I Lost Myself As A 5-Year-Old and Too Many Bad Things Happened
Shalom, I will make my story direct to the point.At 5 years old I was raped at the back of the altar in the church by a man. I would say his age will be around 27-33 years old of age. Honestly, as a little girl, I was always happy, cheerful, and very smart in school....
We Have Doctrinal Differences
I'm in a four-month-old relationship. We both love God and the things if God. We are both committed to our local assembly. However, we have serious doctrinal issues, especially in the area of prayers. How do we settle it?
My husband would not allow me to do My Masters
I want to go for my Masters in UK for a year and a half, but my husband would not allow me for God knows why. Please what can I do as I am a career woman?
He wants me to redeploy
We met back on campus and dated for over two years. He graduated before I did and got a well-paying job after I graduated I was posted to a very place but he wasn't happy about it and he wanted me to redeploy. I wasn't sure I want to because I would have to lie to get...
My boss who is a lady is interested in me
My boss who is a lady seems to be interested in me, how can I handle this? She has not said anything but from her body language and the gifts she gives me, she will soon say something. My wife must hear this kind of thing or there will be hell. Please, advise me.
I Lied About My Ex
I met this young man two years ago in UK when I went for my Msc and I decided to date him after having a conviction in my heart about him but something happened a few months ago when one of his friends came around and we all hung out but to my surprise, the guy was my...
My Wife Has Been Denying Me Intimacy For Weeks
My wife has been denying me sex for weeks now.I understand she's gone through a lot as a growing-up young girl, but she keeps refusing help to speak to someone who can help, claiming those mentors have also got their own issues not resolved. I am tempted to go out and...
My Sister’s Husband Wants To Sleep With Me
I lost my parent to a ghastly accident many years ago and since then I've been living with my elder sister, she and her husband have been so kind to me but recently her husband sneaked into my room to rape me but he failed. Ever since he's been threatening me to lie...
I am beginning to get attracted to my wife’s best friend
I am beginning to get attracted to my wife's best friend who visits our house daily but I don't know how to handle this. What should I do?
Can We Get Intimate During Fasting and Prayer?
Please is it Proper to engage in sex during Fasting and prayer? I am a newlywed and my church just started its 21 days of fasting and prayer. I have been avoiding sex with my husband and he seems to be unhappy about it. Am I doing anything wrong? Thanks.
My wife has been in United Kingdom for more than a year
My wife has been in the United Kingdom for more than a year for her studies. I have been trying to cope here without compromising but it has been challenging. I don't have enough finances to join her. Now, she is saying she wants to work for a while to make money!Who...
Can we see?
How does one handle a lot of "can we see" by brothers? Most come from the point of "so I can get to know you," let's just talk, just to see......and you don't want to be seen around with people anyhow, you also don't have all the time Yes, you know you will marry a...
My Partners Is Obsessed With Another Lady
I seem not to understand my fiancé these days, we can’t have a talk for just a few minutes without mentioning a lady in his office. We've had a serious issue about it and he kept saying there is nothing between them but anytime we're discussing he always mentions her...
After 7 Years Of Marriage And Church Wedding No Government Legal Marriage Certificate
Is it right for a child of God and a Christian brother to deny his wife of 7 years of a legal marriage certificate after getting married in church knowing fully well that the certificate is very important for his wife?And he is trying to claim a legal right to the...
26 Years of Unfaithfulness, Secrecy, and Lies
We have been married for over 26 years. After living apart for 20 years due to work, episodes of unfaithfulness, secrecy/lies, and general habitual apathy towards the family, I am unsure why he asked for my hand in marriage in the first place.
I Want To Quit My Relationship; He spends more time with other girls
I have been dating a widower with 4 children. We started dating 7 months after the demise of his wife in 2021. My relationship with him has lasted for about 1 year and 6 months now. Initially, when we started this relationship, he never told me he wanted a kind of...
Premature Ejaculation: I am a 30-Second Man
What should I do, knowing that I am having an issue of 30 seconds (premature ejaculation) as a man, after praying and giving and trying all treatments both herbs and prescribed medicines, still same problem. Thinking of staying single due to this embarrassing illness,...
Broken, Pressurized, and Feeling Alone
I am a single lady of 38 years, a Christian and I cherish my relationship with God. I come from a closely-knit family and am the second to the last child. I am writing this having just dried my tears so I can see clearly. I have been praying to God for not just a...
Submission Of Your Money As A Wife
My husband always wants me to submit my money and we spend it together but he doesn't carry me along with his own money but though he spends it for the family. What do I do? I want to know how and when his money is coming in too.
Cheating Spouse
I caught my husband cheating and challenged him, but he denied it. When I later gave my evidences, he was shocked. Since then he has been keeping to himself. How do I win him back and how do I trust him again . Like I am afraid he might contract a sexually transmitted...
She Has Changed!
I met her in the UK when I went to for my masters and we got very well along, then after I finished my program I came back to Nigeria and we still kept in touch but when she arrived she began to behave as if we never met before and she wasn't willing to even introduce...
She’s Earning More Than Me and Yet Not Helping
My wife works with a financial institution and earns four times more than I do. I pay about 80% of the bills but things are getting expensive by the day. She has refused to take up some financial responsibilities, despite my explanations, saying that's the "job" of...
Everything He Says Is Always Right
I'm tired. Whatever I do or say in the house is not always right in his face. When my husband talks he must not hear me say a word because if I do he will hold on to my words. I'm tired of quarreling with him all-day
My parents wants me to marry the son of their business partner
My parents want me to marry the son of their business partner who is not handsome nor appealing, though rich. I don't like him, not to talk of love. I don't know how to handle my parents and I don't want to displease them. What can I do?
My Mother In-law is a witch
My husband’s mother is a witch. This I can confirm. My husband has no clue, but this woman will appear to me in my dreams and be stomping on my chest. I don’t know how to tell him. I planned to tell our Pastor this coming week. My husband is so close to him that he is...
My wife is too stubborn!
My wife never listens to anything and she is very disrespectful. I don’t know what else to do, even our Pastor has intervened, yet no solution. How can a woman be that stubborn and strong-willed? Sometimes I think she doesn’t want this marriage because, in our five...
My husband has not been sleeping in the bedroom
My husband has been sleeping in the sitting room for the past three weeks. He has not touched me, neither has he come back to the bedroom. He was the one that offended me and shouted at me and yet he is still the one getting angry. I don’t understand exactly what he...
Just Venting
I feel like being nice or having a good heart toward people has no reward. I just turned 30 and yet no serious relationship. I have been so dedicated and waiting on God and yet still don't understand. One of my ex who gave a flimsy excuse for a break up got married...
My husband does not do anything or give unless I Ask
How do I relate with my husband who always want me to ask for something before doing anything. He does not have a mind of doing anything without being pushed or asked to do it and even when I ask it ends in complains and how he needs to do this and that but he will...
I Find It Difficult To Ask My Husband For Money
Good day sir, thank you for the good work you and your beautiful wife are doing helping singles to choose wisely and helping the married have a good marriage. I listened to the answer given to the woman who said she finds it difficult asking her husband for money. I...
My Husband Is Not Being Paid
How does a full time minister survive in a ministry where he is not paid stipend, how will he provide for his family. Is it advisable to marry such a man? What else can he do in order not to depend on his church members for help. What can the wife to be do to support...
I Feel Like I Made A Mistake Getting Married
I feel like I made a serious mistake getting married and even marrying my husband in particular. And the major issues is our finance and my health. I have fibroids. It's becoming a serious issue by the day with my health, my husband running a seminary program and MBA...
I Caught My Husband Cheating
I caught my husband cheating, and he apologized and showed remorse. But I haven't been able to trust him again. I told him to sever every contact with the side chick, he said he has, but I don't know why I am not believing him. Have been looking for a way to get...
My Friend Doesn’t Want Us Together Anymore
I'd been friends with this guy for close to 9 years before he opened up about his feelings for me. We were getting along well until late last year when I suddenly noticed he distanced himself from me. I finally confronted him about it, he said he felt I was...
My Husband Said God Instructed Him Not To Work
My husband is someone looking to go into ministry and I am aware, he doesn't work, initially, he said God instructed him not to work but looking to work for a ministry that was permitted but the ministry has refused to recruit. He is so broke, in fact, the funding of...
Genotype Issues
Can I marry someone of AS genotype in the sake of love
My Husband Is Gaslighting Me, And Yet Everybody Thinks He Is Sweet
My husband is the sweetest person. Everyone thinks he is the best husband in the world. But I am suffocating, he manipulates me I can't even explain it. I am tired. He behaves like he supports me openly but makes me feel like I am not enough subtly. I used to live in...
Betrayed By My Husband, I Want To Retailaite With My Ex
I and my husband stay in different states because of work, he doesn't visit often. We have 3 kids. When I complain to him that he should be visiting more often, he'll say I am nagging and complaining too much, and that he's busy with work. He queried if I want him to...
I Suspect She Is Cheating; I Want To End it
Hello pastor, Thank you for this platform and opportunity.I have been seeing this lady for some months now, I am committed to the relationship and plan to get married soon. For some months, I have been suspecting that she's been cheating, but she ends up convincing me...
I Find It Hard To Ask For Money From My Husband
Good morning. I'm married but find it hard to ask for money from my husband. I know we talked about money before marriage but I can't remember what we said. We are both workerS and I think perchance we have indirectly agreed on me using my money for household expenses...
I Got Pregnant Outside Of Wedlock, He Doesn’t Want Me
I got pregnant in 2021 out of wedlock, he was aware then (though we didn’t date for so long before it happened) At first when the pregnancy happened he said he was happy but it was not the right time because he was not financially okay. To conclude, we aborted but I...
Emotional Involvement: Can I Marry A Muslim?
I really don't know how to start but as a divorcee, God helped me to stay for 3 years without even thinking of getting close to any man, I was deeply in service and God raised helpers for me. I got a job and recovered from the effect of the past. The job is so...
I Love Him But He Is Not Committed In His Church As A Worker
Good morning sir. I would like to seek your advice about this matter. Before long (early 2022), my current fiance proposed marriage and went to meet my pastor. My pastor got to find out that he's yet to be a committed worker in his own local church, however during...
Single Mum: I Fight A Lot With My Baby’s Father
How do I overcome this? I am a single mother and deeply love my baby's father but we fight a lot and don’t know how to deal with it. I feel I am deeply hurt about what he did to me. But I can't express it
He Doesn’t Have Money: Is This Waiting Or Time Wasting?
Hello Pastor, I've been in a relationship with a guy for 2 years, He has done the knocking about 8 months ago.My fiancé is financially down, though he is working but things are not going well for him at all.He doesn't even have a penny in the bank to do some small...
Venting, Question, and Answers: I Saw My Husband With A Strange Woman
I don't when know how to categorize my husband. When he was wooing me, he made me feel on top of the world and so special than every other person that had an interest in me then. He even went behind my back to threaten some of them to leave me alone then. He's a very...
I fell a victim of what I feared most
I am married with two kids at present. I got pregnant a little about two months before our wedding. But prior to that time, I have been having some kind of sexual relations (kissing, touching, and later on, sex) with my husband-to-be, which I wasn't quite comfortable...
I feel hurt and betrayed: What should i do?
I discovered recently that my husband has been dating a girl since 2018. He rented an apartment for her and has been giving her a monthly allowance since then. They are even planning to marry without my knowledge but the girl insisted that I must be aware before her...
My Husband Does Not Give Me Money
It's been 5 years now since I got married to my husband. But any time I am in need of his help financially he must have one excuse or another other but he used to go out of his comfort zone for his family no matter what.
My Minister Friend Got Involved With A Female Member
My friend is a married man, a minister in the church, and got involved with a female member of the church, somehow, I found out and advised him not to do such again. Several months later his wife got to know. He apologized to his wife for his actions. Instead of him...
He’s quiet and doesn’t talk
My fiance is the type that's quiet and doesn't talk much..but he hides under this to do some annoying thingsHe speaks to me casually as one would speak to his friend..there's nothing like pet names, no romantic words and this is a distant relationshipI've complained...
Tired Of Being Single
I joined a Christian dating App, prayed, and fasted to be connected to a God-fearing man. It seems God has forgotten me, he answers my other requests but not this. I will be 36 years by November. I am tired of people asking me if the wedding is holding, and I am tired...
Proper Or Improper – My Husband Betrayed My Trust
My husband betrayed my trust with a colleague and they still work closely together without any mention of the closeness to me and she makes requests which I feel are not right which I happen to know by coincidence. Am I wrong to expect him to be open of any...
Scared of my feelings
I'm a lady who is not used to communicating consistently with guys. There's one of my male colleagues I often talk to nowadays. But I feel worried. It's been enjoyable discussing with him. My instinct is to pull back though he's done nothing wrong. I'm just worried...
Counsel: My Husband Doesn’t Appreciate Me
My husband is a man of God, we have a song and drama ministry. I handle the song, I am a song minister. My issue is that my husband doesn't appreciate me at all, no matter what I do, the members of the ministry disrespect me in his presence, and he won't say anything...
Question: Should I Marry?
We've been kingdom friends for a year, and recently he asked for my hand in marriage. I am 2 years older than him... Should I go ahead to marry him?... We seem to get along and have a lot in common.
I Aborted Eleven Times Before Wedding
Thank you Pastor for this opportunity. I wasn't a bad girl. But I was entangled with a big sister who misled me and organized her boyfriend to disvirgin me just to punish me for being rude. I thought it would end there, but it didn't. I was now the one looking for sex...