anything and she is very disrespectful. I don’t know what else to do, even our Pastor has intervened, yet no solution. How can a woman be that stubborn and strong-willed? Sometimes I think she doesn’t want this marriage because, in our five...

My husband has been sleeping in the sitting room for the past three weeks. He has not touched me, neither has he come back to the bedroom. He was the one that offended me and shouted at me and yet he is still the one getting angry. I don’t understand exactly what he...

How does a full time minister survive in a ministry where he is not paid stipend, how will he provide for his family. Is it advisable to marry such a man? What else can he do in order not to depend on his church members for help. What can the wife to be do to support...

I caught my husband cheating, and he apologized and showed remorse. But I haven't been able to trust him again. I told him to sever every contact with the side chick, he said he has, but I don't know why I am not believing him. Have been looking for a way to get...

I'd been friends with this guy for close to 9 years before he opened up about his feelings for me. We were getting along well until late last year when I suddenly noticed he distanced himself from me. I finally confronted him about it, he said he felt I was...

My husband is someone looking to go into ministry and I am aware, he doesn't work, initially, he said God instructed him not to work but looking to work for a ministry that was permitted but the ministry has refused to recruit. He is so broke, in fact, the funding of...

Good morning. I'm married but find it hard to ask for money from my husband. I know we talked about money before marriage but I can't remember what we said. We are both workerS and I think perchance we have indirectly agreed on me using my money for household expenses...

I really don't know how to start but as a divorcee, God helped me to stay for 3 years without even thinking of getting close to any man, I was deeply in service and God raised helpers for me. I got a job and recovered from the effect of the past. The job is so...

Good morning sir. I would like to seek your advice about this matter. Before long (early 2022), my current fiance proposed marriage and went to meet my pastor. My pastor got to find out that he's yet to be a committed worker in his own local church, however during...

Hello Pastor, I've been in a relationship with a guy for 2 years, He has done the knocking about 8 months ago.My fiancé is financially down, though he is working but things are not going well for him at all.He doesn't even have a penny in the bank to do some small...

I discovered recently that my husband has been dating a girl since 2018. He rented an apartment for her and has been giving her a monthly allowance since then. They are even planning to marry without my knowledge but the girl insisted that I must be aware before her...

It's been 5 years now since I got married to my husband. But any time I am in need of his help financially he must have one excuse or another other but he used to go out of his comfort zone for his family no matter what.    

My friend is a married man, a minister in the church, and got involved with a female member of the church, somehow, I found out and advised him not to do such again. Several months later his wife got to know. He apologized to his wife for his actions. Instead of him...

I'm a lady who is not used to communicating consistently with guys. There's one of my male colleagues I often talk to nowadays. But I feel worried. It's been enjoyable discussing with him. My instinct is to pull back though he's done nothing wrong. I'm just worried...

We've been kingdom friends for a year, and recently he asked for my hand in marriage. I am 2 years older than him... Should I go ahead to marry him?... We seem to get along and have a lot in common.