Question

Is it wrong to visit your partner as a lady at least twice a month? Especially when you live in the same City. Does it make one lose her value when you finally get married?  

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What should I do

Married for the past 19years but separated for 18 years due to violence. We have a child together but spouse remarried and has other children. Can I remarry without formal divorce proceedings or remain a single parent for life...asking for

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Genotype

Rev'd often mentions how he saw Pastor Sophia as his wife in a dream before he met her. If, after meeting her, the genotype check had not been a match, would you have gone ahead with the relationship?

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Unagreeable parents

I have a friend I want to get married to but my family isn't agreeing because of her tribe. I'm igbo and she's not. I've exhausted all possible means to talk to them, make them understand and see my standpoint but they've vehemently refused. The girls family accepted...

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Distance Marriage

My fiancée wants us to live apart when married. I'll be in Lagos while he will be in Ibadan. All this arrangement is due to work. Ibadan will be our base and I will be travelling down every time the opportunity surfaces. How can we make it work as I want to live with...

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Submitting your salary to your husband

Good morning sir,Pls, sir, my question is about finance in marriage.My husband believes as a wife, I am supposed to be submitting my salary to him for him to join to his own salary and run the home from it. That anything I need and the house need we write the list...

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Can’t Get Over My Ex

I dated this guy while in my 200L and I was 17, he was 25. It wasn't as if the relationship was the best but ever since I broke up with him in my 400L, I find it Soo hard to date other guys. I keep thinking and comparing other guys to him. What can I do?  

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Please, I need help!

I don't know how to handle my wife anymore. I'm getting more tired every day. My wife is a good woman but she's so jealous that it makes me sick. She suspects every move I take that I'm so sick of the distrust. I have never cheated on her and never will. But I can't...

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My House Is On Fire

My husband and I were married in the year 2020. The foundation upon which we got married was wrong. As a Christian I know fornication is a sin but when I found out that I was pregnant, based on that, and got married. In fact, I was regretful that things had happened...

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Long Distance Marriage For Newly Wed

Dear Pastor I'm a newly married woman, just a month into marriage, my husband has been transferred from our state of residence to another state far from me, I have so much anger and bitterness. I tried to stop him from going but he insisted, he left just 2 weeks after...

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My Fiancee Make Me Feel I Am A Bad Person

Ok so my question goes like this I have someone I'm dating, and we talk and communicate, but when he asked me a question, I give him my opinion but he sometimes makes my opinion feel like I am a bad person. For example, we were meant to go to the beach, but he didn't...

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How Do I Sort Out This Financial Issue?

My husband wants me to take a loan from my workplace to put into the car business while the loan repayments will be collected from my salary monthly for the next two years because I am fully sure he will not pay back because I have tried giving him money in the past...

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Money Issues With My Spouse

My husband is not a salary earner but I am, he is a pastor and supports the ministry with the car business which is not an every-time income thing, and we have a large family, 5 kids, and a helper cos I work in d bank all together 8 members in the family. my problem...

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Marital delay

Good morning Pastor, I want to vent this morning.Why does it seem God is taking the time to answer my marital prayers? I have been praying for marriage since I was 22 and I'm 32 now, what is it I'm doing wrong?I pray, fast, give, put myself out there and I am a good...

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Should I take her back?

I thought she had the same feelings as me, I thought she was the best woman on earth, I thought she was ready to be with me through thick and thin until things changed for me, I lost my job, nothing was working and before I could say Jack Robinson she came up with...

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Am I an Househelp or Helpmeet?

We got married 2 months ago and I am already fed up. He said he preferred his food fresh everyday while we were courting and I thought it was no big deal but now I feel depressed and purposeless. All I do is house chores, I have no time for myself. I practically live...

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I am getting depressed.

Good evening pastorI have been doing business but this time around, everything went wrong, all my capital is gone, and still owed a lot of people as much as #300K, I have tried paying it little by little, but the interest that is accumulating is not helping me.This...

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Age Issue between me and the chosen one

I am a Christian who walks with the Holy Spirit like any of our brethren. I do nothing without Him.He talked to me concerning my relationship for marriage in 2020 and then in 2021 and both communication completed each other. And exactly according to the last...

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Ministry and balance in family

i FEEL MY WIFE IS PAYING TOO MUCH ATTENTION TO MINISTERIAL WORK THAN THE HOME. I SOMETIMES GET ANGRY WHENEVER SHE HAS TO ATTENTD TO PRAYER OR STUDY. WE ARE MINISTERS THOUGH. BUT I SEE THAT DEVOTION WITH THE CHILDREN IS NOT AS CONSISTENT AS HER ATTENTION TO EXTERNAL...

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I’m Tired Of Her Silence And Withdrawal

We've known each other for almost 10 years now since we grew up in the same village but I decided to ask her out about 4 months ago. I noticed that she picks offence easily especially when I try correcting her, the most recent one was when I jokingly said something...

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My Wife Is The Daddy of The House

My wife has no time for our little boy because of her work. She leaves early and closes late. In fact, I am the mummy of the house, cooking and cleaning the house, taking care of the boy, because I get home earlier, while she is the daddy of the house. She comes home,...

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I am confused.

There is a lady that she would be 31 and on the big side while there is one of 26 but not given me attention. I am 32years. Everything seems okay about the 31 years old lady but she is the one doing the chasing. I am not really chasing her. What can I do

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The Househelp Is Pregnant

My sister's friend's husband has impregnated their housemaid, a girl of about 16 who has been with them for like 2 years. This lady is 2 years older than her husband and is the breadwinner of the family. She is always busy. She goes out with the girl to her place of...

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Difficulty In Having Sex

I've been married for over 2 years nowAlthough I married as a virginBut having sex has been an issue for me. Penetration seems difficult and painfulWe've tried the hospital and I've been diagnosed with having a narrow Virginal pathway (this is how I can explain it for...

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We Have Doctrinal Differences

I'm in a four-month-old relationship. We both love God and the things if God. We are both committed to our local assembly.  However, we have serious doctrinal issues, especially in the area of prayers. How do we settle it?

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He wants me to redeploy

We met back on campus and dated for over two years. He graduated before I did and got a well-paying job after I graduated I was posted to a very place but he wasn't happy about it and he wanted me to redeploy. I wasn't sure I want to because I would have to lie to get...

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I Lied About My Ex

I met this young man two years ago in UK when I went for my Msc and I decided to date him after having a conviction in my heart about him but something happened a few months ago when one of his friends came around and we all hung out but to my surprise, the guy was my...

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My Wife Has Been Denying Me Intimacy For Weeks

My wife has been denying me sex for weeks now.I understand she's gone through a lot as a growing-up young girl, but she keeps refusing help to speak to someone who can help, claiming those mentors have also got their own issues not resolved. I am tempted to go out and...

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My Sister’s Husband Wants To Sleep With Me

I lost my parent to a ghastly accident many years ago and since then I've been living with my elder sister, she and her husband have been so kind to me but recently her husband sneaked into my room to rape me but he failed. Ever since he's been threatening me to lie...

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Can we see?

How does one handle a lot of "can we see" by brothers? Most come from the point of "so I can get to know you," let's just talk, just to see......and you don't want to be seen around with people anyhow, you also don't have all the time Yes, you know you will marry a...

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My Partners Is Obsessed With Another Lady

I seem not to understand my fiancé these days, we can’t have a talk for just a few minutes without mentioning a lady in his office. We've had a serious issue about it and he kept saying there is nothing between them but anytime we're discussing he always mentions her...

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Premature Ejaculation: I am a 30-Second Man

What should I do, knowing that I am having an issue of 30 seconds (premature ejaculation) as a man, after praying and giving and trying all treatments both herbs and prescribed medicines, still same problem. Thinking of staying single due to this embarrassing illness,...

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Broken, Pressurized, and Feeling Alone

I am a single lady of 38 years, a Christian and I cherish my relationship with God. I come from a closely-knit family and am the second to the last child. I am writing this having just dried my tears so I can see clearly. I have been praying to God for not just a...

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Submission Of Your Money As A Wife

My husband always wants me to submit my money and we spend it together but he doesn't carry me along with his own money but though he spends it for the family. What do I do? I want to know how and when his money is coming in too.  

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Cheating Spouse

I caught my husband cheating and challenged him, but he denied it. When I later gave my evidences, he was shocked. Since then he has been keeping to himself. How do I win him back and how do I trust him again . Like I am afraid he might contract a sexually transmitted...

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She Has Changed!

I met her in the UK when I went to for my masters and we got very well along, then after I finished my program I came back to Nigeria and we still kept in touch but when she arrived she began to behave as if we never met before and she wasn't willing to even introduce...

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My Mother In-law is a witch

My husband’s mother is a witch. This I can confirm. My husband has no clue, but this woman will appear to me in my dreams and be stomping on my chest. I don’t know how to tell him. I planned to tell our Pastor this coming week. My husband is so close to him that he is...

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My wife is too stubborn!

My wife never listens to anything and she is very disrespectful. I don’t know what else to do, even our Pastor has intervened, yet no solution. How can a woman be that stubborn and strong-willed? Sometimes I think she doesn’t want this marriage because, in our five...

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Just Venting

I feel like being nice or having a good heart toward people has no reward. I just turned 30 and yet no serious relationship. I have been so dedicated and waiting on God and yet still don't understand. One of my ex who gave a flimsy excuse for a break up got married...

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My Husband Is Not Being Paid

How does a full time minister survive in a ministry where he is not paid stipend, how will he provide for his family. Is it advisable to marry such a man? What else can he do in order not to depend on his church members for help. What can the wife to be do to support...

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I Feel Like I Made A Mistake Getting Married

I feel like I made a serious mistake getting married and even marrying my husband in particular. And the major issues is our finance and my health. I have fibroids. It's becoming a serious issue by the day with my health, my husband running a seminary program and MBA...

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I Caught My Husband Cheating

I caught my husband cheating, and he apologized and showed remorse. But I haven't been able to trust him again. I told him to sever every contact with the side chick, he said he has, but I don't know why I am not believing him. Have been looking for a way to get...

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I Suspect She Is Cheating; I Want To End it

Hello pastor, Thank you for this platform and opportunity.I have been seeing this lady for some months now, I am committed to the relationship and plan to get married soon. For some months, I have been suspecting that she's been cheating, but she ends up convincing me...

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I fell a victim of what I feared most

I am married with two kids at present. I got pregnant a little about two months before our wedding. But prior to that time, I have been having some kind of sexual relations (kissing, touching, and later on, sex) with my husband-to-be,  which I wasn't quite comfortable...

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I feel hurt and betrayed: What should i do?

I discovered recently that my husband has been dating a girl since 2018. He rented an apartment for her and has been giving her a monthly allowance since then. They are even planning to marry without my knowledge but the girl insisted that I must be aware before her...

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My Husband Does Not Give Me Money

It's been 5 years now since I got married to my husband. But any time I am in need of his help financially he must have one excuse or another other but he used to go out of his comfort zone for his family no matter what.    

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He’s quiet and doesn’t talk

My fiance is the type that's quiet and doesn't talk much..but he hides under this to do some annoying thingsHe speaks to me casually as one would speak to his friend..there's nothing like pet names, no romantic words and this is a distant relationshipI've complained...

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Tired Of Being Single

I joined a Christian dating App, prayed, and fasted to be connected to a God-fearing man. It seems God has forgotten me, he answers my other requests but not this. I will be 36 years by November. I am tired of people asking me if the wedding is holding, and I am tired...

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Scared of my feelings

I'm a lady who is not used to communicating consistently with guys. There's one of my male colleagues I often talk to nowadays. But I feel worried. It's been enjoyable discussing with him. My instinct is to pull back though he's done nothing wrong. I'm just worried...

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Counsel: My Husband Doesn’t Appreciate Me

My husband is a man of God, we have a song and drama ministry. I handle the song, I am a song minister. My issue is that my husband doesn't appreciate me at all, no matter what I do, the members of the ministry disrespect me in his presence, and he won't say anything...

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Question: Should I Marry?

We've been kingdom friends for a year, and recently he asked for my hand in marriage. I am 2 years older than him... Should I go ahead to marry him?... We seem to get along and have a lot in common.

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I Aborted Eleven Times Before Wedding

Thank you Pastor for this opportunity. I wasn't a bad girl. But I was entangled with a big sister who misled me and organized her boyfriend to disvirgin me just to punish me for being rude. I thought it would end there, but it didn't. I was now the one looking for sex...

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